r/Teenager

Ugh i hate my mom acting all overprotective. She is a pain in the fucking ass, but at least my dad isn't overprotective. My dad said yes to me dying my hair with bleach and some kool aid packets, my mom said no beacuse none of us have the money for a professional and she refuses to let me do it with the help of my friend for the bleach because i don't have blonde hair. How do i deal with her?

As a toddler/child, I never grew up going to church regularly, reading the bible, or any practice of Christianity, yet my family still believed believed in Christianity. I loved dinosaurs and prehistoric life and the fact that they lived for so long before going extinct. This grew on me, and later on I became fascinated with science (convergent evolution and such) and the big bang theory. Im the kind of person who needs facts and proper evidence to believe something, so I guess this stuck to me and also made it harder for me to believe that there IS a god, and I don't think I have a reason yet. Again, I'm still unsure, and I just want to hear from others who feel the same.

Another thing I need to add; my parents are trump supporters, they are anti lgbtq, they supported charlie kirks beliefs, they admitted to telling me that if I ever thought I was lgbtq, they wouldn't support me, which they won't have to worry Abt. Their beliefs make me afraid they may not support it, since I'm kinda going through a rough patch with my parents right now.they will never resort to abuse or anything physical, I think they'd mostly stay quiet Abt it. they're a lot more hateful towards lgbtq, and less on religion, which does give me some hope, but I'm indecisive. as for my social circle, I know that my friends will support my belief and I will not be bullied or harassed for it.

For some context i am 16m.

Okay, so my mom, Jane (fake name for obvious reasons) has been withholding my phone from me for a month now and every time I request to have it back she always says "I don't wanna talk about it." Now this isn't a problem because she took it, it's a problem because I bought the phone myself and want my stuff back.

The reason she took it is because I snuck out and got brought home by police. Me sneaking out is not (and never has been) a common occurrence so i gave my phone up willingly. I was told I would get my phone back on the June 30th, but here we are in July, and...

Since the 30th I have contacted my mom 3 times asking about my phone and every time she has said "I never said that you'd get it back on the 30th. I said we'll see."

We had a conversation about the issue, transcribed below:

Jane: "What, OP?"

Me: "Mom I need my phone back"

Jane: "I'm not talking about this right now."

Me: "Mom, this can't be an 'I don't wanna talk about it' thing anymore. I have spent most of my summer break inside"

Jane: "And who's fault is that?"

Me: "Mine, yes, but, mom-"

Jane: "'But mom' my ass! You could have died!"

Me (audibly upset): "Mom I paid for that phone, you can't just keep it!"

Jane: "I'm your mom, OP, I can keep it however long i wantt! I'll break that motherfucker and then you won't HAVE a phone."

Me: "Mom, I-"

(Jane hangs up)

After this, she returned to acting nice until I asked about my phone

Reddit, AITA?

EDIT: I now realize I left out a few important details.

1 - I have been exceedingly apologetic an understand my punishment

2 - The exact context of the police encounter is as follows:

I was on my way home but took a detour to a friends house, since they saw i was in the area and knocked on what i thought was their door for somewhere between 10-20 minutes before realizing it was the wrong door. After the realization I walked away and started toward the right door, but after about 5 mins the police pulled up, talked to me, had my mom talk to me and took me home.

3 - The money for the phone came from a side job i was doing.

4 - I was paraphrasing, i did not speak rudely.

EDIT 2:

To those suggesting chores and other things, I don't live with my mother, I live with her 3 brothers (aka my uncles, Dick, Larry, and Jacob(fake names))

The reason for this is her living situation (which would require a separate post..)

I can see some of your logic, however, I wanna debunk some things.

1 - I was sober. It was late, dark, and the houses in that area look similar.

2 - WE (as in me, Larry, and Jane) agreed on the 30th. She herself stated that my phone would return on June 30th.

3 - I have a very bad perception of time. What feels like 10 mins to me could have been 5, 5 may have been 2 ½...

4 - I DO NOT HAVE CELL SERVICE. My phone operates on Wi-Fi and I paid for it in full.

5 - All contact with Jane has gone through my one of my uncle's phones.

