r/AdviceForTeens

So, I think I already mentioned but I might have OCD, I even asked on advice on how to get my mom to take me to a therapist.

But the thing is my mom genuinely refuses to believe me, don't get me wrong im not looking to self diagnose or smth but I genuinely wanna know, she literally thinks Im autistic yet refuses to take me to one.

And know im genuinely also doubting myself, I've already talked to my older sister about it and she agrees taking me is a good idea. But idk what to do, in my country I could literally do it for free yet she still doesn't give in.

I was telling her how terrified I was of going to hell last night while sobbing and she just laughs, she tried comforting me with how she also was scared sometimes of going to hell, but she didn't starve herself because of it, neither did she get away from all her friends, nor did she obsessively read the bibble all day out of fear, im just hurt she laughed. It's so frustrating because I could talk to her about literally anything but this topic.

my boyfriend and i (both 17) are aware that our relationship will have to end soon, he’s dropping out of college to work full time then next july leave england for the forceable future to travel and teach abroad. we know well have to break up some time before the next college year but we decided to see the relationship through till then because we both still love each other very much. however, he already works a lot now and is planning to go full time in the summer so i only get to see him, outside of 45 min college lunch break, maybe every 2/3 weeks. whenever i say how much this upsets me he usually reminds me that he still gets to see me in college. hes told me before that in the list of his priorities of his days off that going to gigs with his friends are above me, even when he knows we dont have long left and every day we can see each other counts. i work too but manage to find free days but his schedule seems constantly busy. he went to a gig all day yesterday and i heard from him three times the whole day, which is fine because i thought wed get to catchup today in college but the he had texted me at 1AM saying he isnt coming in. i know this may seem small but college is literally one of the only times i get to see him anymore and its hard to have a proper conversation over text so it just hurts me a bit that he is choosing to not come into college because hes tired from a gig when he always says to me how him not seeing me on weekends is okay because we have college. its a small incident but its the principle of it that upsets me because he tends to do this a lot. but once again, maybe i am just too clingy idk please give me some advice :)

edit: just remembered he has another gig tonight too which im sure he wont be missing

this is extremely embarrassing to admit. yesterday I

was at school when i got "excited" so to say. it feels so cringe to type out. now usually i would never do something like this but i went to the bathroom to deal with it. the bathroom stalls are completely enclosed, floor to ceiling. i did what i did. but today in fourth period, i found out from a guy i know that "apparently someone in the year group above has a video of someone in our year gooning in the toilets" (his words). from what he told me, it was recent, and the guy got the video by pushing his phone through the roof tiles above the toilets (from the cubicle next to it). so obviously it is likely a video of me. what are the chances it was someone else at the same time? im absolutely terrified, and ive felt sick since he told me. apparently nobody knows who it is yet, the video hasn't been shared to my knowledge, or at least not far. but word has spread. im walking home right now and i dont know what to do. im 15, surely this is illegal. i dont want this to get out. ive honestly had a situation like this, this is too stressful. its been hard to breathe, and i can't stop thinking about being known for that kind of thing. i hate this. i dont want to tell anyone so soon just for the slightest chance it might not be me. but i know its likely and im just really scared about the whole thing. i could play it off

with a laugh if it gets out, but id still never hear the end of this. i dont know what to do. im sorry about how messy and repetitive my phrasing is.

I was on youtube and I was calling out someone with thousands of subscribers in a comment section for literally lying about something with concrete evidence.

And then I got notified by them making a post using AI to say I’m wrong. and 10+ of their supporters tagged me with insults in the comments. like they literally brought a whole army, to start systematically tagging me and say I’m wrong because google ai said so. Like I don’t care about petty online things like this but it’s actually talking to brick walls. wtf am I supposed to do in this situation hello

Also no smart replies of “just find people at school” because just about everyone there are either assholes or just annoying. I do have some friends at school but they’re usually just the kind to mess around and they don’t really have much more for me past that tbh

Oh yeah and I know that I’m a pretty frequent poster on this sub, but don’t know many other places to ask this

I don’t even know where to start with this, I don’t like being required to hang with people my age. I’m limited to only seeing other people at school because I live in a rural suburban area where there’s just about nobody around except for people at 15 I’m apparently either too old to hang out with or too young to hang out with. So I’m pretty much stuck in my room most days, and anytime I actually find a cool spot in the woods I’m not allowed there because it’s too dangerous which means I have just about nowhere to go.

