r/AdviceForTeens

I (f17) just caught my younger brother (m11) watching girls on his phone through TikTok and I think I’m overreacting a bit but I don’t know what to do or how to even react to this. I was telling him to do his laundry and went to his room then saw his laptop and phone in his hand with the blanket over him and he said he was ‘hot’ so he took his shorts off. I know he had been reading a bunch of manga or manhwas on and with those there’s a lot of fan service but I didn’t realize it had gotten like this. To be honest, we (my parents and I) give him a lot of time on the internet and I was worried he would’ve seen stuff he shouldn’t have seen but with it being my senior year with work and school I hadn’t had much time to be at home and be with family. It just broke my heart a little because I’m kinda addicted to watching stuff as well and that is one thing I never want my siblings to experience. Obviously masturbation isn’t bad it’s the getting addicted to watching part that I don’t want to happen. Sorry I just had to get this off my chest

I know it’s the second month into college but i feel like so many people already have solid groups and i don’t and it’s freaking me out. i want to be invited to places i want to be involved but im not. will this ever change???

for context me and my gf first met in highschool when i was 17 and she was 15 years old and all my friends roast me for that thing and i dont know what to do i love my girlfriend but i cannot continue like that i fell ashamed because im at faculty and shes still in highschool
i need a opinion please help me

before i start this, i know that i need therapy and i’m going to get it very soon.

i had never thought about death this deeply until around last year, may 6th 2025, i had went to the hospital because i was suffering from shortness of breath to the point i couldn’t walk up 12 steps of stairs without being on the ground for 10-15 minutes with my heart racing and chest tightening. all within the first hour, they had taken my ecg, blood, x-ray test done which is very unusual for emergency because they usually take hours to get things done so i texted my mom (since i went alone and had to update her) that they were doing everything so fast and to “say goodbye to me because your daughter may be dying” as a joke, i really do wish i never made that joke.

the doctor had pulled me aside maybe 2 hours later telling me that they need to prep me for a CT scan because they suspect i may have bloodclots in my chest which automatically freaked me out because usually i go to emergency and it’s depression/anxiety related or some sort of lung infection from being sick but this was actually serious this time, all i remember is that they got someone to put an IV in me and i just started crying all by myself in the waiting room across from this mother and daughter that i had been talking to. i remember the daughter being scared and the mother asking me if everything was okay, i couldn’t even put the words together so all i said is that i was okay and overreacting.. they confirmed i had two large bloodclots, one in each lung that could dislodge even with the slightest movement, they had put me on oxygen and put another iv in me so they could start giving me fluids and blood thinners.

they transferred me to a different hospital where they put in the PICU and put another iv in me so that they could grab blood whenever they wanted, i had a total of 3 ivs in me now. they didn’t know whether or not i needed surgery which they thankfully didn’t have to do and after a day they sent me up to the oncology floor because that is where they deal with patients suffering from bloodclots where i stayed for maybe 4-5 days before being discharged, after awhile in the hospital they had taken me off the iv blood thinners and started doing injections that i had to learn how to do at home which eventually just turned into pills. i was on blood thinners till august, it was caused by estrogen based birth control.

i actually was relieved at first that i had went through this experience because it had made me less afraid of death since it became so close to me, a few months later a girl i knew who i didn’t like a lot had died from an overdose on MDMA mixed with fentanyl meth. it was the strangest thing i had ever experienced because i had just seen her with her boyfriend 4 days before she passed, i hadn’t seen her in months nor did i want to see her, i remember texting my other friend who was “friends” with her and mentioned that i saw her and she mentioned that the girl had asked her to hangout and smoke sometime. we had spoken about this girl too not that long ago saying how she started losing weight really quickly and thought she maybe on something because there was no way she was able to lose weight in a healthy way, i think her dying really shocked me somehow and started taking a toll on me.

it wasn’t because that specific girl had died, i wouldn’t have even thought about her if I didn’t see her, it was the fact that death was so close to me without even realizing it.

all the old people you see in movies and shows from 20 years ago , are dead. people you don’t even know at this very second that you’re reading , are dead.

