u/Personal-Cap-5446

I feel a bit insecure as a woman into role reversal.

I’m 5’3 and quite weak and slim. Other than RR i’m super insecure about my physique. I fear I cannot hold my own or even protect myself, let alone others like my boy. I find it difficult to be dominant/taking the lead when I feel so inferior physically. And I know it’s not my fault and that my body is perfectly doing its own thing but still… I know RR guys like muscled up women and tall women.

And I know I can dominate despite my physique. But I still wish my physique was tall and domineering, strong and forceful. Instead I just have a short stature and curves in certain places. Idk about you guys but to me that doesn’t scream dominant :( When others look at us, I hate that they will always assume my boy’s the one who takes the lead because of his physique vs mine. I hate it. DAE?

On an overnight school trip, I 17F developed a crush on a 17M guy (B). We first interacted after I asked him and another guy (A) for help when I got locked out of my accommodation. B was a bit quiet, while I naturally talked more to A because I already knew him. I do talk to a lot of people, both girls and guys including his friends, but he was just so hard to talk to.

Throughout the trip, B repeatedly lingered around me. He followed me into KFC, sat with me, asked lots of questions about me, seemed curious about my background, and stared at me. I look ethnically ambiguous and he’s white so he asked me lots of curious questions about my culture. At KFC when it was just the two of us, he was the most talkative he’s been. I enjoyed spending time with him.

He also appeared to notice when I talked to other boys and sometimes seemed slightly jealous or uncomfortable afterwards. There were several moments where he lingered nearby, like when he noticed me and helped me when I got left behind by the group, stuck at the tube barriers. B would also offer to fill my water bottle, and generally seemed aware of where I was.

At a shop he had a technical issue with his card not being accepted so he told his friend (who’s next to me) about it. I noticed and asked him what’s wrong but he didn’t answer or look at me and took his friend to help him. At this point I did my makeup on the coach and look a bit different. I thought he was keeping his distance because he thought i was a catfish or something.

When I was one of the last people in the refreshments area and everyone left for the bus, he came back. He just started wandering around acting busy, he didnt even buy anything in the end but returned to the bus with me and my friend. On the way he made a funny comment to me about the shops.

However, despite these signs of interest, he was also very quiet and difficult to talk to. I tried creating opportunities to interact like joining games, smiling at him, asking questions, sitting nearby. But he gave me short, one-word replies and didn't continue conversations.

After I followed him on Instagram, he followed me back the same day. I wore a casual but fitting outfit that showed off my hourglass body because i wanted to look cute for him. But he became noticeably even more distant, and more quiet, avoided eye contact when I looked at him. He didn't seem to make an effort to talk to me, even though I caught him looking when I wasn't watching. It felt like he was trying to get away from me.

I tried to be approachable and approach him. I smiled at him a LOT and would noticeably look at him. Our interactions increasingly disappointed me: I mustered up the courage to ask him if our activities for the day were done, hoping to start a conversation, but he just took a good look at my face and said "yes,". Then immediately turned back to his friends playing cards.

Later, at a uni fair, I asked if he wanted to go to x university, and again he only replied "yes,". I asked A, his friend, the same question and he and the rest kept yapping to me. He’s just so dry in comparison and it feels like he doesn’t want to talk. Still lingering around, he was playing eye tag.

But he also started chatting with a taken girl who’s also his friend. Seeing him talkative with her made me realise that he CAN talk.

I tried my best to approach him and make it easy for him to approach me. But he’s just not giving me much to work with now. Should I just move on?

I’m trying to have a conversation with him in text. The good thing is he’s a lot less dry. But he takes an hour to respond so I can’t accelerate the convo to ask him out. He also left me on delivered ever since then, for a week now…Other girls told me that they also thought he didn’t like them and that they gave up on talking to him. Because he was so dry to them.

We’ve also been on another school trip and we haven’t spoken at all but he has unusually looked in my direction quite a bit, more than anyone else has. He is so talkative and fun and engaging with his girl friends but not with me. So why is he not talking to me?? Is that him rejecting me?

On an overnight school trip, I 17F developed a crush on a 17M guy (B). We first interacted after I asked him and another guy (A) for help when I got locked out of my accommodation. B was a bit quiet, while I naturally talked more to A because I already knew him. I do talk to a lot of people, both girls and guys including his friends, but he was just so hard to talk to.

