r/PetPeeves

I’m talking about when you‘re out with people for the day or on a trip or whatever, and no one of ever seems to be hungry. Like, it’s been 5+ hours since the last meal and when you bring up dinner everyone’s just kind of noncommittally like ”oh yeah, let’s go to (thing/place) and then maybe we can start looking for a place for dinner.” No matter what they say, that “thing” is going to take at least an hour longer than everyone thinks, and everyone’s still going to screw around before you actually walk into a place and sit down to dinner.

I’ve tried mitigating this by saying “I am getting hungry and will need dinner within the next hour“, and things still get drawn out by hours. I’ve also tried calmly and nicely saying “I’m too hungry to wait so I’m going to eat but I’ll meet up with you right here after you go to (blank)!”, and despite having been warned that I’d do this far ahead of time, everyone then overreacts like I’m about to drop dead and they agree to have food now but act as though theyre being SO accommodating and I’m being SO dramatic about it.

I also can’t stand when the solution to me being hungry at a reasonable dinner time is “oh I have a granola bar!” …. I don’t want a granola bar, I want….food. Like a meal. Maybe you've heard of meals before? Some people even eat them multiple times a day?

this will always, always baffle me.

I desperately need people to understand that “aluminum free deodorant” marketing is a complete and total scam, and no, it’s not because aluminum free deodorant “doesn’t work.”

By default, every deodorant is and ALWAYS HAS BEEN aluminum free, but nowadays there’s a giant “ALL NATURAL ALUMINUM FREE” label smacked on the front of every stick and people will pay more for it because they “don’t want to get cancer” from the aluminum.

Alternatively, there’s people that complain about deodorant “not working” and that they need “deodorant with aluminum” or else they’ll stink.

ANTIPERSPIRANT contains aluminum and there is no such thing as aluminum free antiperspirant because then it would just be deodorant. Yes, they are both things that we put under our arms to battle sweat and smell, and lots of people use the terms interchangeable, but they are certainly not the same thing.

1. Deodorant does not and never has contained aluminum. It simply masks the smell of your sweat.

2. Antiperspirant does contain aluminum. It helps you sweat and stink less because of this aluminum blocking your sweat glands. And no, it does not cause cancer. This has long been debunked. There is no credible evidence to support the claim that it causes cancer. Also, aluminum free antiperspirant does not exist because that would just be deodorant.

3. If you’re overpaying for “all natural aluminum free deodorant” because you think it’s unhealthy and you don’t want to get cancer you’re being scammed by Big Deodorant crunchy health marketing campaigns. Conversely, if you’re pissed that you can only find “all natural aluminum free deodorant” because it doesn’t work and you still stink, you’re simply buying the wrong product. You’re looking for antiperspirant.

I really needed to get this off my chest.

I see this online a lot. Someone will write an article with, for example, the topic “Traveling with your pet”, but “pet” in this case means “dog” and only “dog”. You can read through the article looking in vain for a mention of cats or any other type of animal, but all you see are discussions about dogs, and yet the author keeps saying “pet pet pet pet pet” as if dogs are the only pets anywhere.

I love dogs, but c’mon, how hard is it to say DOG when you only mean dog, and not imply that you’re talking about all pets?

"Sorry I talk loud!" Great, you've identified the problem and displayed self awareness. Now practice self control. The volume of your voice is 100% controllable between silence and however loud you're capable of talking. Im right next to you, you dont need to yell, and also nobody else wants or needs to hear your business.

Edit: people in the comments who think this is genetic are the exact people I'm referring to

Edit 2: always exceptions, like for people who are hard of hearing, or when working in a loud environment that requires it, etc. But those aren't genetic.

Like we know but it’s a common colloquial way of sympathizing. “Thank you”, “yeah it sucks, “it’s okay”. These are all appropriate ways of responding. It’s akin to not being able to respond to a compliment. Words and phrases can mean different things depending on the context.

I once saw “jbibol“. apparently it meant just before I busted out laughing. Like thats not a known abbreviation please stop.

You know the type. You use an analogy, you compare someone to an animal, or an object, or whatever. And they simply respond by saying they are not what you compared them to.

For instance, say you use an analogy comparing someone to, idk, let’s say a cow. The other person would respond, “yeah, well people aren’t cows.” Uh, yeah, I realize that. I’m obviously not literally calling people cows. Like wtf kind of argument is that? That’s not the point of the analogy. Do you know what an analogy is? That really grinds my gears, don’t be obtuse. I feel like they’re just purposefully missing the point just to keep arguing.

Sometimes I'll make plans with someone. We'll agree on a day, we'll agree on a time, we'll agree on what we're doing.

Then the day of the plan that we had arranged, I will get there at the right place at the right time and they won't show up. I'll wait a bit. They still don't show up. I'll check my phone. No calls from them. No messages from them. So I give them a ring or send them a message: "Hey, I've arrived".

