r/Teenager

for context!! i'm a fat person, i always have been. i'm more than 280 pounds and i'm 17, my problem is seeing skinny people say that they "feel fat" or they "are fat". i understand that body image issues exist but i just dont understand how they can stand right next to me and seriously say "i'm so fat for this" after eating less than me. i feel as though its insensitive and nobody really knows how to read the room anymore. i understand having body image issues, i have them as well alongside a binge/restrict eating disorder. its just confusing to me but ive been told time and time again im not allowed to be upset about it

So, basically, me (14M) have been talking with this girl (14F) for 6 YEARS. We met in 5th grade and all that. The thing is, this year and last year we became much closer after a fight we had over something silly.

The thing is, lately I'm starting to feel things for her. Like, she's so fun to be around, we sit together at lunch break, and we have calls on Discord, WhatsApp, or whatever to play daily.

She looks super beautiful, she listens to me, we've both vented to each other about our problems, and I'm her best friend, and she's said to me that I'm her only true friend since, well, the group kind of separated as vacations started, and only us two still speak daily to each other.

Anyways, the thing is that she's always said that she wants a nice, faithful, and overall long relationship, since the last one she had was some guy from a higher gradethat cheated on her. And here I am, I want to give her all she needs and be the best boyfriend ever.

But, here's the catch: I don't know if, when I compliment her or tell her nice things or indirect things, she just says "Jaja ta bien," since, well, we both speak Spanish, duh, which would translate to something like "Haha that's okay/good/nice." I don't really know. The thing is, I'm not sure if that's a way to evade my compliments or if she doesn't know how to react to them, because I don't know how she talks to her ex.

And no, I'm sorry, but I'm not brave enough to ask. Most likely, if she gives me any indication that she wouldn't mind being with me, I'd confess first.

I DONT WANT TO BE FRIENDZONED AHHHHH

So basically I've been having trouble with my heart rate jumping up and I'm pretty sure that it's pots and I'm going for the test to see next week but anyway

I got sick in the middle of a store, I started to feel dizzy, my head was pounding, my chest starting hurting, my legs were shaking, and I just didn't feel good and I could tell my heart rate was jump so I sat down in the floor bc I was by myself

And I started getting the dirtiest looks from all these old people and then I heard some old woman say "kids these days are so lazy"

More like "old people these days are so freaking rude" 😭😭😭

As a 16 year old boy, when I grow up I am open to basically anyone except for women, that means I would only have relationship with just men and non binary people. I do not support abortions and I do not support sexual stuff before marriage, for everyone but especially women.

I do not support LGBTQ marriage because marriage should only be for those who want children. Those people who are married without children should probably just remain single instead. Either be single live alone, or only be married for having children. I only support Tier 4 of LGBTQ legality where De Facto Criminalization of LGBTQ sexual. This way, you can still have a private gay relationship no problem, but no sexual because I am against that. Since gay people don't have children, they don't need marriage benefits!

I am against abortions! Fuck no to abortions just due to reckless sexual encounters, ban those type of abortions. I believe abortion should only allowed when they are either due to sexual assault, or when the woman's life is in danger. I discourage sexual before marriage and view that as bad. I would also never have sex with men because of HIV risk. Men and men sexual should be discouraged, because of the damn HIV!!! Lesbian sexual should be totally allowed because there is no risk of HIV. How many people died due to HIV, so many!!!

I would also against sodomy even in straight people and it should be discouraged because that's against morals, sexual is only for childbirth and not enjoyment. I support a socialist society where everyone gets a job and no unemployment. Where it's essentially dirt cheap housing!

Any sort of explicit content, I believe should be banned! The whole adult content industry, should basically be shut down. And of course women need to stop producing explicit content involving boys love yaoi, it's disgusting especially when men don't even care about being objectified.

I am around 5’74 (171cm) at 14

what about you? I want you to share yours.

Yoo im finally 18 im officially unc

I've been thinking a lot about modern double standards when it comes to gender expectations, and how society judges sexual interest. It feels like we have reached a point where men's heterosexuality and attraction are defaulted to as inherently predatory, gross or a threat, while the exact same behaviors or interests from women are given endless appreciation.

When a man expresses sexual or romantic interest, the baseline reaction often assumes ulterior motives or "creepiness". Men's initiative carries a burden to prove it isn't harassment. Meanwhile, women's interest is almost never viewed through a lens of threat or suspicion.

Look at how content consumed by different genders is judged. When men watch girls love, the immediate internet label is often "pervert" and "fetishizer." However, when women watch boys love, a massive multi-million dollar industry built by hetero women explicitly sexualizing gay men, they are often framed as "cute", "passionate" or "harmless escapism."