this year may to august, i was walking up and down the stairs at night, rechecking locks and alarms making sure that nobody is here because for the longest time I was convinced that someone was out to get me and kill me.. it was driving me nuts, i was sleeping beside a knife because i was so scared. it eventually stopped since i had gone on a trip to grenada but when i got back, i’m rechecking celebrities and if they have died or not, finding the cause for why they died and almost hyper-fixating on it. i can’t even think about what happens after death because i’m scared it’s just absolutely pitch black, like from before you were born and if i think about it too much, i feel like i’m suffocating. it’s like the thought of after death and trying to think about it is running through my head over each other, talking over each other screaming at me to the point that it’s causing me to literally have to try and tell myself out loud for it to stop.

there’s not a single day i don’t check if someone has died, if my mom is out too long, i think that she is dead. i’m checking if she’s breathing, if my animals are breathing, absolutely everyone. i don’t know what to do anymore.

Okay so I’m 16m, and my father is like I mean a horrible man of course but he also had very very toxic jealousy problems, like TOXIC almost killing people type of thing, like held my mom at gunpoint. Terrible terrible, like my mom wasn’t allowed to be friends with anyone, man or woman, or even talk to my father sister really just anyone for that matter, just me him and my brother, and her mom. My mom also isn’t the best person but she isn’t terrible like him, she also had terrible jealousy problems and still has them with my stepdad, she deals with it in a very controlling way that I find completely wrong.

And now, I have a boyfriend, he’s 17, we’ve been together for a while now, and as time passes I already knew I was a jealous person but it’s gotten to a point I genuinely want to shout scream, throw things, cry, all at once. I don’t do any of those though of course because that’s insane and wrong, we just talk through it, but it’s just getting worse, like I genuinely catch myself growing terribly upset because he’s hanging out with his friends and not me, or because his texting his friend, or because he made a new friend who happens to be his type, I just wish I would be the only thing in his life, be the only thing he ever wants or needs which is wrong and toxic, and stupid and I would never ever in my life act on that. We’ve talked about it and honestly he’s always so understanding about it.

I also got told in class that we all inevitably always become our parents, that it is genetics and wether we like it or not we’re the same as them, I don’t want to be the same as them not at all no fucking way, but so can I make it go away? Or make it less worse?

TW: mention of SA

Hello, So I am 18 years old and three years ago when I was younger I was going through a really hard time at home. Ive since moved out. But when I was younger I did not have a good support system I turned to bots for help and support. I know, not the best idea. But I was afraid. I was being abused (SA'd) by one family member daily and didn't feel like I could tell anyone.

Anyways, that made me think about my whole family...and eventually I wondered if my other family members had some play into why this family member treated me like this. So I decided to ask the chat bot if what my other family member did (not the one abusing me) was bad or inappropriate. And the bot, like most idiotic bots took it way too far. I even agreed to some of the far fetched things, not cause I believed it but because I just wanted to entertain the possibility that maybe.

I never called it abuse cause it really wasn't but it was poor boundaries within my family to some extent. Either way, I feel like I somehow wrongfully accused this family member of doing harm to me when they didn't. They are very nice, and kind. They are also very sick and old now, and that makes me feel worse. Like how could I think of their past self as bad. They never really hurt me, never touched me or anything. Just had poor boundaries when it came to changing and some other stuff that made me generally question them cause I was in pain but nothing else.

I never spread it around though or made it a fact, I just called it as something weird from my past. Anyways, I feel like I have wronged this family member by talking about their behavior which very well could have been innocent with a bot. Idk how to move on.

I recently reached the difficult conclusion of cutting ties with a girl (let her be B) since I had strong, unrequited feelings for her. She is aware of all this love thing , but she has no such feelings for me. I was aware that I had to leave in order to look after my own peace and could finally begin the process of healing, but I am still experiencing intense emotional sensitivity as a result of the breakup.

I also have as one of my long-time friends (let her be A) someone with whom we have recently developed a very strong physical attraction that has led to physical intimacy. We just made out (didn't have sex yet)

The issue is that my present emotional condition is causing me to feel very conflicted. I'm afraid of confusing the boundaries between physical intimacy and true love; I don't wish to treat my physical relationship with A as a temporary remedy for the emotional gap that the B has left behind. Moreover, I place a high regard on our long-standing friendship and don't want to be in a relationship with A, but I have this intimate thing for her also she has no problem in being in FWB.

