u/klarinetkat12

Whenever a teenager or a young person in general has a grievance, adults always love to say "it only gets worse from here” or "it gets harder from here" it got harder for YOU, babe. You goofed around as a teenager too much and that left you unprepared for adulthood, so stop projecting.

Just because you are unhappy and disgruntled with your life doesn't mean everybody else has to be. It's not everyone's fault that you have a crappy life as an adult. Stop telling young people that their lives are gonna plummet because yours did

I'm 19 years old. Respectfully, I would like to live the rest of my life without some disgruntled adult saying how my life is gonna be a huge pile of trash in the future.

And I especially don't like this because it implies that if you're a teen, you live your life on easy mode. yes you have no bills, but being a teenager isn't really as easy as people make it seem. You absolutely have responsibilities as a teenager. They may not be ones like paying mortgages or taxes, but as a teenager you get your first job, you're responsible for turning in your homework on time, getting home at a certain time, having a solid GPA, getting your drivers license, and much more.

Here are some TikTok posts that I read with my own eyes

"at least I'm not turning 30 in 10 years"

"at least my age still has 'teen' at the end of it"

"at least I'm not turning 20 in five years"

"you only have nine summers in your 20s. Better make them last."

"This is your last summer as a teenager."

"this is your LAST and FINAL summer before you become a grown-up"

"i would give ANYTHING to be 16 again" and the person saying this just turned 20

this is genuinely exhausting. Why is age and growing up seen as a window closing rather than an opportunity to have new experiences?

For context, I was born in 2007, meaning I turned 18 in 2025. If I had a dollar for every time I saw another 2007 kid on the Internet spiraling about turning 18, I'd be rich as hell. And that caused me to be secretly afraid of turning 18 because of all the bugs the Internet was putting in my ear. I see this with 2008 and 2009 kids too. "08 kids realizing that childhood ends this year" which isn't even true. "09 kids realize their childhood ends NEXT year." these are teenagers trying to live normal lives. Why are we giving them a sense of existential dread?

Oh and last but not least "all 2000's kids are gonna be adults next year" OK? Cool information. Why do we need to know that? That one genuinely makes me wanna throw my phone at a wall.

Here are some TikTok posts that I read with my own eyes

"at least I'm not turning 30 in 10 years"

"at least my age still has 'teen' at the end of it"

"at least I'm not turning 20 in five years"

"you only have nine summers in your 20s. Better make them last."

"This is your last summer as a teenager."

"i would give ANYTHING to be 16 again"

this is geniunely exhausting. Why is age and growing up seen as a window closing rather than an opportunity to have new experiences?

For context, I was born in 2007, meaning I turned 18 in 2025. If I had a dollar for every time I saw another 2007 kid on the Internet spiraling about turning 18, I'd be rich as hell. And that caused me to be secretly afraid of turning 18 because of all the bugs the Internet was putting in my ear. I see this with 2008 and 2009 kids too. "08 kids realizing that childhood ends this year" which isn't even true. "09 kids realize their childhood ends NEXT year." these are teenagers trying to live normal lives. Why are we giving them a sense of existential dread?

Oh and last but at least "all 2000's kids are gonna be adults next year" OK? Cool information. Why do we need to know that? That one genuinely makes me wanna throw my phone at a wall

Here are some TikTok posts that I read with my own eyes

"at least I'm not turning 30 in 10 years"

"at least my age still has 'teen' at the end of it"

"at least I'm not turning 20 in five years"

"you only have nine summers in your 20s. Better make them last."

"This is your last summer as a teenager."

"i would give ANYTHING to be 16 again"

this is geniunely exhausting. Why is age and growing up seen as a window closing rather than an opportunity to have new experiences?

For context, I was born in 2007, meaning I turned 18 in 2025. If I had a dollar for every time I saw another 2007 kid on the Internet spiraling about turning 18, I'd be rich as hell. And that caused me to be secretly afraid of turning 18 because of all the bugs the Internet was putting in my ear. I see this with 2008 and 2009 kids too. "08 kids realizing that childhood ends this year" which isn't even true. "09 kids realize their childhood ends NEXT year."

Oh and last but at least "all 2000's kids are gonna be adults next year" OK? Cool information. Why do we need to know that?

Because if the brain really and truly doesn’t stop developing, you can be 35 and have an undeveloped frontal lobe. I don’t understand that. if the brain really truly never stops developing, why do we give so much grace for teenagers on having underdevelopment prefrontal cortexes?

It was easier to believe that the brain slowly stopped developing at 25. but I also do feel like we need to stop blaming teens making bad decisions on hormones and underdeveloped frontal lobes and more on their character, and I’m saying that as a teen myself.

this is coming from me as a 19-year-old so I was a minor not too long ago, so this stuff is still kind of fresh to me

I’m noticing a lot of minors, I guess specifically the ones who are like 14 to 17, tend to infantilize themselves and have a “come save me!” mentality. saying “i’m a minor!!” all the time, having some sort of learned helplessness simply because they’re under 18. “but I’m a minor!” you’re 16 with a drivers license and a full-time job. I don’t think you can use that card anymore.