Yes there is a “park” in my neighborhood but that’s pretty much just a warehouse playground set that’s pretty much falling apart and just about nobody above the age of 12 years old is going there

i have quite a lot of disabilities and mental health struggles and a ton of other BS I'll get into

are there any jobs that i could get or do i have to change my requirements

Accomodations: I cant stand up for long periods of time, i cant be around loud noises or sensory, i can barely shower on a good day so its gonna have to be work from home (i also cant drive and my parents won't take me to work) i cant talk to people so no customer service, i don't have an official education over 7th grade (I'm home schooled) and i can't handle food or bugs and im very prone to panic and anxiety attacks as well as Pathological demand avoidance (i get freeze and get extreme anxiety when told to do something, yes this a real thing, i wish i didn't have it it makes my life hell)

Pay: just pain me minimum wage and I'll do the work please i just need a job

I've tried art commissions but no one tries to order any abd i cant make a kofi account because i cant get either of the payment methods and I don't want to bother people

i can't do adopts because again i cant get the payment methods and no one wants any from me

ive tried pet sitting and babysitting but my parents won't let me and the only times im allowed are for family friends and my parents won't let me keep the money or won't let me get paid at all

do i need to lower my standards in order to get a job but risk hurting myself or is there actually a chance for me?

My girlfriend’s mom died a few weeks ago and its made a pretty bad impact on our relationship because shes (understandably) always in a bad mood. We get into a lot of fights over the smallest things and when we try to work them out she starts crying very hard and i dont know how to console her because i know shes not angry at me shes just angry at her situation

Does anyone have advice on how to help her through this?? Ive never dealt with grief myself and i tried searching things up on google and tiktok but i cant find anything that works. Weve been together since we were 14 and ive know her and her family for my entire life and it just makes me feel really bad that i cant find the right words to help out. I love her so much and i want to be able to help her

i (16f) am a very good driver. i've never had any issues, never been pulled over, everyone who has rode with me has complimented my driving. today, i was trying to turn left out of a parking lot with my friend in the car. both ways were clear so i went, but there was also a red light the way i was turning so i was just trying to go into the turning lane to wait for an opening. i drive a very big truck so i need a little bit extra room to turn. again, nobody was there, so i had room to go a tiny bit into that lane so that i could turn completely. well, this lady sped up a bunch and i didnt see her in time and ended up bumping into her. i completely freaked out and hyperventilating i drove up a little bit to turn into a parking lot to get it sorted out and it was a busy road so it took a minute and as i was waiting, this lady gets out of her car and comes up to my window and starts yelling at me to pull over because i damaged her car and she needed to call the police. that does not help me freaking out. she was so rude to me and i was already hysterically crying. anyway, cops came and they said im not gonna get a ticket or anything but i still feel so horrible. ive never had anything like this happen and i feel horrible that my friend was in the car with me. her mom came to pick her up and stayed with me until my parents got there and she was so understanding but i still feel horrible.

Okay so i (15f) and the guy ive been "talking to" (16m) have set up lunch together tomorrow, the issue is... wve never talked in real life, like maybe a hi but thats it.

Weve been talking on insta for a few weeks and both said were too shy and we gotta just deal w it and talk to eachother so now were going to talk during lunch period.
Any advice on how to not be awkward/terified? i genuinely feel like im gonna throw up i get so scared by this guy lol.
Were both super quiet and im just scared itll be super awkward

I’m 21 and living in Canada with my parents. I’m very lucky that they let me live at home and support me, so I don’t pay rent or major living expenses right now. But with the economy and cost of living being what it is, I feel an immense amount of anxiety every day.

This anxiety looms over me all the time. Even when things are technically okay, I feel like I’m constantly waiting for something terrible to happen and for my whole life to collapse overnight.