F19 im 5'2

no matter what i say i feel like the replies kinda sound like something a pick me would say and i HATE that. how do i reply to such comments :/

be as creative or as brutal as possible :3

(this is gonna be so incoherent, im sorry, im not in the right state of mind rn)

dont get me wrong, i 'love' my mum in the traditional sense. both my parents do provide for me, but when she refuses to apologize for stuff she knows its her fault- im expected to say sorry just because im younger. tf?
during a family trip, she called me rude, when i'd disassociated and didnt answer my cousin. later, she told me she wanted to punch my face, and break my teeth. then told me to get out multiple times.
what is going on
and when we got home, the heat was apparently sorted, as my gramma intervened. but she ignored me for 2-3 days, and ofc, my dad forced me to apologize. again. for nothing, again.
one time, i was crying because of smth at school, and she told me to stick it up---.... i told her i just wanted to voice my frustrations. her words- "keep them to yourself please, dont talk."

my parents and i have never really talked the way a functioning family should, its always been all about wants and needs from eachother. im so emotionally starved.

im not allowed to leave my house(or my room even) except for school or extra classes, which my father takes me to. im not allowed to make friends, let alone invite them to hangout, or even my birthdays. im monitored 24/7, its suffocating. im not allowed to shave/wax, not allowed to dress the way i want/ speak what i want. not allowed to crashout. i cant cry, cant breathe.

i just wanna breathe. i cant wait to move out for college.

Someone said this:

"I want to say equally, but let's be honest most of us would be lying. I do slightly trust women more but it really depends on the situation, it just happens that i rarely see women that look like drug addicts or homeless compared to men. Like if I saw a nice looking old man Vs a dischelved women, I would trust the old man more."

Why wouldn't they trust a homeless person?

Sorry i didn’t know what flair to use reddit is new to me.(Just like a trigger warning this involves pretty rough and bad stuff involving kids)When I was 13, yes I know 😞. I really wanted to lose my V-card, before anyone says anything about this whole idea yes I’m aware it was stupid as fuck, I am 16 now. Anyways I met this girl online and she liked me and I liked her and we were talking for quiet a while and she did tell me that she wanted to do freaky stuff and she lived in a different area than me so I somehow convinced her to sneak out, get a train and than a bus at midnight to an abandoned house with a bed in it 🫩. We walked around my town at night talking for a bit and she brang a weed vape and I brang alchohol (we agreed to do this before) and I was already kind of tipsy as I was nervous so i drank. I always urged her to drink aswel as I was soooo nervous.We than started making out in the bed and I always asked her if she was ok to progress. She sometimes would say that she wanted to just not progress right now and keep on just doing stuff we were doing but eventually we ended up having sex. She gave consent as before I progressed in any way I asked for consent. We than just watched a movie together and chilled the rest of the might and the day after she asked to go out with me. Even talking about this cringes me the fuck out please keep in mind I’m 13 shes 14. We are than going out and once again after a week or two of going out she comes to do the same thing and she brings condoms this time and basically the same thing happens. After a month or two of dating I lose interest and I started talking to one of her friends and planned to meet up with her ( ik what a dick move) she found out and was so angry but somehow i convinced her to stay with me but after a few weeks i js broke up with her. She was so upset that she lost her v card to someone that she wont even stay with and was really mad. But we broke up on good terms.

Can I just say I am aware that I was an asshole to her regardless of the “rape” allegation. I really was just so immature and didnt understand emotions and how to treat people, I am a completely different person now.

Anyways so everything was going fine in my life without her until one of my friends says he heard lots of stuff about how I am “terrible at sex” and my dick was tiny and that she didn’t even feel it. And lots of private stuff about me. Didnt bother me that much but not nice to hear rumours about myself especially private stuff, all just petty made up stuff. I then was at a function drinking and I got very drunk and she was there and she confronted because Apparently I “raped” her. She repeatedly punched me and I was so drunk I had no idea what was going on and I knew I couldn’t hit her back so for 15 minutes straight she was shouting at me punching me in the face and I was screaming at her back just eating the punches as I was pretty numb. When I got home my face was completely bruised and swollen from the punching. A girl I know said that she told her that she planned to assault me that night and that was the only reason she went out. I had lots of mental health issues following weaks as I kept getting flashbacks of me just getting assaulted and just feeling of helplessness and how I couldn’t hit her back as if a video of me punching a girl I would be done for. I couldn’t ever sleep at night and I would always punch walls randomly. I ended up breaking my knuckles once from it. I didn’t think much of her saying I raped her though as I was super drunk and didn’t really comprehend it. Than a month later I started hearing about rumours about myself and how I raped a girl. Friends started asking me if I “really raped her?” Girls started ignoring me etc. my friends siblings knew and would tell their parents, my friends parents didn’t want me to hang out with them anymore, in the street I was walking with my mom and she was behind me and saw me and shouted “Rapist!” at me. This got so bad to the point I was fully convinced I raped her and she was the victim. Anyways this was really tough for me but tbh theres no more of the story, time just went on, everything slowly fizzled out and everyone forgot, but it always left a scar mentally for me. I noticed that it gave me a lot of trauma and affected my mental health a-lot leading to trust issues, anxiety, stress and other things. And i like to think I’m not a sensitive person either at all. Anyways I just sometimes feel to this day guilty about it for some reason like I always have and I just want to know how do I know if I didn’t rape her? Obviously not rape but sexually assault?

