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I’ve been talking to this guy who’s 19 turning 20. I’m 16, but my birthday is late so I consider myself kinda between 16-17ish. I work around adults and have had older friends, so I consider myself mature. To be honest, idk if he realises I’m 16 because I told him I’m 09 and he asked if I graduated high school, which I am next year. I don’t know if this is weird, he’s really nice and doesn’t seem overly sexual or weird towards me. Hasn’t told me I act older or anything like that either. We’ve already established boundaries and what we both want in a relationship, some of which I prompted first to make sure he wasn’t just going with what I said, which went well. Overall, he seems to be a nice guy and I know for a fact he’s 19 (we went to the same high school) so I know he’s not lying about it because I’m 16. I’ve also heard this is a maturity difference issue, but if guys mature later anyways I don’t think it’s too bad? I want advice on this and how I should handle it.

EDIT: I’ve never been liked/dated a guy before but he doesn’t know that. All he knows is I haven’t kissed anyone or slept w anyone and he hasn’t either lol so idk now

For some context i am 16m.

Okay, so my mom, Jane (fake name for obvious reasons) has been withholding my phone from me for a month now and every time I request to have it back she always says "I don't wanna talk about it." Now this isn't a problem because she took it, it's a problem because I bought the phone myself and want my stuff back.

The reason she took it is because I snuck out and got brought home by police. Me sneaking out is not (and never has been) a common occurrence so i gave my phone up willingly. I was told I would get my phone back on the June 30th, but here we are in July, and...

Since the 30th I have contacted my mom 3 times asking about my phone and every time she has said "I never said that you'd get it back on the 30th. I said we'll see."

We had a conversation about the issue, transcribed below:

Jane: "What, OP?"

Me: "Mom I need my phone back"

Jane: "I'm not talking about this right now."

Me: "Mom, this can't be an 'I don't wanna talk about it' thing anymore. I have spent most of my summer break inside"

Jane: "And who's fault is that?"

Me: "Mine, yes, but, mom-"

Jane: "'But mom' my ass! You could have died!"

Me (audibly upset): "Mom I paid for that phone, you can't just keep it!"

Jane: "I'm your mom, OP, I can keep it however long i wantt! I'll break that motherfucker and then you won't HAVE a phone."

Me: "Mom, I-"

(Jane hangs up)

After this, she returned to acting nice until I asked about my phone

Reddit, AITA?

EDIT: I now realize I left out a few important details.

1 - I have been exceedingly apologetic an understand my punishment

2 - The exact context of the police encounter is as follows:

I was on my way home but took a detour to a friends house, since they saw i was in the area and knocked on what i thought was their door for somewhere between 10-20 minutes before realizing it was the wrong door. After the realization I walked away and started toward the right door, but after about 5 mins the police pulled up, talked to me, had my mom talk to me and took me home.

3 - The money for the phone came from a side job i was doing.

4 - I was paraphrasing, i did not speak rudely.

EDIT 2:

To those suggesting chores and other things, I don't live with my mother, I live with her 3 brothers (aka my uncles, Dick, Larry, and Jacob(fake names))

The reason for this is her living situation (which would require a separate post..)

I can see some of your logic, however, I wanna debunk some things.

1 - I was sober. It was late, dark, and the houses in that area look similar.

2 - WE (as in me, Larry, and Jane) agreed on the 30th. She herself stated that my phone would return on June 30th.

3 - I have a very bad perception of time. What feels like 10 mins to me could have been 5, 5 may have been 2 ½...

4 - I DO NOT HAVE CELL SERVICE. My phone operates on Wi-Fi and I paid for it in full.

5 - All contact with Jane has gone through my one of my uncle's phones.

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