Throughout the trip, B repeatedly lingered around me. He followed me into KFC, sat with me, asked lots of questions about me, seemed curious about my background, and stared at me. I look ethnically ambiguous and he’s white so he asked me lots of curious questions about my culture. At KFC when it was just the two of us, he was the most talkative he’s been. I enjoyed spending time with him.

He also appeared to notice when I talked to other boys and sometimes seemed slightly jealous or uncomfortable afterwards. There were several moments where he lingered nearby, like when he noticed me and helped me when I got left behind by the group, stuck at the tube barriers. B would also offer to fill my water bottle, and generally seemed aware of where I was.

At a shop he had a technical issue with his card not being accepted so he told his friend (who’s next to me) about it. I noticed and asked him what’s wrong but he didn’t answer or look at me and took his friend to help him. At this point I did my makeup on the coach and look a bit different. I thought he was keeping his distance because he thought i was a catfish or something.

When I was one of the last people in the refreshments area and everyone left for the bus, he came back. He just started wandering around acting busy, he didnt even buy anything in the end but returned to the bus with me and my friend. On the way he made a funny comment to me about the shops.

However, despite these signs of interest, he was also very quiet and difficult to talk to. I tried creating opportunities to interact like joining games, smiling at him, asking questions, sitting nearby. But he gave me short, one-word replies and didn't continue conversations.

After I followed him on Instagram, he followed me back the same day. I wore a casual but fitting outfit that showed off my hourglass body because i wanted to look cute for him. But he became noticeably even more distant, and more quiet, avoided eye contact when I looked at him. He didn't seem to make an effort to talk to me, even though I caught him looking when I wasn't watching. It felt like he was trying to get away from me.

I tried to be approachable and approach him. I smiled at him a LOT and would noticeably look at him. Our interactions increasingly disappointed me: I mustered up the courage to ask him if our activities for the day were done, hoping to start a conversation, but he just took a good look at my face and said "yes,". Then immediately turned back to his friends playing cards.

Later, at a uni fair, I asked if he wanted to go to x university, and again he only replied "yes,". I asked A, his friend, the same question and he and the rest kept yapping to me. He’s just so dry in comparison and it feels like he doesn’t want to talk. Still lingering around, he was playing eye tag.

But he also started chatting with a taken girl who’s also his friend. Seeing him talkative with her made me realise that he CAN talk.

I tried my best to approach him and make it easy for him to approach me. But he’s just not giving me much to work with now. Should I just move on?

I’m trying to have a conversation with him in text. The good thing is he’s a lot less dry. But he takes an hour to respond so I can’t accelerate the convo to ask him out. He also left me on delivered ever since then, for a week now…Other girls told me that they also thought he didn’t like them and that they gave up on talking to him. Because he was so dry to them.

We’ve also been on another school trip and we haven’t spoken at all but he has unusually looked in my direction quite a bit, more than anyone else has. He is so talkative and fun and engaging with his girl friends but not with me. So why is he not talking to me?? Is that him rejecting me?

On an overnight school trip, I 17F developed a crush on a 17M guy (B). We first interacted after I asked him and another guy (A) for help when I got locked out of my accommodation. B was a bit quiet, while I naturally talked more to A because I already knew him. I do talk to a lot of people, both girls and guys including his friends, but he was just so hard to talk to.

Throughout the trip, B repeatedly lingered around me. He followed me into KFC, sat with me, asked lots of questions about me, seemed curious about my background, and stared at me. I look ethnically ambiguous and he’s white so he asked me lots of curious questions about my culture. At KFC when it was just the two of us, he was the most talkative he’s been. I enjoyed spending time with him.

He also appeared to notice when I talked to other boys and sometimes seemed slightly jealous or uncomfortable afterwards. There were several moments where he lingered nearby, like when he noticed me and helped me when I got left behind by the group, stuck at the tube barriers. B would also offer to fill my water bottle, and generally seemed aware of where I was.

At a shop he had a technical issue with his card not being accepted so he told his friend (who’s next to me) about it. I noticed and asked him what’s wrong but he didn’t answer or look at me and took his friend to help him. At this point I did my makeup on the coach and look a bit different. I thought he was keeping his distance because he thought i was a catfish or something.