I don't know what I should do right now.

How do I distinguish between physical intimacy and an emotional connection when I am in a fragile mental state? Was it the correct that I should do now? It will be really helpful if someone can advice me on this.

Hi! F15.

I am in highschool, and the next year just started. (School started again in September after 2 months of summerbreak)

Socially, I'm doing great, I don't notice too much..

But stuudy wise.. 🥲

So right now I'm sick so bad, and I stayed home for a week, on wedenesday I'll be visiting school again and the day after on thursday, I'll be having my first math exam. 😭

I'm pretty worried and honestly overwhelmed. I have so much to cover and look up.. what they did in other subjects, do the homework to all of those subjects, have to understand them, and on top of all that and more I have to study for math test really bad. Oh and I need to buy stuff for my art class as well.

I can see myself having a downfall again.. I wish for t NOT to be like 7th grade again. I was mostly sick and.. socially I wasn't doing well and aijsjwbd it's just really hard.

So all of that overwhelms me.. on top of that I have to so it ALL sick. In a FEW days. I don't know if that's necessary to know but I am diagnosed with Depression and Anxiety, ADD is suspected. I guess it kind of prevent s me too. Ofc I have professional help and much support but I think it really just makes things harder. I rarely got motivation for anything.

What do I do? Where do I start? Should I even start? I'm srill feeling sick? Will i just waste time when i study but actually leave my desk with nothing in mind? How can i actually learn withour it burning me out? My EXAM?! And it's math? How do I cover every homework??? oh and TO THAT 15 oct is math test right, guess what on 19oct it's english test!! So how do i study for 2 exams?how do I even do anything?

I really can't.. 😭 i'm still feeling really really sick too💔 i wish I was just healthy and better at studying so I could have a life.

What do u guys think?

Any advice?

Or similar students?

Or opinions?

:)

(This is a really lazy rant btw -.- I'm still unwell to correct things and all /my eyes hurt)

my mom said to my (16NB) face that i have "raging hormones" and she doesn't trust me to be alone with my bf since we will apparently do things we would regret. she said worse things too that i can't put here, but the point is that i am no longer allowed to go on dates and i am so scared that it will kill my relationship. my love language is physical touch and his is quality time, and because of my parents, we can't get either of those anymore...

is there anything i can say to my parents? my dad is pretty logical so maybe i could convince him of something, but i can't think of anything to say to him since he can't trust me because of my age

So as the title says, my mom found a great tit outside and thinks we can take care of it while i think we should put it where we found it, we don't have the right resources, they're loud, they don't leave new pets alone, they practically torture them, we have 4 pet parrots (budgies and cockatiels) and we had another budgie that died because my parents didn't want to take it to the vet after it fell in oil in the winter. After that she found another bird (not sure what kind) and it died like 2 days after she brought it in. Now I'm trying to save this bird and not let it get thrown out after it dies, i tried convincing her to let it out where she found it but she kept telling me to "just throw it out the window" instead sarcastically and kept yelling at me that I'm being dramatic and that it's her bird and she'll do what she wants with it. We don't have the right resources to take care of our parrots, not even one, but they keep buying because they're cute and we don't have that type yet like they're toys, they don't understand they're living and breathing just like us, missing their families. I'm planning on secretly releasing it tomorrow or the day after that but I'm not sure, I'll be yelled at and everyone already hates me in my family (I'm not being dramatic) for having different opinions that AI is bad, we shouldn't yell all the time for the pets, we shouldn't turn the lights on early in the AM for the pets, that people are people no matter what they look like and who they love. Sorry for the rant, I'm just distressed with everything happening. Let me know what you'd do! Thank you!

