in my late teens in the uk. i live in a “diverse” area except it’s not really diverse with 2 ethnic groups dominating it. about 50% are white and the other 50% are mainly pakistani. then its minority black and east asian.

i feel like the reason ive always been single is because i’m egyptian so im too niche. i’m too niche for the white guys, too niche for the pakistani ones, and too niche for the black guys. i look too ambiguous, ive been mistaken for every other ethnicity at this point. i have very dark hair, dark eyes and am light skinned so its hard to miss me, i look different to most people.

i dont look like i belong to anyone. all the couples in my very large sixth form are ones where both people are of the same race. my black friends have black boyfriends, my white friends have white boyfriends, my pakistani friends have pakistani bfs and so on. i’m so tired of not feeling desired by anyone. im so tired of feeling too niche. i appreciate my egyptian culture but im also very british. i wish i didn’t feel like an “other”, different, i wish boys saw me and saw a familiar face, not an exotic girl.

i sometimes wish i fit in a box. i wish i knew what race i was. i wish i wasn’t so ethnically ambiguous. i wish that imaginary race was mainstream enough that i could see tiktok’s or reddit posts on “x y z girls” and share our experiences. or how others see us.

its not my fault that guys pick girls who they’re familiar with, who look like them. i wish it wasn’t that way. i don’t mind dating outside my ethnicity. in fact its probably what will happen since im such a minority. but i dont think non egyptian guys subconsciously choose egyptian girls. im trying my best to feel desirable but i cant.

i think im pretty and very few guys have briefly liked me and have been in online talking stages with me. but they never chose me. when they get bored they just go and date a girl that looks like them and shares their culture. i hate it... i wish i looked like i belonged to someone. i hate how the first question im asked by a guy is where im from because i dont fit in the above categories.

back in egypt, it’s so easy for guys to like me. bcs there im the baseline. im the blueprint. i feel so beautiful. i only have to doll myself up a bit and id get lots of attention and very nice treatment.

i’m not looking for attention but in the uk it’s not like that. when i doll myself up, it’s all crickets. im still invisible. guys don’t look in my direction. i wish non egyptians treated me the same. my white girl friends in particular can slap some mascara on and they’d be getting so much attention and a boyfriend just like that. they are probably the exception i can think of, they’re liked by all ethnicities.

idk what to do. im just so sick of feeling too niche to get a boyfriend. i promise im like every other girl. i just feel so horribly different and undesirable.

in my late teens in the uk. i live in a “diverse” area except it’s not really diverse with 2 ethnic groups dominating it. about 50% are white and the other 50% are mainly pakistani. then its minority black and east asian.

i feel like the reason ive always been single is because i’m egyptian so im too niche. i’m too niche for the white guys, too niche for the pakistani ones, and too niche for the black guys. i look too ambiguous, ive been mistaken for every other ethnicity at this point. i have very dark hair, dark eyes and am light skinned so its hard to miss me, i look different to most people.

i dont look like i belong to anyone. all the couples in my very large sixth form (a school for the final years of american high school) are ones where both people are of the same race. my black friends have black boyfriends, my white friends have white boyfriends, my pakistani friends have pakistani bfs and so on. i’m so tired of not feeling desired by anyone. im so tired of feeling too niche. i appreciate my egyptian culture but im also very british. i wish i didn’t feel like an “other”, different, i wish boys saw me and saw a familiar face, not an exotic girl.

i sometimes wish i fit in a box. i wish i knew what race i was. i wish i wasn’t so ethnically ambiguous. i wish that imaginary race was mainstream enough that i could see tiktok’s or reddit posts on “x y z girls” and share our experiences. or how others see us.

its not my fault that guys pick girls who they’re familiar with, who look like them. i wish it wasn’t that way. i don’t mind dating outside my ethnicity. in fact its probably what will happen since im such a minority. but i dont think non egyptian guys subconsciously choose egyptian girls. im trying my best to feel desirable but i cant.

i think im pretty and very few guys have briefly liked me and have been in online talking stages with me. but they never chose me. when they get bored they just go and date a girl that looks like them and shares their culture. i hate it... i wish i looked like i belonged to someone. i hate how the first question im asked by a guy is where im from because i dont fit in the above categories.

back in egypt, it’s so easy for guys to like me. bcs there im the baseline. im the blueprint. i feel so beautiful. i only have to doll myself up a bit and id get lots of attention and very nice treatment.

i’m not looking for attention but in the uk it’s not like that. when i doll myself up, it’s all crickets. im still invisible. guys don’t look in my direction. i wish non egyptians treated me the same. my white girl friends in particular can slap some mascara on and they’d be getting so much attention and a boyfriend just like that. they are probably the exception i can think of, they’re liked by all ethnicities.