My biggest fear is that something will happen to one of my parents, especially my dad, and everything stable in my life will disappear in that moment. I pray every day that nothing happens to them, but the fear is always there. It feels like if I lost that support, I wouldn’t just be dealing with grief, I’d also have to figure out how to survive, afford housing, and keep myself afloat, and I honestly don’t know if I could.

I feel guilty even writing this because my fear is tied to losing people I love, not just losing financial security. But both things are connected in my mind, and it makes me feel trapped. I don’t know how to build a life stable enough that I wouldn’t fall apart if something happened.

Has anyone else felt this kind of anxiety while still living at home? How do you start becoming more independent when the cost of living feels impossible, and the fear of losing your safety net is always at the back of your mind?

I'm going on a school trip in a few days and I have no female friends. There are some I'm friendly with and I put their names on the form.

But apparently the people I put down are in a group of 4 who all put each other's names down. I know I'm probably going to be in that group and even if I'm not, I'm going to be intruding on their fun.

They're all going to be gossiping/talking and sharing sweets or whatever girls do and I'm just going to be there.

They'll probably hate me, even though they'll pretend not to and try to be nice to me. I'm probably going to try to be outside of the room as much as possible, just walking around, but do you have any advice?

My boyfriend has a really close friend group and I’m starting to question the relationship because of the people he surrounds himself with.

One of his friends once looked up my skirt on the stairs and didn’t even look away until i saw them looking and walked out. Another constantly talks about corn, reposts screenshots of girls, and is generally disrespectful. Another one is openly misogynistic online, watches gore constantly, talks about corn all the time, and apparently even got banned from Discord before over really disturbing content involving minors. Only one of the friends seems genuinely normal and respectful.

The problem is that these kinds of conversations happen in their group chats all the time, and my boyfriend still stays very close with them. I don’t know if I’m overreacting, but being around this dynamic makes me uncomfortable and honestly changes the way I see him too.

I’m starting to wonder if the people someone chooses to stay close to says something important about their own values. Would this be a valid reason to leave a relationship?

idk i feel like my parents would prob say 18+ but i feel like with protection + safety it doesn't matter man idk though. like is it not just a more mature level of intimacy? i would say 16-17. idk idk idk

14F. so basically, I have some friends in my class, S N L H K A. But S, N, L, H, K all collectively hate A. In my school, all classrooms have seats in rows like:

[seat][seat]____________[seat][seat]

[seat][seat]____________[seat][seat]

and in my class, I'm the only friend of A. so she always sits with me. but if she sits with me, my other friends won't talk to me, not because they're mad but because they do not physically want to be close with A and they don't want A to hear their conversations. I don't hate A, but I prefer S N H over her.

I am a more empathetic type of person, so I don't think i could unfriend A (because the only way to unfriend A is if I directly say it to her, because she's super bad at social clues so distancing myself from her wouldn't work). and plus, A is also friends with one of my closest friends, R; and often hangs out in R's friend group; so it would make it awkward.

HELP ME 😭. I want to talk to my other friends in class, but A always sits with me.

In October 2024, during Grade 11, I went through something personal that led me to switch to online school. Around that time, my friend group stopped being there for me and we fell out. It hurt a lot, especially seeing them still hang out on social media, but eventually I started to move on.

In February of this year , one girl from that group reached out. she apologized and said she genuinely regretted how she treated me and that it had been weighing on her. We ended up calling for hours, and later 2 girls from that friendgroup came over to my house so we could talk and reconnect. They both apologized in person, and it actually felt really good and genuine. When we’re together, things feel normal again I don’t feel judged, and we still have the same fun dynamic we used to have.

We don’t go to the same school anymore, but we still live in the same area. It’s my last year here because I’m moving away for university in September, and I really want to spend the summer with people I actually care about and feel good around. We used to have so much fun together in the summer.I’ve been thinking about asking them to get closer again and make plans this summer like we used to,like i want to be included in there group but I don’t want to come off as desperate or pushy. We don’t talk much but when we do it’s never awkward or weird. i snap them and we sometimes call but yeah . What do you guys suggest i do .