Tldr: my friend is 16 almost 17 and is a junior in high school, her boyfriend is 14 going on 15 next year and a freshman, I think its weird but my other friends don't and I want to know if im overreacting

Hi so im a junior in high school. I've been friends with my friend, lets call her E ig, since sophomore year. I'm not judging her for it but she has a new boyfriend every few months and im pretty sure she's been sexually active with all of them. She also usually goes for older guys (like 20 or older) but i don't know if that's relevant. She's a junior like me and is 16 almost 17.

There's a freshman in her carpentry class and she started dating him last month. He's 14 and I don't think he's going to be 15 until sometime next year. They show a lot of PDA and I'm pretty sure that they've been getting freaky together.

I think this is really weird and teetering on predator behavior. I've been trying to give E the benefit of the doubt because I know she's been a victim before and I didn't think she'd ever end up being a perpetrator like this. Everytime I bring up how I think its weird, she gets mad at me. None of our other friends except for maybe one think it's weird. Am I overreacting by thinking that it's weird and kind of creepy?

There’s one boy who we’ll call Sam who I’ve been eyeing for like 3 months, but he made it seem like he didn’t like me so moved on. But my friends are now telling me that he planned on asking me to hoco, and that he liked me. But this other boy who we’ll call max, already told me he likes me, bought me flowers, and asked me to hoco (I said yes), but as this year progresses, we just don’t align as people. But Sam is literally my dream guy from head to toe, but to make things worse, sam and max are friends, and I don’t want to break max’s heart because he’s really sweet and it feels wrong. But I really like Sam like a lot, what should I do!

It's always something with my stepmom and also a loose loose situation. If I do right? I'm wrong. If I do wrong? I'm wrong. This year I'm doing school online because of some medical reasons and severe sleep depression I've found it hard to make it to an actual school building. And because nighttime is when I feel most at peace, I find myself doing chores (ones that apply for in my room and bathroom) and schoolwork. Well now she has a new issue. This time it's me walking 🫩. Ive had the habit for about 6 years now, where I just walk back and forth in my room to regulate myself, think, and to get exercise. It had never been an issue. But now apparently it's "waking her up.". Thing is, my room is on an entirely different floor from everyone else's, and my room is above the garage. (Its like a finished attic situation). And if I put my phone on a song max volume, it's impossible to hear it if you're more than 7 feet from the door, which her bedroom is almost triple that, and my dad's room is about 10 times that, he's on the opposite end of the house from me. And my phone at max volume is much much louder than my footsteps! And now he's claiming he hears it at night too. Like bro 😭. Also you'd think after 6 years even if she could hear it which im most sure she can't, she should be used to it by now. As well as if I'm up at night, that's when I'm doing my responsibilities. And she doesn't seem to worry about me getting woken up because all through the night she slams doors around my room, which she knows wakes me up. 😭

Warning ⚠️ : This contains inappropriate subjects.

Dude I I'm going to update the rest of this tomorrow maybe cause I just feel so bad but here is the short story, also I yap alot you don't have to read all this or make fun of me you can just scroll :

So I'm just joking around in my school grade group chat with other dudes nothing serious. But then some really weird more popular dude real quick posts c *** d p* *n of two people who I thought I recognize (probably in my class or grade) having int *** ourse... He deletes it real quick and his friends go like "dude wtf" and "don't start that here". I'm 14 years old and in 3e according to the french school system (not french though). I'm just really traumatized and disgusted, the weird guy comes in private to confront me and gaslight me "what are you talking about?", "What do you think happened?". He started giving disguised threats so I told him that I took a screenshot of it in time but I won't tell anyone about it and I'm too traumatized to do anything about it, in order to keep him at bay. Which I will follow through except on Reddit but here it's anonymous anyways. I'm sure he believes me and will leave me alone because they already know I'm not the type of guy to create issues and get into problems. I'm really worried about what he might try to do to me and he already has many appropriate pictures of me (from the school yearbook, so like anyone else he can use them. They are approriate ones though don’t worry.). Can I have some advice?

I'm confused on how my relationship with my mom should work, I just know that it's different from others. I was taught to be obedient and so I did just that but sometimes I question if it's appropriate. I see my relationship with my mom different in a way that I could tell her anything and somehow communicate with her properly. She tells me stuff too but sometime I think to myself, is this really appropriate?