idk what to do. im just so sick of feeling too niche to get a boyfriend. i promise im like every other girl. i just feel so horribly different and undesirable.

edit: idk why im being downvoted, im only expressing my feelings and personal experience

in my late teens in the uk. i live in a “diverse” area except it’s not really diverse with 2 ethnic groups dominating it. about 50% are white and the other 50% are mainly pakistani. then its minority black and east asian.

i feel like the reason ive always been single is because i’m egyptian so im too niche. i’m too niche for the white guys, too niche for the pakistani ones, and too niche for the black guys. i look too ambiguous, ive been mistaken for every other ethnicity at this point. i have very dark hair, dark eyes and am light skinned so its hard to miss me, i look different to most people.

i dont look like i belong to anyone. all the couples in my very large sixth form are ones where both people are of the same race. my black friends have black boyfriends, my white friends have white boyfriends, my pakistani friends have pakistani bfs and so on. i’m so tired of not feeling desired by anyone. im so tired of feeling too niche. i appreciate my egyptian culture but im also very british. i wish i didn’t feel like an “other”, different, i wish boys saw me and saw a familiar face, not an exotic girl.

i sometimes wish i fit in a box. i wish i knew what race i was. i wish i wasn’t so ethnically ambiguous. i wish that imaginary race was mainstream enough that i could see tiktok’s or reddit posts on “x y z girls” and share our experiences. or how others see us.

its not my fault that guys pick girls who they’re familiar with, who look like them. i wish it wasn’t that way. i don’t mind dating outside my ethnicity. in fact its probably what will happen since im such a minority. but i dont think non egyptian guys subconsciously choose egyptian girls. im trying my best to feel desirable but i cant.

i think im pretty and very few guys have briefly liked me and have been in online talking stages with me. but they never chose me. when they get bored they just go and date a girl that looks like them and shares their culture. i hate it... i wish i looked like i belonged to someone. i hate how the first question im asked by a guy is where im from because i dont fit in the above categories.

back in egypt, it’s so easy for guys to like me. bcs there im the baseline. im the blueprint. i feel so beautiful. i only have to doll myself up a bit and id get lots of attention and very nice treatment.

i’m not looking for attention but in the uk it’s not like that. when i doll myself up, it’s all crickets. im still invisible. guys don’t look in my direction. i wish non egyptians treated me the same. my white girl friends in particular can slap some mascara on and they’d be getting so much attention and a boyfriend just like that. they are probably the exception i can think of, they’re liked by all ethnicities.

idk what to do. im just so sick of feeling too niche to get a boyfriend. i promise im like every other girl. i just feel so horribly different and undesirable.

applying for law at:

1. oxford
2. lse
3. ucl
4. durham
5. warwick

That’s the day school starts, and I’d have done 5 weeks of preparation from there for the LNAT. Is it too early? I just started proper LNAT prep a week ago and finished a diagnostic first paper from the leslie ho lnat book. i got 28, but my timings were really bad and I spent about 3 mins per question and i spent ages to get through the paper. i want to get mid 30s in my LNAT hopefully, is 1st of sep too early?

That’s the day school starts, and I’d have done 5 weeks of preparation from there for the LNAT. Is it too early?

I’m really overwhelmed with what I need to do during the summer. I have lots of competing, high priority tasks that I need to complete. There are loads of deadlines, and I don’t have a summer plan or even a timetable. I’m really confused as to what to do, and I fear that I won’t get it all done before the summer ends or before the deadlines I set and that I’ll leave it all to the last minute. I’m also on a 3 week tropical holiday.

I’m applying for top unis and am planning to book my LNAT on the 1st of september. So far I’ve been trying to complete a full paper while I have about 5 weeks to go. For the LNAT I have all the books, some model essays that I’ve been sent by an Oxford student, and some critical thinking books that the lnat website recommended. 

As for the PS, I’m applying to LSE so I know how important the personal statement is and I haven’t even written a first draft yet or planned it. I have loads of supercurriculars that I can include and want to add but I want to do some more too. For example I’ve been wanting to read three law books that I’m really interested in and complete a law course online that wants me to spend 4 hours a week doing it. 

As part of my outreach programmes, I also need to submit a research poster related to my niche area and present it to academics, due in a week or so. It’s a really niche area of law but I’m really interested in it. I’ve picked my topic but I haven’t started looking for sources or even reading them. I’m planning on including it in my personal statement as well. 

I have at least 8 math homework booklets that I need to get done before school starts. Each booklet would take me about 4 hours to complete. Two books for english literature also need to be read before september. I also have maths summer homework and chemistry summer homework, in addition to the chemistry revision that i need to do to get good predicted grades on tests this september. 

