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Soo I did just wanna say how much my mental state has improve, it could be because of one of my friends but I’ll let you ask about that yourselves so that those who don’t want to hear about it don’t have to

yes I’m coming out to my brother in the coming week and I am committing to that since if I don’t I will continue putting it off. this also means that I have removed one of the main barriers to me getting fem clothes! I can’t wait, it’s a reason to get it done before the weekend

also for those of you here can I have some ggd pleas? Zoey (she/her)

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Hii internet people, I need some recomendations for hairstylles for while im growing my hair out and want some advice on asking to get girly clothes.

so for my hair I have no natural part in my hair and I want something simple that means it wont get in my eyes as much.

and for the girly clothes i just want advice on how to ask my parents

Thank you all in advance

Hii all i have a few things going on and also need a little advice.

so first of all I installed Ubuntu Linux today I am so much of a stereotypical transfem. I am also getting a bunch of assignments at the start of next week and am stressed about that. i am managing a... weird friendship because i have a crush on this friend (she knows) and even though she is really close with me to the point that we have been accused of dating she just really really likes me as a friend, if you want more details about this ask i will respond. while writing this i realized that well I have always been a girl in my dreams. i really want to come out to my brother since he uses gendered language for me so much and i really struggle with that, i think im going to tell him either tonight or tomorrow and now Ive committed to a bunch of internet people i have to. im also really board so just ask me questions that i will answer as long as they are not to personal. also feel free to give advice on any of this that you feel you can.

also as mentioned in the post can i have some ggd pls Zoe she/her

I fixed my laptop bag today! I feel so feminine right now :3

But anyway what this body is actually about, I’ve seen this format before and have way too much going happening to explain in one post so please pick a number and I will reply talking about that thing

1. Complex friendship
2. School stress
3. Extracurricular Activities
4. Depression
5. Getting help
6. The good things
7. New hobbies
8. Add this to also be called a good girl/ good boy/ good they depending on your flair

And please can I have some ggd I’ve been feeling down lately

I’m not sure what flair this post should have but this post is asking for advice on dating/ a more than friends relationship and both me and the person I’m talking about are weirdos so I think it fits this sub.

So I have a very weird and queer friend group (that context is important) The main person I will talk about in this post who I will call X is gender fluid and pansexual (again this context is important). I have known X for 3 years and I’m transfem and also pansexual. What I need advice on is that I have had a crush on X for 2 of those years and have been jealous of one of my friends who has let’s say a very close relationship with X. I’ve started making ‘jokes’ about how I’m jealous and then got worried I had ruined my friendship with X but this afternoon I had asked one of my other friends for help seeing if I was correct and uhh well let’s say that I have definitely not ruined my relationship with X and she even called me cute (my other friend just screenshotted the messages and sent them to me on discord). X also wanted me to add her on discord so I don’t know if I’m interpreting this wrong or if X actually likes me back.

I’m sorry if my story is unclear I will clarify things in the comments if needed, Please give advice and encouragement if you do think X likes me back.

Thank you all :3

So this is for those of you who saw my post earlier if you didn’t here’s the link: https://www.reddit.com/r/egg\_irl/s/jwDqddUOBS I need to clarify a few things.

1. My parents are actually really supportive (I will explain later in the post) the reason they said that was more curiosity and making sure I knew that trans isn’t the only reason people dislike their bodies- they apologised afterwards and understood that I saw it very differently to them.
2. I’m getting therapy!! This probably seems like such a silly thing to be exited about but I recognise that I need it and that it will help.
3. They were both teachers and now my mum is working as a deputy principal- dealing with mainly inclusivity and engagement, my dad works as a HOSES (Head of special education services) so he deals with many kids much weirder than me and getting them engaged in school. They both used to work as HODs (head of department) for student wellbeing so they understand and have seen some horrors that happen towards queer kids at school- their want for me to take it slow is from a place of trauma and concern rather than transphobia.
4. I just want to say I’m doing better, the thoughts have gotten quieter and I just rewatched my favourite movie (Project Hail Mary).

Thank you all for the help in my last post and your understanding that I messed up and left out some details.

Please don’t give ggd but do comment if you’ve seen Project Hail Mary or just with words of encouragement.

I’ve been wanting to come out to my brother for weeks but am so scared, he is so accepting and welcoming to everyone (sometimes to his detriment) but I’m so afraid, I have about 40 minutes until dinner after posting if you have any words of advice or encouragement please comment (no ggd I don’t want to OD)

Please?

So I see lots of people on here worrying that they are rushing their transition so I wanted to tell my story. So my egg cracked on the 2nd of may 2026, I came out to my friends on the 6th of may just 4 days later, I came out to my parents on the 9th of may 3 days after that. Regrettably I waited until the 12th of July to start using my chosen name. For any of you that think you are rushing, your not- your taking it at your own pace and are entirely valid for that.

:3 love you all

So if you have been keeping seeing my posts you will have context for this but if not a brief backround is that i have recently started using my chosen name with my freinds while we arent at school. I have been really strugelling at school since whatever i chose to do I have a risk of being pushed over the edge to suicide, I really have 2 options. Option 1 is that i start using my chosen name at school and risk more bullying that could push me to suicide (only a few kids but they have got me close before). Option 2 is that I keep using my deadname at school for the rest of the year and once those kids that will bully me leave (they are planning to leave at the end of year 10 because they want to gointo apprenticeips) but i risk suicide from the deppresssion i will/already have from using my deadname. Can i have advice and maybe ggd- it makes the thoughts go away even if its temporary (Zoe She/Her)

Im sorry for my bad spelling and grammer. I also appoligise if this is a bit heavy for this sub if it is can you please recomend places to post it.

So today I was playing D&D with my friends and was getting whiplash (best way to describe how it felt) when my transfem friend and one of my other friends would call me Zoe then while the rest of them aren’t putting in as big of an effort to use my chosen name, I like them as friends and don’t want to cut them off but it’s starting to hurt hearing my dying name since I know how good it feels to use a name that doesn’t make me dysphoric. Can you please give me advice, I’ll answer any questions in the comments and can I have ggd if you think I deserve it (Zoe she/her)

Thanks for reading :3

So the title is correct I finally told my mum my preferred name :3. She took it really well even though she has said we need to get better at talking about this in person (I texted her to start with) she had some questions but is really supportive. She has the concern that if we start using my preferred name at home she may mess up and use it with people who don’t know yet, I think her concern is valid but also her calling me Zoe for the 20 minutes while we had that conversation felt surreal it was so good. What do you all think, should I risk her accidentally outing me or should I wait? (For context I live in a small town so word would get around fast) also I’m requesting ggd (Zoe she/her)

I apologise if this is kinda messy, I can clarify anything in the comments

So I’m going to get fem clothes when I go on a trip for a week long workshop, I need to tell my mum that I want to do this and use my preferred name rather than my deadname. I have told her I am trans and she is supportive but I’m still scared to tell her my plan even though I’m sure it will go well. Can you lovely people please tell me it will be alright, ggd would also be appreciated Zoe (She/Her)