This is also with celebrities and famous people who also just happened to be minors. like walker scobell, the guy who plays Percy Jackson. when somebody makes a mildly suggestive edit of him, people would say “that’s a child!!!” when he’s literally 17. minor celebrities are seen more as innocent vulnerable children, and not teenagers who have their own thoughts and opinions and autonomy. they are particularly safeguarded a lot more.

As a 19 year-old, this gives me the biggest sense of cognitive dissonance. someone who’s two years younger than me being treated like they’re made out of glass and I’m expected to have the next two decades of my life figured out.

when I was a kid, all I pretty much wore was sequin shirts from Justice and leggings with designs and hearts on them. Now? Kids are wearing really tight Lulu clothes, tube tops, and crop tops. Children don’t dress like children anymore. now they’re dressing like they are freshman in college.

“Why are you thinking that way about a child? You must like kids." NO! In what world would that ever mean that I like children?? by saying that a 10 year-old girl shouldn't wear an outfit that completely shows her figure? Or wear outfits that show skin? "those are kids!" exactly. That's why they shouldn't wear it.

I didn’t even get my first Lululemon jacket until I was 15. It kind of hurts to see because kids aren’t wanting to be kids anymore. Back when I was a kid, there was no rush to growing up.

For the record, I'm a female, so I'm not offended, but I'm just curious.

I know a lot of girls have trauma revolving around men, so it's understandable why they are weary about them. But I've seen a lot of women say things like "I hate all men" and even things like "all men should die." and then they wonder why men are offended. You literally just said you want all of them to die. I would get offended if I was a man too.

Why not just say "men who do XYZ should die?" or "I hate men who do XYZ" I feel like that makes more sense by making a random generalization

I understand that women are mainly speaking generally, but when men say that they get offended by this, they tend to say "if you're not the type of men i'm talking about you're not gonna get offended" and that doesn't make sense because didn't you literally just say you hate all men? why not say you hate some men? Or you hate men that do ____? why say you hate ALL men?

It doesn't make sense to make a generalization like that, and wonder why the people who you are generalizing about are offended. Can you imagine if a man put out a post that said "I hate all women?" he literally would've been bullied off of the Internet. He probably would've been doxxed as well. And he can't say "well obviously not every single woman, just the women who are bad"

edit: y'all I'm not some butthurt man 😭 I'm a girl who's literally just questioning this logic

I was born on July 27. He was born on July 28. I feel like a cougar for being older than him. Am I a predator?

I get that they are annoying and delusional, but… This is Baddies. Isn't this what we're watching the show for? For entertainment? You can't have good entertainment without a good villain. Even though the villains are sometimes very aggravating to watch.

maybe not "growing" on me, but I don't hate them as much as all the other fans do. I think the only two people who I don't like from house B are Sam and Nas.

this is probably highly controversial, and I want to preface that I don’t agree with victim blaming at all, especially if it’s a child who’s the victim. BUT — I can in a way understand why people do it. please just hear me out.

Us as humans, when something happens, we always want to find a reason for it happening. This is because we want to remain in control and we want to try to avoid negative events. For example, the whole “she was wearing a short skirt, so that’s why she was assaulted.“ sentiment is problematic, but I feel like people say that because it implies “if I don’t wear short skirts, I’m gonna be able to avoid being assaulted” which is also untrue. Whenever something atrocious happens to someone, people always try to find why it happened so they can try to avoid it themselves.

but the unfortunate part is that the world doesn’t work that way. Good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people, and all things could happen literally because somebody was unlucky.

edit: another example. I was reading a news headline of a 20 year-old guy who was shot and killed by a mom because he was sleeping with her 13-year-old daughter. I was thinking about when I was 13, I never had any experiences like this with older men. I was thinking to myself "maybe I was heavily protected? Maybe I didn't have a vulnerable aura that predators love? Maybe I didn't speak to that many older adults." of course I'm not saying I was sad that I didn't get assaulted and I'm not saying that the 13-year-old is at fault. It's just I lived a predator-free childhood, so I'm like "huh... I wonder why"

I understand that getting over an ex is easier said than done, and I’m not a huge dater so I don’t know much about getting over an ex

Tara and Jake have been broken up for around three years, and she is still clearly in love with him. Tara babe its time to move on. Plus, you look like you could have literally any guy you want. Why is Jake the guy you’re so hung up on?

I know they’re broken up, but if I was Kenzie, I would’ve been 100% irritated. why is your sexy ex-girlfriend your best friend..?

I’m seeing too many Reddit posts of grown adults who still hung on their high school relationship saying that if you haven’t experienced teenage love, your life is practically over and you missed out on a chance to experience “unadulterated, raw, and precious true love” that can’t possibly be more false, and that is the biggest type of projection I’ve ever heard

This might be me also projecting because I’m 19 and I haven’t did that much dating in my teens, but why is teenage love specifically the only kind of love that people long for? Why do people think that that kind of love suddenly expires a second you turn 20?? I understand the idea of your firsts can leave a lasting impact, but so can your firsts as a 22-year-old, or 25-year-old, or even a 30-year-old.