I really need advice or suggestions on how to proceed forward, and any insight will be appreciated

I’d love any creamy bronzer recommendations - preferably affordable or drugstore options. I’m a medium, warm, saturated olive. Any suggestions appreciated!

I’m really overwhelmed with what I need to do during the summer. I have lots of competing, high priority tasks that I need to complete. There are loads of deadlines, and I don’t have a summer plan or even a timetable. I’m really confused as to what to do, and I fear that I won’t get it all done before the summer ends or before the deadlines I set and that I’ll leave it all to the last minute. 

I’m also applying for top unis and am planning to book my LNAT on the 1st of september. So far I’ve been trying to complete a full paper while I have about 5 weeks to go. For the LNAT I have all the books, some model essays that I’ve been sent by an Oxford student, and some critical thinking books that the lnat website recommended. 

As for the PS, I’m applying to LSE so I know how important the personal statement is and I haven’t even written a first draft yet or planned it. I have loads of supercurriculars that I can include and want to add but I want to do some more too. For example I’ve been wanting to read three law books that I’m really interested in and complete a law course online that wants me to spend 4 hours a week doing it. 

As part of my outreach programmes, I also need to submit a research poster related to my niche area and present it to academics, due in a week or so. It’s a really niche area of law but I’m really interested in it. I’ve picked my topic but I haven’t started looking for sources or even reading them. I’m planning on including it in my personal statement as well. 

I have at least 8 math homework booklets that I need to get done before school starts. Each booklet would take me about 4 hours to complete. Two books for english literature also need to be read before september. I also have maths summer homework and chemistry summer homework, in addition to the chemistry revision that i need to do to get good predicted grades on tests this september. 

I really need advice or any suggestions on how to move forward, and any insights would be appreciated

I’m really overwhelmed with what I need to do during the summer. I have lots of competing, high priority tasks that I need to complete. There are loads of deadlines, and I don’t have a summer plan or even a timetable. I’m really confused as to what to do, and I fear that I won’t get it all done before the summer ends or before the deadlines I set and that I’ll leave it all to the last minute. 

I’m also applying for top unis and am planning to book my LNAT on the 1st of september. So far I’ve been trying to complete a full paper while I have about 5 weeks to go. For the LNAT I have all the books, some model essays that I’ve been sent by an Oxford student, and some critical thinking books that the lnat website recommended. 

As for the PS, I’m applying to LSE so I know how important the personal statement is and I haven’t even written a first draft yet or planned it. I have loads of supercurriculars that I can include and want to add but I want to do some more too. For example I’ve been wanting to read three law books that I’m really interested in and complete a law course online that wants me to spend 4 hours a week doing it. 

As part of my outreach programmes, I also need to submit a research poster related to my niche area and present it to academics, due in a week or so. It’s a really niche area of law but I’m really interested in it. I’ve picked my topic but I haven’t started looking for sources or even reading them. I’m planning on including it in my personal statement as well. 

I have at least 8 math homework booklets that I need to get done before school starts. Each booklet would take me about 4 hours to complete. Two books for english literature also need to be read before september. I also have maths summer homework and chemistry summer homework, in addition to the chemistry revision that i need to do to get good predicted grades on tests this september. 

I really need advice or suggestions on how to proceed forward, and any insight will be appreciated

I’m really overwhelmed with what I need to do during the summer. I have lots of competing, high priority tasks that I need to complete. There are loads of deadlines, and I don’t have a summer plan or even a timetable. I’m really confused as to what to do, and I fear that I won’t get it all done before the summer ends or before the deadlines I set and that I’ll leave it all to the last minute. 

I’m also applying for top unis and am planning to book my LNAT on the 1st of september. So far I’ve been trying to complete a full paper while I have about 5 weeks to go. For the LNAT I have all the books, some model essays that I’ve been sent by an Oxford student, and some critical thinking books that the lnat website recommended. 

As for the PS, I’m applying to LSE so I know how important the personal statement is and I haven’t even written a first draft yet or planned it. I have loads of supercurriculars that I can include and want to add but I want to do some more too. For example I’ve been wanting to read three law books that I’m really interested in and complete a law course online that wants me to spend 4 hours a week doing it. 

As part of my outreach programmes, I also need to submit a research poster related to my niche area and present it to academics, due in a week or so. It’s a really niche area of law but I’m really interested in it. I’ve picked my topic but I haven’t started looking for sources or even reading them. I’m planning on including it in my personal statement as well. 

I have at least 8 math homework booklets that I need to get done before school starts. Each booklet would take me about 4 hours to complete. Two books for english literature also need to be read before september. I also have maths summer homework and chemistry summer homework, in addition to the chemistry revision that i need to do to get good predicted grades on tests this september. 

I would really appreciate any advice or suggestions on how to proceed forward.