When a man cheats, society frames it almost exclusively as a moral faliure of pure lust and disrespect. When a woman cheats, they view her as "emotionally" starved, "neglected" shifting the blame to her partner. Overall, 66% of Americans stated that a man having an affair is "always morally wrong," compared to only 55% who said the same when a woman commits an affair. Among young women specifically, the gap widened sharply: 73% judged male infidelity as strictly, always wrong, while only 51% applied that same absolute moral condemnation to female infidelity.

It feels like we operate under two completely different mindsets, men's actions are analyzed through power and threat, while women's actions are analyzed through emotion and romance.

If you really care abut fairness and equal morals, watching this unfold in the modern day world would give you an idea why men are treated dirty by default.

School is coming, just around the corner, and for the first year ever we are all getting individually assigned combo chromebooks. Let me get something straight. Chromebooks are ass, right? We all know it. Anyway. So, these chromebooks have 4 gigs of ram and as much storage as an iphone 7 pro, meaning they are so bad that it takes like a minute just to load canvas or google docs. Not only that, but there is also plenty of spyware, but ill keep it politic free of course. i just wanted to rant because idk how many other people are going through the same thing and if anyone has any advice for me because it seems messed up that kids who cant afford a better laptop literally just get effed over because of a law that says devices need to be under security crackdown at all times. thanks for reading!

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So this is my school districts second year of letting kids bring their own computers to school, and id say about half of the kids have their own computer and dont use the school Chromebooks. I'm going to be a freshman this year and I want to bring my macbook as i really dont want to use the school Chromebook (for several reasons I'll get to in a minute) for context my laptop is the base model macbook pro. I have it because I do filmmaking and photography and I need a powerful computer for that. As for the reasons why I dont want to use a school Chromebook, I'm going to be in a video class, and if I bring my laptop i can use my preferred software and work on projects at home, also if I have a computer with my personal and school accounts ill be a lot more organized, as well as a few more reasons. I have like a protective sleeve that I keep the computer in but im still unsure of whether or not I should bring it to school. I'm not concerned about dropping it or anything, but im worried that kids will be kids and something bad could happen. Since im gonna be a freshman I'm not sure how things are around people's stuff in highschool, in middle school it definitely wasnt the best so im wondering if highschool is safer in that regard. Thanks!

Btw sorry if this is longer than it should be or a bit incoherent its 1:44 am

Humanity is evil and that's all it's good for and all it will ever do. Prove me wrong. Seriously. Give me hope please

Edit: None of y'all are giving me hope, you know this is a cry for help right?😭

This is a rant/advice but... Some of y'all are so self pitying and self hating it just makes me mad. You have so much power and yet you sit there and mope about how horrible your life is. Listen I have like 50 mental disorders and a physical disability, I KNOW STRUGGLE! But I don't let it stop me from achieving my dreams and doing the things I want to do. You guys are letting your mind create the problem! I know people have probably said this to you before but you have to focus on the good things and not all the bad things. And try being more confident in yourself. If the only way you will be more confident in yourself and less self pitying is if I yell at you? I'll do it!

(13F)So i think I've known this for a while now. When I was about 9-10, I lived in a quite homophobic country but I had a crush on my girl best friend. When I told her she said ew and she's not gay, but we were still friends after that. I got really paranoid and sad bc I liked a girl and my parents are quote homophobic so I js pushed that feeling away and convinced myself I was straight. After moving to a different country, I saw that LGBTQ was accepted and at first i was kinda homophobic bc of my country makes it seem like an extremely bad thing especially if ur Christian. I later realized it was normal and I also once liked a girl. Now, I do know I like girls bc I find them attractive like masc, studs, stem girls and I've been wanting a gf too bc idk wlw couple looks so cute and it would be cute to have a same sex relationship imo. Idk if i wanna exactly label myself rn as bisexual bc the feeling comes and goes and I still like guys. Of course i won't tell my parents about this or there will be tension around, i js felt really bad and guilty when i was younger about like a girl. But now I'm transferring schools so i get to explore the options bc this is a more popular school than my last. Idk advice would be nice or sny thoughts.

hilli! I'm doing a psychology project about teens' mental health & social media, and I desperately need actual answers from u guys. It's anonymous, and will be deleted after the project is done, (i can see only your answers, can't see ur account, email, school or anything like that, so no worries🫂) : ages 13-19, short and super easy!
There aren't any right answers — I'm genuinely interested in ur ideas!
tysm if you do it, you're literally saving my project (& helping me learn!)
The link's in the comments🫶🏻⬇️🥹

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She told me growing up she had a pillow pet called “wanna” and she did everything with it and when she didn’t have it she would play with her hair, but after loosing the pillow pet she played with her hair more but because of that she started loose hair cause of it so she substituted for a stuff bear, and every time she thinks about wanna she tears ups. And it actually weirds me out that she cries over a stuff toy and also she’s 3 years from being 18, which makes it even worse for me. It felt it was something deeper but she said it isn’t.