I don’t like the fact that adolescence is seen as a contest. Who can date the most people? Who can go to the most parties? Who is the most rebellious? Who went through the most substantial-but-somehow-character-developing trauma? And as a 19 year old, this is literally exhausting.

“if you haven’t dated in your teens, dating in the future is gonna be 10x harder. dating in your 20s is not gonna be the same.“ according to who? Statistically, teenagers nowadays are dating significantly less than three decades ago. So I guess everyone is gonna have a hard time dating.

I’m seeing too many Reddit posts of grown adults who still hung on their high school relationship saying that if you haven’t experienced teenage love, your life is practically over and you missed out on a chance to experience “unadulterated, raw, and precious true love” that can’t possibly be more false, and that is the biggest type of projection I’ve ever heard

This might be me also projecting because I’m 19 and I haven’t did that much dating in my teens, but why is teenage look specifically the only kind of love that people long for? Why do people think that that kind of love suddenly expires a second you turn 20?? I understand the idea of your firsts can leave a lasting impact, but so can your firsts as a 22-year-old, or 25-year-old, or even a 30-year-old. Dating when your body isn’t even finished developing is suddenly considered “true love” and and love that if you miss it, you genuinely missed out on an opportunity.

Plus, statistically teenagers now are dating significantly less than teenagers back in the 90s. Back then, around 80% of teens have dated. Now, it’s just a little bit about 54%. that’s a little more than half. hardly dating as a teen is pretty much a norm now, but I do feel like that people treated more precious because now it’s more rare. They see it as a kind of love that you can’t get anywhere else.

if missing out on teenage love makes you broken, then almost 50% of Gen Z is broken I suppose

I remember mentioning this on Reddit, but I don’t know if I mentioned it on here

Around June 2025, ICE had infiltrated at Los Angeles. was the public outraged at the fact that ICE had infiltrated in a whole bunch of innocent peoples houses? no. They were more outraged at the influencers, especially the ones who live in Los Angeles, not making a post about it and reposting posts about it.

That genuinely blows me. At that point, it’s obviously performative activism. I sometimes feel like if you talk about an issue on social media, you’re talking about it because you want people to think that you’re a good person. especially if an influencer is cornered into doing it, it’s not genuine. They’re only doing it so they won’t get canceled and so they will impress their fans

. I didn’t post a single thing about the ice raids and no one said a thing, because why? I can still care about something without making it known to the public that I care.

“Here are all the influencers I had blocked because they didn’t speak up about the ice raids“ I beg you to go outside. People genuinely said that. These are all grown ass adults too.

like not biased, doesn’t pick sides. Just show because I like to watch girls fight.

i’m not really wanting to judge a girl and be like “she should’ve did this“ or “she should’ve done that” because you know why? They are on TV making money and I’m just sitting at home watching. I don’t think I have any room to judge. Of course, I can provide my opinion, but I’m not gonna act like I’m above it.

I don’t dislike Tara, but i have bit of a bone to pick. You can say this is a bit of a non-issue, but I don’t like how she’s rubbing it and everyone’s face is that her high school boyfriend wrote her love letters. “no one yearns anymore!!” that was a whole decade ago. Please move on babe.

I feel like if it’s been more five years since you’ve been in high school, you should not be still talking about it.

I’m noticing this mainly on social media, which I know is the biggest culprit but just hear me out

I see a lot of people saying that these three specific ages are ages where people are the struggle bus; 17, 19, and 23. guess what age I am? 19. And I’m already pretty insecure about it, with my age being considered ”unc,” people my age literally getting hitched while I’m watching Baddies in my room, and me feeling like I’m behind everybody else.

Why are we so obsessed with adding negative connotations to age? Are you saying that life only matters when you legally can’t vote yet? You don’t even have a life then. “This is what they do to your body when you’re 23” please stop. ”the 19 theory is real.” STOP. “if you turn 17, good luck.” what is this the hunger games?

I just want to ask, how were your lives when you were either 17, 19, or 23? Or if you are currently those ages, are you really on the struggle bus, or is that just Internet mumbo-jumbo?

Fighting, constant yelling and screaming, bullying, people destroying your expensive items. you have to be hypervigilant 24/7 (which can damage your nervous system by the way) and you have to be “OK” with the fact that your nose is permanently deviated from a fight, otherwise the fans will label as weak

it does not seem like it’s a good environment for your mental health. Even the people who really are about that life get mentally drained from arguing all the time. baddie’s really and truly isnt for everybody, and I don’t know why it’s “pussy” for leaving. shit if I were on baddies, I would’ve left on the first day.

you could be minding your own business and somebody will pull an Ivori and punch you just for the sake of punching you, and then everyone is gonna be like “you should’ve been on guard! you know what you signed up for! This is baddies!!“ I signed up just to get randomly socked in the face by someone who I never had an interaction with? I did not sign up to wear a fucking “punch the shit out of me” paper on my forehead???

it’s not fair that these girls literally have to be hypervigilant while literally doing mundane things like going to the bathroom or going to the kitchen to get a snack. We’re not in a forest looking for bears; we’re in a house with other girls

becky and kutta‘s case does not sit right with me at all. The fact that Becky gave her that serious ass injury for literally nothing makes me feel horrible for kutta.