When I was one of the last people in the refreshments area and everyone left for the bus, he came back. He just started wandering around acting busy, he didnt even buy anything in the end but returned to the bus with me and my friend. On the way he made a funny comment to me about the shops.

However, despite these signs of interest, he was also very quiet and difficult to talk to. I tried creating opportunities to interact like joining games, smiling at him, asking questions, sitting nearby. But he gave me short, one-word replies and didn't continue conversations.

After I followed him on Instagram, he followed me back the same day. I wore a casual but fitting outfit that showed off my hourglass body because i wanted to look cute for him. But he became noticeably even more distant, and more quiet, avoided eye contact when I looked at him. He didn't seem to make an effort to talk to me, even though I caught him looking when I wasn't watching. It felt like he was trying to get away from me.

I tried to be approachable and approach him. I smiled at him a LOT and would noticeably look at him. Our interactions increasingly disappointed me: I mustered up the courage to ask him if our activities for the day were done, hoping to start a conversation, but he just took a good look at my face and said "yes,". Then immediately turned back to his friends playing cards.

Later, at a uni fair, I asked if he wanted to go to x university, and again he only replied "yes,". I asked A, his friend, the same question and he and the rest kept yapping to me. He’s just so dry in comparison and it feels like he doesn’t want to talk. Still lingering around, he was playing eye tag.

But he also started chatting with a taken girl who’s also his friend. Seeing him talkative with her made me realise that he CAN talk. So why is he not talking to me?? Is that him rejecting me?

I tried my best to approach him and make it easy for him to approach me. But he’s just not giving me much to work with now. Should I just move on?

On an overnight school trip, I 17F developed a crush on a 17M guy (B). We first interacted after I asked him and another guy (A) for help when I got locked out of my accommodation. B was a bit quiet, while I naturally talked more to A because I already knew him. I do talk to a lot of people, both girls and guys including his friends, but he was just so hard to talk to.

Throughout the trip, B repeatedly lingered around me. He followed me into KFC, sat with me, asked lots of questions about me, seemed curious about my background, and stared at me. I look ethnically ambiguous and he’s white so he asked me lots of curious questions about my culture. At KFC when it was just the two of us, he was the most talkative he’s been. I enjoyed spending time with him.

He also appeared to notice when I talked to other boys and sometimes seemed slightly jealous or uncomfortable afterwards. There were several moments where he lingered nearby, like when he noticed me and helped me when I got left behind by the group, stuck at the tube barriers. B would also offer to fill my water bottle, and generally seemed aware of where I was.

At a shop he had a technical issue with his card not being accepted so he told his friend (who’s next to me) about it. I noticed and asked him what’s wrong but he didn’t answer or look at me and took his friend to help him. At this point I did my makeup on the coach and look a bit different. I thought he was keeping his distance because he thought i was a catfish or something.

When I was one of the last people in the refreshments area and everyone left for the bus, he came back. He just started wandering around acting busy, he didnt even buy anything in the end but returned to the bus with me and my friend. On the way he made a funny comment to me about the shops.

However, despite these signs of interest, he was also very quiet and difficult to talk to. I tried creating opportunities to interact like joining games, smiling at him, asking questions, sitting nearby. But he gave me short, one-word replies and didn't continue conversations.

After I followed him on Instagram, he followed me back the same day. I wore a casual but fitting outfit that showed off my hourglass body because i wanted to look cute for him. But he became noticeably even more distant, and more quiet, avoided eye contact when I looked at him. He didn't seem to make an effort to talk to me, even though I caught him looking when I wasn't watching. It felt like he was trying to get away from me.

I tried to be approachable and approach him. I smiled at him a lot and would noticeably look at him. Our interactions increasingly disappointed me: I mustered up the courage to ask him if our activities for the day were done, hoping to start a conversation, but he just took a good look at my face and said "yes,". Then immediately turned back to his friends playing cards.

Later, at a uni fair, I asked if he wanted to go to x university, and again he only replied "yes,". I asked A, his friend, the same question and he and the rest kept yapping to me. He’s just so dry in comparison and it feels like he doesn’t want to talk. Still lingering around, he was playing eye tag.

But he also started chatting with a taken girl who’s also his friend. Seeing him talkative with her made me realise that he CAN talk. So why is he not talking to me?? Is that him rejecting me?