And I'll be met with a response along the lines of "Oh sorry, didn't realise our plans were still on"...

Well, um, neither of us cancelled the plans, so why wouldn't the plans be on?!

"Oh, you should have messaged me this morning to remind me it was still happening" ffs

Sorry just venting.

Can we stop all of the stupid posts about how you went to the gym 7 days a week while pregnant and then started going back 1 week postpartum? Or how you went back to work remotely immediately after having a c-section? Or how you finished your phd and walked across the graduation stage with a 4 week old baby? I’m happy for you that it worked out that way and that your body (and your baby) let you do all of that but posts like these come off as so performative and as though everyone else who doesn’t do this is a lazy mom or didn’t push themselves enough. Can we normalize being a couch potato while pregnant and postpartum? It makes so many moms feel bad for not doing enough if they are feeling sick or weak during pregnancy/postpartum. We just birthed a whole human and are responsible for them, why does everything need to be a constant “hustle” or proof that “I ran a marathon 6 months pregnant, you can do it too.”

What is wrong with people who do this? People who couldn't wait the 5 seconds it took for you to pass and give them the all clear. And it's usually people who first pause and seem to be considering waiting before they just go ahead and do the dirty deed.

On almost every social media platform and even irl, people will act like obscure knowledge is common sense. They will act like everyone should know everything that has and ever will exist to make allusions too. It is ridiculous childlike behavior.

It happens a lot in online games and its annoying every time. I have an account name which has to be different from everyone else so just let me name my character what I want. Does it matter if there are 50 people running around with the same character name if each has a different account name? What's the point of letting us name our character if we can't actually choose the name we want, single player games ftw I guess.

I find this really irritating - of course a risotto is bland if you’re just stirring some stock through risotto rice with a few mushrooms and a chicken breast. There was a thread on another sub recently where someone was trying to insist that home made lasagne wasn’t as flavourful as a family sized one from Aldi. Again, if all you’re doing is just adding a jar of dolmio to beef mince OF COURSE lasagne is going to be bland.

People just need to learn to cook!

I find it to be the strangest thing ever. I was online so I replied, why is that so weird to you?? Do I have to wait a certain amount of time in order to answer your question? I had someone say that I replied too fast when I replied to them 17 minutes after they sent me something, Idk but I would not consider that ‘scarily fast’ at all. I’m usually very slow to respond so this doesn’t happen too often but when it does it really annoys me.

It’s worse when you can’t go quickly wash your hands

Why ask a question, especially personal ones or ones that have a high likelihood of having a bad answer, and then get POed at the person because they didn't like the response?

A popular one is "Were/How were you spanked as a child?" No matter anyone's history with spanking, that question alone implies that answers involving child abuse would be accepted, since many people already view spanking as a form of child abuse. But say anything worse than "Yes but not much" and they act like your trauma dumping on them for no reason. Some parents can be very heavy handed, for better or for worse and I'm sure I'm not the only one who answers with "My parents liked using the belt."

Or when they ask if youre dating anyone and get mad when you say yes or they realize youre in a LGBT/interracial relationship.

Or ask about your plan for kids and don't like being told youre infertile or exploring other means of conception that dont align with their beliefs (like IVF or foster)

My personal favorite, and one I am now absolutely refusing to answer anymore, is "What is living in foster care like?" USA's foster system is notorious for abuse. Why ask that and get angry at me because my answer was depressing? Bro, foster as a whole is depressing. Every foster kid has had at least 1 bad experience no matter the state.

The world is not a utopia and nearly everyone has been through some shit. If one does not want to hear about said shit or cant emotionally regulate themselves when they do hear it, don't ask about it!

That's it. Can't stand it. If I never told you I want to be called that, why do you call me that? When people do I make it clear I prefer my name and usually they accept it, which I appreciate and move on from. But, why not ask me first instead of just assuming I go by that because you know other people of the same name who like it?

Like people who come into posts that have the most tangential distant possible relationship to the topic of drugs and somehow find a way to tell you which drugs they’ve taken, or even make fun of people for thinking that whatever drug they took was a hard drug

Like someone who’s like “lol you think coke is a serious drug?” And proceed to go on to allude to a time they did heroin or how they’ve built up a tolerance for fentanyl or some shit.

Sir, these are not brags, and to the vast majority of people who haven’t done heroin, cocaine is a serious drug. Yeah.

Just needed to rant about it a tad as I saw someone else mention it.

People sitting down next to you when there's countless seats open, standing way too close to you in line, standing right behind you for not much reason... it feels so much more common now than it was even 5 years ago. I don't understand it. What is with the need to be in a strangers space? I don't have any desire to do that. A stranger could be crazy for all I know. The last thing I'm gonna do is sit down right next to them and smile at them like I've known them my entire life lol.

Just give people some space. Obviously if it's a crowded bus or something it's different but I'm talking empty bus and someone comes right up to you. I hate it.