u/klarinetkat12

The whole entire fight was a clown show. I never watched NTTV but pressure isn't really a great fighter 😭 her slipping and falling everywhere, then ivori missing the upper cut when she fell, and ET continuously sneaking her. It was a clown show.

As funny as it was, the jumping was pretty weird, especially when diamond inserted herself. She didn't even have a problem with pressure until her and ivori started fighting 😭 but pressure held her own

i’m 18 years old and I’ve never had a boyfriend. I turned 19 in June, and I’ll be a sophomore in college in the fall. At first, this never really bothered me. But it’s kind of hard to not let it bother you when the Internet tells you it should bother you. there would be people in their 20s regretting not experiencing “teen love” people literally feeling FOMO for not experiencing a soul crushing heartbreak as a teenager…

I get that I’m only 18 and I still have a lot of life ahead of me, but I want to experience at least one relationship in my teens. How do I get a boyfriend as a sophomore in college? Who’s gonna be 19 years old? Just give it to me straight. no sugarcoating

i’m already in the process of losing weight, not for male approval, but just to feel better by myself in general. i’m going to try to put myself out there more.

i love, but hate TikTok. I love scrolling and finding the stupidest, funniest videos alive, but I hate what the videos on there does to my brain how they make me feel. I could find the perfect video that taps into my exact insecurities, and I feel like shit for the rest of the day.

I could be scrolling endlessly, I could spot a stupid brain rot meme (like tung tung sahur)
And three scrolls down, I see a girl being insecure about not having a boyfriend in 22, and wishing that she dated more in her teens. I’m gonna be 19 and I haven’t had a boyfriend before. Sometimes it doesn’t bother me, but it’s kind of hard to not let it bother you when the Internet is telling you that you should’ve dated earlier. “how did you have your first heartbreak at 23! I had my first one when I was 15!!” how could you possibly be upset that you DIDN’T experience heartbreak at a certain age bracket?

then three scrolls further, I could see a black girl complaining about being the least desirable and attractive and that “the white girl always wins” i’m a black girl. It’s kind of hard to feel pretty when you have these self-loathing black women trying to pull us down.

yesterday I saw a video of an influencer named Tarayummy saying that when she was 16, her boyfriend at the time wrote her love letters?? not only does that tell me that young boys are capable of doing a “romanticized cinematic love” but happened to a girl who was at a young age? in high school?? she claims that she still has them. That was exactly the type of young stupid teenage love that 13-year-old me thought she was gonna get. you don’t understand how quickly that fucked up my mood.

I’m studying psychology, so I understand the idea of social comparison and how “comparison is the thief of joy.” I actively tried to not let these videos get to my brain, as they are solely just Internet propaganda made to provoke an emotional reaction (the 19 theory) but it’s just so difficult.

I was able to lose 10 pounds when I was in college. Tracking calories and watching what I eat was easier when I was there.

but now I’m at home, it’s really easy for me to lose track as to how many calories I actually am eating. Why is it so much harder to track calories at Home then is at college?

i’m 18 years old, and while I am not self diagnosing myself with any neurodivergence, I see myself doing things that somebody with OCD or ADHD would normally do. Maybe even autism.

A lot of people I know got diagnosed when they were children. So I’m wondering if you’re neurodivergent, how old were you when you were officially diagnosed?

I have an nonverbal autistic older brother and I think my parents started to see signs when he was around two, where he wouldn’t respond when his name was called. I would like to say that he was diagnosed when he was around five.

I posted a “controversial” opinion about how something being legal doesn’t guarantee that it’s morally correct. I put an example of a 19-year-old boy dating a 36-year-old woman. I explained that the only thing that’s making that relationship OK is the LAW, and just because a group of white politicians said you can doesn’t mean that you should*.* besides, the law that 18 should be an adult was created off convenience rather than literal science. forget “both of them are consenting adults so it’s fine” that boy is a teenager

wouldn’t you know it, I have people completely missing the point by saying “they’re both adults so it’s fine” or “an 19 year old is a MAN who’s capable of making his own decisions.” according to who? the law. exactly. what I’m saying is that the law is not a good indicator of what is morally right. let’s say we lowered the legal age of adulthood to 13. Does that make a 30 year-old dating a 13 year-ok? of course not!!

tho i can say this; I can understand why people have that as a response. Simply because that's the easiest response. It's easier to pass it off as "well they're a legal adult." because the law says it for us. There's a whole lot of neuroscience, psychology, and history that goes into this.

people on Reddit need to take account of the fact that things arent black-and-white and there are in fact nuances to things!