I tried my best to approach him and make it obvious that I’m interested even though I’m SHY. But he’s just not giving me much to work with now. Should I just move on?

On an overnight school trip, I 17F developed a crush on a 17M guy (B). We first interacted after I asked him and another guy (A) for help when I got locked out of my accommodation. B was a bit quiet, while I naturally talked more to A because I already knew him. I do talk to a lot of people, both girls and guys including his friends, but he was just so hard to talk to.

Throughout the trip, B repeatedly lingered around me. He followed me into KFC, sat with me, asked lots of questions about me, seemed curious about my background, and stared at me. I look ethnically ambiguous and he’s white so he asked me lots of curious questions about my culture. At KFC when it was just the two of us, he was the most talkative he’s been. I enjoyed spending time with him.

He also appeared to notice when I talked to other boys and sometimes seemed slightly jealous or uncomfortable afterwards. There were several moments where he lingered nearby, like when he noticed me and helped me when I got left behind by the group, stuck at the tube barriers. B would also offer to fill my water bottle, and generally seemed aware of where I was.

At a shop he had a technical issue with his card not being accepted so he told his friend (who’s next to me) about it. I noticed and asked him what’s wrong but he didn’t answer or look at me and took his friend to help him. At this point I did my makeup on the coach and look a bit different. I thought he was keeping his distance because he thought i was a catfish or something.

When I was one of the last people in the refreshments area and everyone left for the bus, he came back. He just started wandering around acting busy, he didnt even buy anything in the end but returned to the bus with me and my friend. On the way he made a funny comment to me about the shops.

However, despite these signs of interest, he was also very quiet and difficult to talk to. I tried creating opportunities to interact like joining games, smiling at him, asking questions, sitting nearby. But he gave me short, one-word replies and didn't continue conversations.

After I followed him on Instagram, he followed me back the same day. I wore a casual but fitting outfit that showed off my hourglass body because i wanted to look cute for him. But he became noticeably even more distant, and more quiet, avoided eye contact when I looked at him. He didn't seem to make an effort to talk to me, even though I caught him looking when I wasn't watching. It felt like he was trying to get away from me.

I tried to be approachable and approach him. I smiled at him a lot and would noticeably look at him. Our interactions increasingly disappointed me: I mustered up the courage to ask him if our activities for the day were done, hoping to start a conversation, but he just took a good look at my face and said "yes,". Then immediately turned back to his friends playing cards.

Later, at a uni fair, I asked if he wanted to go to x university, and again he only replied "yes,". I asked A, his friend, the same question and he and the rest kept yapping to me. He’s just so dry in comparison and it feels like he doesn’t want to talk. Still lingering around, he was playing eye tag.

But he also started chatting with a taken girl who’s also his friend. Seeing him talkative with her made me realise that he CAN talk. So why is he not talking to me?? Is that him rejecting me?

I tried my best to approach him and make it obvious that I’m interested even though I’m SHY. But he’s just not giving me much to work with now. Should I just move on?

On an overnight school trip, I 17F developed a crush on a 17M guy (B). We first interacted after I asked him and another guy (A) for help when I got locked out of my accommodation. B was a bit quiet, while I naturally talked more to A because I already knew him. I do talk to a lot of people, both girls and guys including his friends, but he was just so hard to talk to.

Throughout the trip, B repeatedly lingered around me. He followed me into KFC, sat with me, asked lots of questions about me, seemed curious about my background, and stared at me. I look ethnically ambiguous and he’s white so he asked me lots of curious questions about my culture. At KFC when it was just the two of us, he was the most talkative he’s been. I enjoyed spending time with him.

He also appeared to notice when I talked to other boys and sometimes seemed slightly jealous or uncomfortable afterwards. There were several moments where he lingered nearby, like when he noticed me and helped me when I got left behind by the group, stuck at the tube barriers. B would also offer to fill my water bottle, and generally seemed aware of where I was.

At a shop he had a technical issue with his card not being accepted so he told his friend (who’s next to me) about it. I noticed and asked him what’s wrong but he didn’t answer or look at me and took his friend to help him. At this point I did my makeup on the coach and look a bit different. I thought he was keeping his distance because he thought i was a catfish or something.

When I was one of the last people in the refreshments area and everyone left for the bus, he came back. He just started wandering around acting busy, he didnt even buy anything in the end but returned to the bus with me and my friend. On the way he made a funny comment to me about the shops.

