u/Aware-Release-68

okay so not really ex, we were almost in a relationship since we talked for 6 months (we were both romantically interested in each other). but that ended in may (it ended in me begging him not to leave and him blocking me). so i easily found out who he’s currently talking to because i’ve been stalking his reposts, comments, likes and im HIGHLY suspecting a girl who i think objectively looks worse than me, im completely hurt by the fact that hes talking to another girl even if i have a boyfriend. the girl doesn’t know anything, i followed her like two months ago and i cant help it, i dont know if theres a problem with me, i think it might be potentially creepy but i need another point of view argument so i dont immediately convince myself im a nutjob.

i never got over anyone ive ever been in a relationship with, i have a boyfriend now but i still think about the other boys i loved. i still cry, i never got over any of them, i still look at their social media profiles and i feel so bad thinking about how i was with them and thats why they left. i dont want to hurt my boyfriend at all and i love him but id immediately leave him if someone came back to me. im very obsessive and thats mostly why everyone leaves me. what do i do

i have no idea, i barely have friends and they dont talk to me about this at all so i want to know what is considered acceptable. or if you’re a girl, when did you start it? in my country its easy to be called a whore if you start too young (or at all, for whatever reason). and i only heard rumors about what some girls and boys are doing in my school but i feel like i still need advice on this topic.

my relationship with my boyfriend was very much online only, though we know each other for 10-11 months and took a few months to actually get together. there were a few things i communicated to him that bothered me, he had a LOT of girl friends and he was still friends with his ex. he always said that there was nothing in between him and his girl friends but there was something seriously fishy since he would constantly hang out with them in rotation. i saw he liked his ex’s post, he went to a city more far away than mine to meet up with another girl to celebrate her birthday (i kind of understood that but it still hurt me knowing we didnt meet yet back then). we chose a date to be official knowing that we wanted to be official for about a month (we chose 26th of june), now here is where the problems start - we HAVE been together for two months before the 26th of june (not casually, we both agreed that it was not casual). we finally met up at the beach for a week since he came to see me with his friends (one couple) AND it was supposed to be him, this dude that hes friends with and the couple. but the dude canceled on him last minute and my boyfriend instead of wanting to let me pay the hotel to stay with him in the same room…he called his brothers ex girlfriend (who is 20 and absolutely gorgeous) to sleep with her in the same bed so “i dont have to pay anything”. and he told me im overreacting everytime i tried to say something about him sleeping in the same bed with an older girl who looks wayyyy better than me. after a few days it was fine, i got along with the girl in the couple but nothing special. but then i saw a notification on his phone from his mom and decided to check it out on whatsapp, and there i saw his EX. i was speechless, i saw that the last time they talked was on the 1st of june (they called for an hour!!! and they were sending each other hearts, cutesy emojis and shit like that). i obviously confronted him, then i saw the other conversations with the other girls (almost all of them ending in the 1st of june or earlier) and found out he was talking to his ex for months without telling me. and flirting with other girls. i truly love him and i want to get over the fact that he cheated, he apologised and told me it would never happen again. but he cant understand how hurt i am, he keeps telling me “lets focus on the future”, i know he cheated two months ago but its still news for me. what do i do? i really could see myself with him in the future and working this out but i dont know how

especially if you are 15-17 years old with a girlfriend/boyfriend. do you do anything more than kissing, hugging etc? (im not a creep i just want to know whats common to do with my boyfriend since im meeting him soon)

i’ve known my boyfriend for 9 months. we’ve been on and off for a few months since i dont like his behaviour. He has multiple girl friends, more than me (he is friends even with his ex), and he cant seem to go out with anyone else but them. and he constantly reposts and likes other girls on tiktok and instagram. i really dont know if he is being unfaithful but today i woke up and saw that i cant find his location on bump, so i texted him “good morningg, why cant i find you on bump?” and he told me to look again and i saw him like 200km away, i asked him why didnt he tell me and he said it was a “surprise”. i already knew the last time he went in that town he met up with a girl friend of his (one on one, PRIVATELY) so i obviously asked if he is going there just to meet up with that girl again and he said “well practically no, theoretically yea. im meeting up with a dude and then going to another town to celebrate her birthday”. Keep in mind that town is another 150km away from his home so in total he travelled 350km. He keeps telling me he cant come to my town cause its too far but he just went to his girl friend’s town that is waaaay more far away. what should i do? and am i the asshole for not liking his girl friends?

if the post has to be verified thats okay, i have proof (sometimes people dont believe me). about my situation: my kid wasnt planned and i wont be going into details about conception since that would be uncomfortable for everyone.

this is not a body affirming question. You might not know about this deformity since its not the most common but it consists of the breast tissue being mostly in the areola, creating sagging, stretch marks and not very good aesthetics. if you think i didnt explain good enough you can give it a quick google search since the photos there can help you imagine it better.