People asking for help without asking for help
When a coworker hums and haws and makes a show of doing a task incorrectly/inefficiently so someone else will take over.
When a friend, before parting ways, says, "It's gonna be a cold walk home for me...", then, as you're driving him home, says, "I don't like this song."
When a flatmate sees you in the kitchen boiling the jug and says, "Man, I could go for a cup of tea right now."
When a dinner date projects their voice so the waiter at the next table can hear them gripe about how hard it is to get good service these days.
Innocuous statements? Sometimes. Deliberate psychological warfare preying on your sympathies? Perchance.
Dramatics aside, cognitively I am aware that people do say things off-handedly sometimes, whether they're accidentally saying their thoughts out loud or simply seeking common ground, but in situations where that's not the case, I'm no longer tolerant of people avoiding the word 'please'. Half of the time when a statement like those examples is indirectly directed at me, I'm actually able and willing to help out - if they had used their manners. There've been a few times where someone has tried the above tactic on me, been ignored, and then asked properly, which I respond to.
I want to be kind and helpful, it feels good. My issue is that I resent being made to feel as though I'm obligated by societal expectation to lessen another's burden just because they're in proximity. I'd rather do something for you because I like you, because you'd do the same for me, or even because hey, I'm headed to the break room anyway, sure I'll refill your water bottle.
Let me know if I'm just a jaded old man yelling at kids to get off my lawn lmao.