However, despite these signs of interest, he was also very quiet and difficult to talk to. I tried creating opportunities to interact like joining games, smiling at him, asking questions, sitting nearby. But he gave me short, one-word replies and didn't continue conversations.

After I followed him on Instagram, he followed me back the same day. I wore a casual but fitting outfit that showed off my hourglass body because i wanted to look cute for him. But he became noticeably even more distant, and more quiet, avoided eye contact when I looked at him. He didn't seem to make an effort to talk to me, even though I caught him looking when I wasn't watching. It felt like he was trying to get away from me.

I tried to be approachable and approach him. I smiled at him a lot and would noticeably look at him. Our interactions increasingly disappointed me: I mustered up the courage to ask him if our activities for the day were done, hoping to start a conversation, but he just took a good look at my face and said "yes,". Then immediately turned back to his friends playing cards.

Later, at a uni fair, I asked if he wanted to go to x university, and again he only replied "yes,". I asked A, his friend, the same question and he and the rest kept yapping to me. He’s just so dry in comparison and it feels like he doesn’t want to talk. Still lingering around, he was playing eye tag.

But he also started chatting with a taken girl who’s also his friend. Seeing him talkative with her made me realise that he CAN talk. So why is he not talking to me?? Is that him rejecting me?

I tried my best to approach him and make it obvious that I’m interested even though I’m SHY. But he’s just not giving me much to work with now. Should I just move on?

We need more boys who smell ‘feminine’: like flowers, vanilla, chocolate, and everything nice!

like yes, give me some of your flowery goodness sweet boy 💕💕

I was doing so well running up to my February mocks. Always on time, always attending lesson, sleeping early, not behind. I was perfect.

Now as the academic year ends I’m such a mess.

It’s all gone downhill after that Easter break. I stopped sleeping well, now I sleep at 2-3 am and wake up at 8 am. I haven’t done most of my maths homework, idk how I keep getting away from it but I’m 5 booklets behind (used to be 8 booklets behind but now I’m trying to catch up).

I haven’t been using any of my 14 hour frees for weeks, doing no English work, no chemistry work, just making up whatever for homework and last minuting everything. I physically can’t sit down and revise anymore. I hate revision, and I hate studying. Just feels like theres a million other things to do other than revise in a miserable dimmed study room. Like enjoying the sun.

Im also doing EPQ, on 5 outreach programmes and have english coursework due soon. I was holding it all up but now I just snapped.

I couldn’t even revise for my class tests up until the day before. I used to revise weeks before tests. Idk how I’m still on A*‘s in these tests because I definitely don’t feel like i’m doing enough at all. My attitude to learning is at a 3 and i can’t bring it up. I’m always tired. I’m SO behind in every single subject.

I barely manage to force myself out of bed because I don’t wanna go to lesson. But I go to all my lessons. Recently I’ve been missing a lot. I used to have perfect 100% attendance but now i’m at 97% for whatever stupid reason: overslept, forgot about the lesson, missed the bus, etc etc.

Idk what is happening, any advice?

i do a level english lit and as a domestic violence survivor i get extremely triggered from the abusive content in a level english lit. i also have cptsd. for some reason in every single text there’s a woman being abused to some extent. it got so bad that when we were doing othello and he started being abusive towards desdemona, i began experiencing my typical cptsd symptoms again. i was immediately getting hot flashes, anxiety attacks, heart palpitations, intrusive thoughts/images, flashbacks of past trauma, all in a few seconds.

we’re doing another text now and the abuse and misogyny is even worse. we were watching it in class and i was really anxious viscerally seeing the abusive man in action, as if i was experiencing it myself all over again. i got extremely triggered in class but i didn’t want to appear like im over dramatic or weak because im usually very high functioning. i’m still feeling fidgety. i love english lit but the texts are triggering me pretty bad. ‘this is just a book, this is just an actor, this isn’t real ,’ i have to keep reminding myself. i got really teary afterwards at home.

i avoid watching media that has a man even raise his voice at a woman. because even that could trigger intense emotions about my past trauma. i don’t know what to do, the abuse and violence is a huge part of most texts and obviously something that the authors criticise and comment on as a microcosm of an aspect in society so i can’t just skip them :(