Heyo, so I’m a 16 year old girl, and I’m not quite sure where to start going about trying to find a significant other.

its not something I’m particularly trying to rush but I was raised as a very touchy feely person physically and emotionally and I’m in constant need of being able to talk to someone, and having someone who wants to talk to me because of who I am is something that’s always interests me.

im kinda trying to look for a relationship with a guy who just wants to be friends first but I don’t even know where to start looking.

of course theres no dating apps for teens (that my parents would let me have) and im not allowed to have discord, so im kinda stuck in a little limbo for information-

ive tried irl too but it just dousnt work out well for me, the Guys in my age bracket in my irl circle are all really mean and not really people id even wanna talk with, and the ones i am willing to talk with already have girlfriends and I don’t wanna make it weird by trying to befriend them

so yah, kinda stuck .-. any advice is helpful! thanks

How can I trust my gf that she won't cheat on me when she goes with her girls?

So for two days she is going with her friends on some party for girls night in other town.

We are both 18 and its our first relationship,I constantly overthink she will cheat on me she didn't gave me a reason but I always feel she will cheat on me.

Whenever I go somewhere she always ask who do I go with and for how long.I don't ever ask her that,but one time as test I did and she answered immediately.

She doesn't drink or smoke but I always feel she will cheat on me.What can I do.She is the most sweetest person but I feel she wil lcheat on me because a lot of guys message her and she always answered them and later she woul block them and showed me.

I need help for my overthinking,I feel like she is being banged by some chad.

So rn i have been going to the gym for 3 months, 3x per week doing PPL.

In 3 or 9 months i wanna start doing different plaj which i created and i need some insight on it

Day1: upper

-pec fly

-chest press

-shoulder press

-lat pulldown

-seated row

-biceps curl

-triceps press

-rear delts

Day 2: lower

-leg curl

-leg extension

-calves on machine

-abdominal crounch

-allahs

-incline press

Day 3: full body

-bench press

-dead lift

-squat

-cable face pull

-chin assist

-cable shoulder pull

-dips

What do yall think of it? Day one is mostly upper on machines to target right muscle groups, same with lower and day 3 is mostly exercises that work many muscle groups

I think I posted a lot about how I loved my bf (now ex) for like 3months, but two days ago I broke up with him because he genuinely didnt look like he liked me.
Before breaking up I asked him if he really liked me (a question that I never asked because im scared that i might be perceived as childish), and he told me 50/50. I was first so shocked because I put my all in this relationship, I genuinely loved him and he told me that he didn’t fully love me ?
Whatever, then when I told him that I wanted to break up he told me that he understood cause he plays a lot and he didn’t give me attention (??) I didn’t get that part as first, because you already know that but you still do it ?
And then I told him that we got tg after 2weeks anyway like it was too fast to tell if we were really made for each other and he told me “tbh my friend told me that I should do it as a joke so yeah.”. When I heard that I was heartbroken im not even gonna lie. I cant believe that I loved a guy so much but he didn’t care about me at all. Im so disgusted I dont think I want to love any guys now they’re so selfish and all. Plus I was cheated on two times with two of my exes so I thought that it was the one but apparently no.
I dont know what I should do I think im gonna stop relationships and guys for a while because im genuinely disgusted and so exhausted.

F2M friend: "Y'all... I'm scared. I think I'm a good person, but I really don't want to go to Heaven if my parents are gonna be there."

Conservative friend: "Oh don't worry, your parents are abusive pieces of shit. They're definitely going to hell."

Me: 🙂‍↕️

Conservative friend: "But ultimately so are you."

Me: "Well... No. That- no. I'm not getting into this rn, but no. And even if that were true, STILL NOT A GOOD TIME TO SAY IT!?"

has to be “🧫” bro what even is that

Friend: Disney would never make a movie like Prince of Egypt. They'd make Moses and Ramses gay.

Me: Say that to the Descendants fandom. We've been waiting for them to make two protagonist gay for each other for the past four movies.