There is a woman named Ashley Trevino who is around 36 years old, she was having a sexual relationship with a 19-year-old boy. I thought that was pretty weird, because legal adult or not, that is still a teenager. But then you’ll still have people say “well that boy is a legal adult, so it’s perfectly fine.”

That’s the thing; just because something is legal doesn’t make it morally correct. History has shown that the law is not a great indicator of what is morally correct. Atrocities like the holocaust and slavery were legal at some point in time.

Here’s a hypothetical; let’s say the age of consent/legal adulthood was lowered to 13. if we’re going by the “well it’s legal, so it’s okay!” rule, a 22-year-old dating a 14-year-old shouldn’t be an issue. it’s legal, right?
of course it’s an issue! Putting legality aside, a 14-year-old and a 22-year-old dating is ethically and developmentally unacceptable

18 is not a magic number. The only reason why 18 is significant is because a bunch of lawmakers decided it was. you don’t just magically become an adult at 18. That’s not how brain development works

so yes, just because a piece of paper said you can do it doesn’t mean you should.

I swear a lot of people on Reddit who will either disagree just to argue, or genuinely stupid.

You could say something that is literally proven by stats, numbers, peer reviewed articles, and experts that have 10+ years of experience down the line. but, what’s gonna happen get -30 down votes, and the people who are disagree, i.e. people who are ignorant or just morons, with you will get more votes than you do.

Tell me why when I said that 18 is too young to be considered an adult because the brain isn’t fully developed by then (which is something that’s been proven by many scientists) and what could you imagine, people disagreed with me. I had said in another subreddit that western beauty standards are for against black women, because the standard is stick thin, and a lot of black women… aren’t stick thin. and I would know because I’m a black female.

Wouldn’t you imagine, suddenly every other black woman is as thin as a pencil. I swear people on here are either the biggest contrarians ever or the biggest morons. It’s like trying to argue with a flat earther.

I love Scotty, but I don’t know why she was on baddies USA chapter one despite being pregnant. She’s putting herself in most of these fights, putting herself and the baby in harms way.

But what’s tripping me up is that the cast literally got on Smiley for doing this on East. Returning on the show after having a miscarriage and people were wondering why she couldn’t take the time to rest and heal. saying that she was putting her body in harms way just to be on TV.

But Scotty quite literally did the exact same thing. So why did no one say anything when it was her? Picking and choosing 😗😗

i’m turning 19 in around a month, and i’m pretty excited, but also nervous. i’m still a teen girl, but it’ll be the last year im a teen girl

but everyone on tiktok is so SAD about it. doom and gloom. it’s all “wdym this is the last year im a teenager?” or “im 19 but i feel 15” this is even for ages 18, 17, and i believe 16. ESPECIALLY 17.

why is everyone so… depressed about it? like, huh??

when you’re a kid, lets say nine years old. when you do something wrong, the blame goes to your parents. why? because when you’re that age, you developmentally cannot understand that some things are right and wrong. it’s automatically up to the parents to take the fall and help you understand that some things are wrong.

but when you’re 16, you’re already doing adult things. working, driving, etc. at that age, you start to have adult thinking skills and better judgement. if a 16 year old does something bad, why should the blame go to the parents? when you’re at that age, you know what’s right and wrong.

once you’re 16+, the “they’re just a child!” excuse goes out the window. that’s when you need to take the blame for your actions and not your parents

i’m a little bit biased, because I am not the biggest fan of ahna. but everybody is saying that she had beat up Stunna girl because she had her bleeding a little bit.

I guess it may seem like that, but everybody else was saying that all she did was reopen a cut that Ivori had already given her. I feel like we overestimate Ahna’s fighting skills. other than that, Stunna had no knots, scratches, or bruises

ahna is 90 pounds soaking wet, so she can’t beat up somebody black and blue. and dont say scotty. i don’t believe she beat up Scotty 😭

my freshman year was OK, but it wasn’t exactly a 10/10. experiencing a very bad case of social burnout was not on my bucket list.

if you’re freshman year wasn’t exactly the greatest, but your later years were a lot better, how did you do that turnaround? What did you do to make it better?

The legal adulthood age is 18, right? Anybody will tell you that that is incredibly young to be considered an adult. Psychologists, neuroscientists, or people who specifically study brain development will all argue that 18 is too young.