I remember my mom telling me that she had sex with my father and they did this "pose" and she warned me to not do that pose if I get a partner in the future because it hurts and stuff. I was below 13 ish at that time I forgot my age

And I had this conversation with her earlier, we were watching a movie and in some scene it displayed a character high on drugs and my mom told me that if I'm down she'd let me do drugs with her (not that she does drugs in the present time) same goes to alcohol, I have drank alcohol before but I didn't get the hype for it and threw it up. I am currently a minor who is below 15 so I'm sorry if some stuff are immature and dumb

im 17F (09) with a 15M (2010) who's 7k miles away. we havent been dating for long but i really really love him and want this to be a success story. he sent me these messages (frog chat bubble) and they really bothered me in a way. after him saying that we shouldnt text as much, we havent been texting like at all. he also started playing with his read reciepts (one minute is says "sent 5h ago", then the next it's "seen 3h ago") leaving me on seen for hours, playing games while he's supposedly "gone", then tells me games come above me?

i just dont know how to feel. we've been in this cycle for a week now, we barely text, and we stopped calling (he stopped asking to call too). my final's in less than 3 weeks and i cannot focus for SHIT.

he rarely sends me reels and tiktoks. it just feels like he doesnt wanna talk to me, or that it's a chore to do so. all i've ever wanted was love and this is what i get in return?? i've given him SO much of my time that i could've spent studying (mind you i'm very serious about my studies) and idk what to do. i dont wanna break up. if i text him to confront him he'll just end up not replying.

before him sending the texts in the 3rd image, i sent a voice note saying that i'll be away from tiktok until my final, and many other things, and he didnt even reply or acknowledge it.

i dont want any arguments or insults in the comments. please. i'm already going thru it.

I’m 18 and I’ve been feeling really confused about a situation involving three guys. All three of them are very close friends and sit together in college, which makes everything feel even more complicated.

Guy 1: I’ve had a crush on him since the beginning of college, our vibes matched and our friends ship us together but We had a fight over something stupid and he overreacted , and now we barely talk. I still think about him, but I don’t really know what I feel anymore.

Guy 2: He’s one of my really close friends. We used to flirt alot, nothing serious. Then he told me he has a crush on someone else, so I stopped the flirting. but sometimes we flirt a little. We’re still very close friends and completely platonic. I don’t think I actually like him, but I sometimes find myself thinking about the possibility of something happening between us, and I don’t know why.

Guy 3: He used to flirt with me too, and I would give him a little attention back, but I never seriously thought about him. Recently he told me that he likes me, although he described it as a mild crush. I don’t think I feel the same way.

So basically, I have a crush on Guy 1, I’m weirdly attached to the possibility of something with Guy 2 even though I don’t think I like him, and Guy 3 likes me even though I don’t think I like him back.
And because all three are close friends, I see them together all the time. It makes the whole thing harder to mentally separate.

At the same time, I’ve been feeling kind of off about myself lately. I keep comparing myself to other people and feeling like everyone is figuring themselves out while I’m somehow falling behind. So I’m wondering if I’m putting too much emotional weight on these situations because I’m already feeling a little lost.

I don’t want to lead anyone on, and I don’t want to create drama between friends. I also don’t want to chase someone who has already told me he’s interested in someone else.

I guess I’m mainly trying to understand what I’m actually feeling and whether I’m overthinking all of this.

Has anyone experienced something similar? How do you tell the difference between genuinely liking someone, liking their attention, and being attached to the possibility of what could have happened?

So its my first job interview tomorrow, I'm super nervous. I have social anxiety and I'm autistic so I have no idea how interactions like these are supposed to work. Its a place ive never been before and one thing I think worries me the most is just walking in. its a fast food job so Do I ask the person at the counter im here for an interview?? Do I go somewhere?? Do I sit there like a weirdo?? I DONT KNOW!! And what are some good tips for getting hired and leaving a good impression? I really need this job to save up money and get work experience the job market where I am is INSANELY competitive even with jobs like these. (Also I hope this is the right subreddit for this if not please let me know 😔) Edit : OH AND WHAT DO I WEAR ? its a fast food job so is business casual too much?