r/RoleReversal

Ok so this is just me ranting about my fantasies but I really wanna be womanhandled like yes please pick me up throw me onto the bed/couch/table, strip me and have your way with me 😭😭😭 (with consent ofc I don't wanna get SAed) then shower me with lots of praise and aftercare 😭😭 god is this too much to ask for 😭😭😭😭

Hey y’all! Since I last posted I figured out I’m a trans woman. 🏳️‍⚧️ I’ll be staying on the Reddit though as I still appreciate role reversal. I hope you all are doing great. Take care!

The more I exercise and get stronger, the more strongly I'm attracted to softer, sedentary and weaker men. I get protective I guess, and the contrast and taboo feels so exciting.

If not, in what ways are you more traditionally masculine or feminine? Like for example I’m very much more emotional than my partner and I prefer being seduced to doing the seducing and I’m pretty bubbly but I also like typical masculine wear which is just about the only non RR thing about me. What about y’all :))

Hi!

So ive come to a point where ive accepted im too shy and awkward to approach and given im also accepting the more submissive sides of myself (I'm a leaning switch) pursuing feels very unnatural and tbh scary for me 🥺

Yet it feels impossible to think i would be approached as it definately feels like in public that reversal is frowned apon still?

I dont know, im trying to just focus on living my life and if the right person appears and we click then yay! However i feel like i have to find the lottery for any aspect. Does that feeling go away? Or am i just catastrophizing this, all..

I would really like some advise if able cause my head making me feel 😵‍💫

I've tried Boo... But the experience was ass because I couldn't find anybody and other dating apps feel so superficial. If so, what servers would you recommend me? Please no NSFW stuff

I love that I found this sub!

This is something Ive always wondered but never asked anyone. I’m a 36 year old man that has loved women taking charge and especially women who are very touchy & assertive for as long as I can remember. I’m not overly attractive by any means but I’m not bad. I’d probably rate myself a 6 or 7 depending on the day lol. Im a tall solid guy with broad shoulders, thick legs, and a big butt. Not a guy that women throw themselves at immediately or anything like that. But I think my personality is probably more attractive than my physical looks. I also think people expect me to be a take charge kind of guy but I thirst for women to take charge of me. Even women that I’m not interested in romantically or even physically attracted to. My absolute favorite thing is women touching or complimenting me about my butt. And I have never once said this to anyone. I’ve never purposely given anyone the idea that I’d enjoy it and a lot of guys I’m friends with hate when women touch their ass. But not me I crave that shit lol

I’ve been friends with dozens of women throughout my life. And I can probably count on 2 hands the amount of them that haven’t eventually started smacking or squeezing my ass without any prompting from me. I’m very observant especially in group settings and I rarely see them treating other dudes like this. I’ve even seen some guys react negatively when they’ve been touched

Especially in work settings when there could be real consequences but every job I’ve had since I was in high school (except for the one I have now) I’ve had at least 1 coworker who would start a playful grabass situation with me at work. One job I had for almost 10 years, 3 different women initiated workplace butt grabbing with me. But it took years for them to start doing it. I have no clue what made them become comfortable enough with me to take it there but I loved it so I didn’t ask any questions

This has happened to me since high school with platonic friends, girlfriends, friends with boyfriends, married coworkers, there’s nothing that they all had in common. But I promise I very rarely was the first one to start the touching. It’s almost exclusively been the women

So my question is, can yall tell when a man would be receptive to this type of touching? It’s happened so much throughout my life that’s there’s gotta be something I’m subconsciously doing or energy I’m putting out there. Regardless I love it and hope it never stops

There is something I have wanted to ask for a long time. Because it involves sex, I have never really felt comfortable talking about it with people around me. I also don’t know whether other people will understand why this bothers me so much.
For a long time, whenever I saw heterosexual sex portrayed — in movies, porn, or even everyday language — I felt uncomfortable without really knowing why.
Eventually I realized that the same pattern kept bothering me:
the man acts, and the woman receives.
The man touches her body, stimulates her, controls the movement, and makes her react. The woman may enjoy it, but she is still very often the person whose body is being touched, exposed, acted on, and sexualized.
And I started wondering: why does it always seem to be this way?
Why can’t the woman be the person who looks at a man’s body with desire, touches him, stimulates him, controls the movement, and enjoys seeing his body react because of what she is doing?
Later, I found female-led sexual content. At first, that actually made me feel relieved. It showed me that the usual “man does / woman receives” structure was not the only possibility.
But then I noticed something that made me anxious again.
A lot of the clearest examples of “woman doing something to man” involved femdom, BDSM, pegging, or the woman wearing a strap-on.
There is nothing wrong with that. But I began wondering:
What if the toy is removed?
Can a woman still use her own body to be the active partner?
Can she touch and stimulate a man, use her body against his, and make him the person being desired and pleasured — without having to borrow a penetrative object in order to become the “doing” partner?
Sometimes this thought genuinely scares me, because I start wondering whether female anatomy itself somehow pushes women back into the receiving role once the toy is gone.
And this leads to another question that has been bothering me just as much.
Why is a man actively touching and stimulating a woman simply treated as normal sex, while a woman actively touching and stimulating a man so often becomes femdom, role reversal, BDSM, or a kink?
Why does male sexual desire get to look like:
“I want her body. I want to touch her. I want to make her react.”
while female desire is so often portrayed as:
“I want him to touch me. I want him to do things to me.”
Do women also naturally feel:
“I want his body. I want to touch him. I want to stimulate him. I want to see him feel good because of what I’m doing”?
I really hope the answer is yes, because I don’t want to believe that active, outward-directed sexual desire somehow belongs more naturally to men.
There is also one final part of this that matters a lot to me: penetration.
Many women can experience strong pleasure or orgasm through external vulvar and clitoral stimulation without vaginal penetration. Penetration is also not equally pleasurable or comfortable for every woman.
So this makes me wonder:
If penetration is not necessary for female pleasure, can heterosexual sex work in a completely different way?
For example, if there is no penetration and no toy, can a woman use her vulva/clitoral area and body movement to actively rub against and stimulate a man’s penis, while also receiving enough external stimulation herself to enjoy it or orgasm?
In other words:
Can there be a genuinely female-led heterosexual sexual interaction where the woman is actively pleasuring the man, the man is the one being stimulated, and both people still experience real pleasure — without penetration, pegging, or a strap-on?
This is really what I am trying to understand.
I am not saying penetration is bad, and I am not saying women who enjoy it are passive. I know different people enjoy different things.
What I am struggling with is the feeling that heterosexual sex is so often imagined from the beginning as something a man does to a woman.
I want to know whether there are real ways for a woman to be the person who actively desires, touches, stimulates, and pleasures a man, while also enjoying her own body — without automatically being placed back into the role of the person being “done to.”
If you are a woman who prefers being the more active partner, or a man who genuinely enjoys being actively desired and pleasured by a woman, I would really appreciate hearing about your experience.
I’m not looking for porn recommendations. I’m trying to understand whether other people have ever felt this same discomfort, and what real-life sexuality can actually look like outside the usual script.

Not tryna make this seem fetishizing, but I've seriously been thinking about most relationships where the guy is usually stronger and I read comments on here and other social media apps today about other boy's personal experience when the power dynamic is the exact opposite. You know, where the girlfriend is bigger and stronger than the boyfriend. They were describing how amazing it felt when she lifted and carried him no problem and how she makes them feel safe around her and more comfortable with being their true selves around them.