Mom says the way I answer her is rude and spoiled
Hello hello, this post is just a LONG rant, just telling y'all.
**TL;DR**
**I believe I'm returning the attitude my mother is giving me when she yells at me (but in a calmer, more sassy way), which is the same attitude she calls rude/ spoiled.**
Idk her behavior towards me is kinda hot and cold if that makes sense?? Sometimes she's very nice, but often she gets upset and yells at me for the dumbest reasons 😭🙏 Like today when I couldn't hear her calling my name because I was in the laundy room eating an apple, then when I heard her she kept asking me why I couldn't hear her, why I was in the laundry room and why I just couldn't be in the kitchen. Naturally, I responded with my true reasoning since I have no reason to lie: "Because I wanted to". Then she kept on rambling abt it, so to cut her off I asked: "what did you want?". Wrong dialog option apparently, since she started telling me that I always answered her in a rude and spoiled way 😐.
This isn't the first time she has said this to me, but mind you, in no way shape or form was this said in a malicious way. I'd even argue that it was said in a pretty neutral tone. Now, were my words poorly chosen? Yes, I admit that, and I do admit that I can have an attitude when I answer her. But at the same time, if she's yelling at me/ raising her voice and nitpicking at me as often as she does, she has to expect that I retort somehow to at least defend myself a little bit??. And even if I don't answer her while she's just going off on me (which I usually don't), she keps saying: "Oh, you're irritated at/ tired of me now, aren't you?". Like yes I am (I'm not saying that to her face tho 😬), cuz It's 9 am and you're yelling at me because I had the Bible in my bag and not in my room 😭🙏. Just tell me to put it in my room normally please and I'll do it.
Anyways, after she told me that the way I respond to her was rude/ spoiled, I apologized and said that it wasn't my intent for it to come out that way. She responded with "Good that you at least can do that". 😐
Yes, good that I am more emotionally mature than you 😭. The last time you apologized to me because you yelled over something stupid was when I was 7 and started crying in front of you and you told me that it was just your way of calming down. At least I can regulate my emotions in a better way than you, because notice how I don't act the way I do around you with anyone else or don't get angry/ annoyed around them?? In addition to that, I have never once raised my voice against someone when I was mad or irittated at them, or stressed for that matter, because I consider it to be immature and disrespectful. I believe disagreements should be discussed normally and not in a screaming match, but my mom makes it hard to do that.
Personally, I believe that I'm just returning the attitude she's giving me. I feel bad tho, since it still is my mom after all and maybe I just am spoiled/ rude with the way I respond without thinking ablut it. My mind might just be me-biased. Anyways, working on my personality now and cleaning my room so that she doesn't have anything else to yell at me about 🥹✌️
Sorry to vent like this. It might not make sense, but needed it to get out of my system 😬 Any errors in spelling, grammar, etc. comes from my disdain of the English language (I'm not double checking what I wrote cuz I'm gonna cringe).
Have a great day folks