For context I’m a 15 nearly 16 year old male, really self conscious about being skinny (genetically) and kinda short (5,6 I think) at least by my school standards, in year 11.
I mainly take my dads genes being skinny but have some muscle but I also have something to where I grow a full beard in like only a few days and my parents (mum and stepdad) really don’t like it. I think it’s because they want me to be young and the usual one where they want me to be their “sweet baby boy” type shi forever and I’m the opposite, hating the way I look without it.
It gets to the point where we start arguing over it every week because they have the rule of shave every Sunday then I won’t have it at school.
To add to this every time I shave I get ill wether it be a cold or what but I got home today (still ill) and my mum goes still sick so I say yeah, really just not feeling good and pulls the “oh it’s all in your head” so I get proper annoyed and just walk away saying I’m not shaving in college and she pulls another one being the “as long as you live in my house” card.
So anyway if u guys got any tips for this being just arguing back or shaving at specific times pls tell me. 😭

I'm 15(f) and I only have one friend. During the school year I'll have a few people I talk to, but we only talk in school. I'm a straight female but at the beginning of the year I had a girlfriend. We kissed occasionally but I broke it off when I felt too uncomfortable with the relationship. aI only agreed to date her because I enjoyed being friends, (For context, we were on and off friends and randomly after a year of not talking she messaged me saying she missed me and wanted to be friends again.) and wasn't sure of my sexuality. So, I haven't had a boyfriend or even been friends with a straight guy in multiple years. I feel like I'm behind in my social life. All my other friends have at least one group of people they can hang out with but I just have that one person. Me and this person have been friends for around 8 years, so she's almost like family to me.

In middle school, I had way more fun than now. Now that I'm in high school, I feel like all that's changed is I feel more excluded from others. I've lost countless friends during middle and now high school. I feel like I'm slowly losing the things that are important to me.

Along with this, I don't enjoy doing anything. I don't enjoy watching shows, playing games, or whatever other hobbies. I have bad habits of reading and watching things that are morbid or "edgy". I just feel like a bad person and I'm scared of getting older and not getting any better. Does anyone have any advice on improving or enjoying my teenage years?

I’m just so goddamn tired of getting hurt, every time i think I found my place i keep getting kicked back into reality.
It’s not the first time and won’t be the last and honestly I’m just tired I’d rather cut everyone off and die on my own but that’s not the subject

But i keep noticing this pattern happening to me too much, I find a friend group i feel somewhat belong in i feel good with.
And then after some time its like something would shift and suddenly i just feel terrible.

Sometimes its the dynamic inside, sometimes it’s just people I find out aren’t as great as they first seemed and sometimes i swear they just flip on me outta nowhere? Like everything becomes a conflict, and i don’t want conflicts it drains me and it wrecks me and I’m trying to avoid unnecessary drama as much as i can.

But why does it keep happening to me with different people all the time? I see everyone else have their social life figured out be having life long friends they can genuinely trust but for me each time it ends up just hurting.

I don’t know anymore if the problem is in me? Am i doing something to make everyone go against me? I genuinely don’t understand what’s going on anymore. For the record I have social anxiety but i do open up when i feel comfortable enough the thing is that it just makes it ten times harder to get dumped or leave again and to find new people I just can’t take it anymore.

What do I even do? I genuinely just rather go full isolation and be over with all that bullshit i got enough to deal with on my own without having another people’s drama.

I have this friend who is 17 and he's kinda rude. Like, when hes mad about something he'll find a way to take it out on me by being rude or criticizing something I do or say even if im not talking to him. And its usually always me he takes it out on not our other friends. Idk if its because im the youngest in the friend group or what. But he never apologizes for it either. I've told him im sick of him being rude and snap back at him and he either ignores me or makes an excuse. One time I was talking to him and then the conversation ended and he went closer to me and didnt say anything so I thought he was gonna whisper something to me but instead he goes "Can you get the fuck out of my way" and it was super embarrassing especially because his other friends were there. And if i was in his way he could've just said "excuse me" and there was plenty of room for him to walk around me he didnt HAVE to go through the space I was in. It's not like im mean to him or anything that would make him act this way towards me and nobody else so I dont know what to do.

I 15m am addicted for 2 years now and i Trier to quit multiple Times but i always cant Keep it... like i try and last two days and i want to sleep but i cant if i dont goon. I goon 1 or 2 a day and i want to quit... please help me if anyone hat this to