I’d love any creamy bronzer recommendations - preferably affordable or drugstore options. I’m a medium, warm, saturated olive. Any suggestions appreciated!

Being north african, the women in both sides of my family are quite curvy. I'm not joking when I say some of them are curvier than Kim K. My family keeps going on about how skinny I am, how pencil-like I look and I hate it. To my western peers I look fine, good even, but to them I look undeveloped and as if I am starving.

I'm a 17 year old girl. I was developing quite normally, my hips were growing, my breasts were growing, my face was changing, up until 14 when I developed lean PCOS. I started getting abnormally high concentrations of Testosterone for a girl my age. For the last 3 years I have watched all my peers around me physically grow and mature in at least some way. I haven't.

My weight is healthy and stays constant. I just feel so underdeveloped compared to other girls my age AND the women in my family. I wish I was curvier and my body was more womanly. I wish I looked like the women in my family. Even if I don't, I wish I continued maturing like normal girls. I wish my growth didn't stagnate and stop at 14 just because of the high testosterone. Frusrated because I just want to see any signs of growth - any!

I am now on birth control. Is it too late to continue maturing? I want to give my body a second chance. I'm now on a testosterone blocking, estrogen birth control and I hope my body will mature, even a little bit.

Is it too late to continue growing? Being north african, the women in both sides of my family are quite curvy. I'm not joking when I say some of them are curvier than Kim K and they expect me to be curvy too. So my family keeps going on about how skinny I am, how pencil-like I look, how I'm not eating well, and I hate it. To my western peers I look fine, good even, but to them I look undeveloped and as if I am starving.

I'm a 17 year old girl. I was developing quite normally, my hips were growing, my breasts were growing, my face was changing, up until 14 when I developed lean PCOS. I started getting abnormally high concentrations of Testosterone for a girl. For the last 3 years I have watched all my peers around me physically grow and mature in at least some way. I haven't.

My weight is healthy and stays constant. I just feel so underdeveloped compared to other girls my age AND the women in my family. I wish I was curvier and my body was more womanly. I wish I looked like the women in my family. Even if I don't, I wish I continued maturing like normal girls. I wish my growth didn't stagnate and stop at 14 just because of the high testosterone. I'm Frusrated because I just want to see any signs of growth - any!

I want to look in the mirror and not just see my 14 year old figure as a 17 year old...Is it too late to continue maturing? I am now on birth control. I want to give my body a second chance. I'm now on a testosterone blocking, estrogen birth control and I hope my body will mature, even a little bit.

Did you start it? How are you feeling about the LNAT? :)

i have trauma from abuse from my violent dad who i cut off contact with. he hurt me in a way no one else did.

i 17f love my 17m bf. he also happens to be a blond white guy who shares physical features with my blond white dad. he is so sweet, calming, soft-spoken, gentle, loving and caring. he embodies what society sees as "femininity". he loves me so much and he adores me and i adore him. i love his physical strength and his size. but in always scared of him it makes me cry.

im terrified scared of his physical strength. i’m scared of the physical disparity between us. it’s really not his fault that he’s 6’ 210 lbs and im 5’3 120 lbs and have less muscle mass. i get horrible awful intrusive thoughts whenever we’re cuddling, sleeping, kissing, or just going about our daily lives. i dont know how to feel dominant or powerful for my boy when i feel this way. i feel incredibly weak.i hate it because he already feels a bit insecure about being bigger and taller :(

it starts with me noticing a physical trait of his, then my brain adds unwarranted violent context. i would notice his wrists are much thicker than mine and i like that but then imagine him snapping my wrists. i would imagine him slapping me. i love his biceps but would imagine him killing me and choking me with his hands and his much stronger arms. or thrown around helplessly. i enjoy being picked up but then i would imagine him holding me down raping me.

i get so stressed and disturbed from them that i involuntarily start gagging on air and sobbing. it’s so awful and graphic i just start crying and shaking from the fear.

bless my poor bf, he’s so sad that i get these thoughts he doesn’t know what to do. i know his sweet soul would never think to even hurt a hair on my head but logic can’t beat pure, adrenaline-based survival fear. but he tries to comfort and reassure me as much as possible. i wish i didn’t see him that way. i wish i saw him normally, safely.

I already have this problem with others anyways. i would see a couple walking down the street and suddenly the graphic image of the man violently abusing her comes up. it really unsettles me.

i don’t know what to do. he’s so sweet and precious but i hate it! i feel so powerless and i feel the fear surging through my body that i just start collapsing and crying. it can be triggered by anything. the most confusing bit is that i am also, like normal RR girls, attracted to his strength and the disparity and feeling powerful.

other than that, everything else is perfect. we both love each other very much. he says i’m the most loving, sweetest gf ever and i try to be. we’re so good to each other and our friends notice how close we are and how happy we make each other.