18 is still a teenager. Some 18-year-olds are still in high school. Being treated as an adult who's capable of signing their own contracts and voting, while still going to high school chem class sounds a little counterintuitive. Your prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain is responsible for decision-making and impulse control, doesn't finish developing until you're 25. Meaning that 18-year-old is not gonna have the ability to make adult decision decisions.

Also, it doesn't make sense that the legal adulthood age is 18, but we can't purchase alcohol, buy vapes/weed, or rent cars until we are far much older. I'm an adult at 18, but I can't buy alcohol until 21. That makes a lot of sense.

Why do people expect that when the second the clock strikes 12 on your 18th birthday, your mentality, judgment, and intelligence are supposed to do a complete 180? I'm supposed to have top-notch judgment, intelligence, and an "adult" mentality simply because of the date on my birth certificate?

you could argue that I am "infantilizing adults" but how was it infantalizing if it's basic psychology?

i’ll start. I’m 18 years old right now, and around a couple months ago, I was given a Discover card.
I saw that there was $2500 on it. teenage girl + $2500 card is not a good mix
i spent it on things like DoorDash, Amazon orders, starbucks, etc.

but I didn’t know was that whatever you spent on a credit card, you have to pay that back…

Now I have a $2500 credit card bill. i’m trying to get a job so I can pay it back 🫩

I don’t remember how old I was when this happened, but I think I was around 5 or 6? probably 7. let’s just say I was seven.

I was at my cousin’s house get together. My cousin, who was to be around like 14 or 15(?) had took me into her room, just us two. then, she had pulled down my pants and underwear, and started kissing my…area. And she started kissing my butt. she was saying things like “I’m so proud of you” and “you’ve grown to be such a big girl”

seven-year-old me was naïve, I thought “that was pretty strange” but in the past few years, I found out what sexual assault was. at first, I thought I was part of the group of girls who didn’t have that experience, but this incident came to mind.

This kind of incident was just in and out of my mind. sometimes I cared, sometimes it left my mind. i’m 18 now, and honestly, I don’t know how I would react if it was sexual assault. should I be sad? Angry? this definitely wasn’t OK, but it wasn’t something I was crying myself to sleep about. is it OK for me to be this impassive about it? to be completely honest, due to me being so young, this could be a false memory. Sexual assault is such an intense label to give to something.

I’ve also learned about COCSA specifically, so I don’t know if this fits that category

A 17-year-old girl named Larissa Nicole Rodriguez had died from an enlarged heart due to drinking too many Alanis per day. people speculate that she drank six a day, or two a day. Let’s just say she drank six a day.

People are putting majority of the blame on the parents because they went and got these drinks for her and they even had a mini fridge full of these drinks for her. The blame should be put on the parents, but that doesn’t mean that the blame shouldn’t be put on the girl.

people like to pass it off as her being “a clueless kid who didn’t know what she was doing” first of all, I would like to establish a 17-year-olds aren’t children. They’re not adults, but they’re not children. You would normally expect a 17-year-old to have enough common sense and decent judgment to not put this much caffeine into her body. at this age, you’re working, driving everywhere, registering to vote, having sex (sometimes), and deciding where you’re gonna be going for college.

This girl was in the National Honors Society, was top 5% in her graduating class, and was student council president. This girl was not an idiot. She was actually incredibly smart. So why didn’t she think that it was a bad idea to ingest 1200 mg of caffeine per day?

if a 19-year-old did something like this, everybody’s reactions would’ve been “they’re an adult. They should’ve known what they were putting into their body.” but a 17-year-old does it and it’s “they’re just a kid. They didn’t know what they were doing.” weird.

edit: OK. Maybe being overachiever and book smart don’t guarantee intelligence😭 but I feel the way I feel. RIP to the girl, but this was easily preventable

I never once said that I don’t feel sympathy for this girl, but take it how you wanna take it

I feel like people oversimplify when childhood really ends. People think that it just ends full stop at 18 because 18 is a legal adult. But I don’t really think it’s that simple.

Childhood is defined as a stage between age 0 and 13, so if you think about it, 13 is really when your childhood ended. Meaning that ages 14 and 17 aren’t necessarily children, but they aren’t adults either. This is where the word “adolescent”comes in.

If you’re wondering why I thought about this, I was wondering why society tends to infantilize 16 and 17-year-olds, but they kind of just leave 18-year-olds to fend for themselves. Then I was wondering “are teenagers really children?”