Would you girlies ever date someone like him? Is he considered very attractive in mainland india or diaspora Indian beauty standards?
This post is mainly for brown girls because I am one too but I’m so confused about why I’ve met so many other brown girls in younger generations that have the same mentality as the judgey older generation brown aunties.
The same gossiping, social hierarchies, sucking up to/for guys, and everything. I’m not even saying this in a mean way, I grew up in a very predominantly Caucasian city and I dreamt of living somewhere where there were others like me. But I’ve come to realize that so many brown girls bring this mentality with them. I thought that living in a time and country with access to consistent education, mental health resources, and stability would lead to more brown girls being accepting of eachother and breaking past generations judgement, but I’ve met so many girls that act the same if not worse. It’s hard to meet brown girls that are genuinely open minded, accepting of others, non-judgemental, and open to real conversations about mental health and feminism.
Of course I have met many wonderful brown girls slowly, but I have realized that a majority of brown girl friend groups still carry a weird sense of competition, hierarchy, and judgement and that they aren’t truly there for you at the end of the day. It’s odd and I wonder why this is still happening. I’ve heard that it could just be from their moms and learning from younger ages that they need to perform, but I did too and simultaneously learned about mental health and non judgement through school and learning and I really value my friendships. Why are we still choosing to be like this?
Also I want to say I love my brown girls, I love being a brown girl and I love my little community. I just wish more girls would see eachother as real friends and not competition and stop sucking up to guys. I feel that women should be able to help eachother and keep eachother strong.
He’s kept that piece of floss in his mouth through the entire live. He never even used it and just chewed on it. Does he really think this is cool or attractive ?
As a fashion enthusiast with an interest in fashion history and design, I have to say this 💙
Some people are claiming Hailey’s blue gown with the gold breastplate is “stealing Asian fashion” simply because of the draped scarf… come on 🫠!!
This is custom YSL directly referencing their Fall 1969 haute couture collection (gold sculpture by French artist Claude Lalanne). Yves Saint Laurent was born and raised in Oran, Algeria. He called Marrakech his second home and drew heavily from North African aesthetics such as caftans, burnous, draped garments, colors, and draping techniques from the Maghreb his entire career.
Long flowing draped scarves and capes are NOT exclusive to South Asia. North Africa has the haik and burnous, the Middle East has the keffiyeh and Europe has mantillas along with centuries of classical and silk scarf traditions.
As a South Asian myself, a sheer blue drape over the shoulder is not some sacred Indian garment being mocked. It’s high fashion blending silhouettes and references.
I get the broader frustration with Western fashion historically stealing from Asian and African cultures, but slapping “cultural appropriation” on this specific piece by a designer with deep authentic ties to North Africa is a stretch 🙄 Fashion evolves through exchange, and this one has clear provenance.
The mental gymnastics to call Algerian-born YSL “South Asian appropriation” is wild to me!!
Idk if this sub is filled with people that are Mainlanders and thus have 0 contact with white people due to geographical reasons or are ABCDs etc that were just never in social circles with them.
Regardless of what the case might be, a lot of yall have absolutely skewed views on them. So much so, that I‘ve read someone lamenting why „mail-order brides“ were not as common in South Asians as for South East Asians. I mean, are yall okay? Lamenting why soft prostitution that women from those countries partake in because they have 0 other choices is a new low.
And just imagine what type of men even have to make use of such a power dynamic. Complete and utter losers.
It seems to me that many here have some fantasy where they put white men on a pedestal. If you live in the West, just go out of your room for a day and people watch. And truly think about how many of the men walking past you are actually worth dating or even optically pleasing at the least. You don’t have a bunch of Chris Hemsworths walking around, that much I can tell you.
If your preference is white dudes, great. Go ahead and date your preference. No laws are stopping you from doing that. But for the sake of yourself, maybe have a little more respect for yourself and don’t let internalized racism make you accept a loser and hype him up just because in your mind white = automatically superior.
Not every white dude is some feminist icon, better partner, more financially and socially secure or even better-looking.
And please never buy into some fantasy of a knight saving you. Save yourselves.
I’ve gone from an overall size L to M over the past year (both top and bottom), lost weight pretty steadily, and my band size has definitely gone down 2 inches… but my cup size?? Literally unchanged. My tits did not get the memo at all.
At this point I feel disproportionately top-heavy as a tripple D compared to the rest of my body. Is there anything that actually helps make breasts smaller besides just continuing to lose overall body fat and praying genetics cooperate? Or is this one of those “you either get lucky or get a reduction” situations?
Also, please drop comments if you did get a reduction (do they grow back? side effects? cost $$ ? etc). I’m in my early 20s so I cannot really afford a reduction right now 😔 but would still love to have the deets.
Would especially love advice from people whose band size shrinks / overall lose weight but cup size stays stubbornly the same.
Wanna get some brown beauty tips as a central Asian woman
Watch this video, this woman talks about how Chanel’s biggest consumer is China. What does China do to India? Deny and relabel India’s culture as being from “Western Asia” so they can appropriate it for their social media trends, create AI generated propaganda street food videos to further disparage India. Now the Chinese market is responsible for the way Bhavita has been treated at the MET. It’s not just the western market or white ppl who want to deny Indian women their beautiful and disparage India, it’s the Chinese.
So for context my friend , F17 , quite a naive girl and if something is bad is happening to her , she will take time to understand. For example:- we went out one day and she was wearing crop top and high waisted jeans . Me and other friends realised that some men sitting a feet away from us were pretending to take a selfie but take a photo of her so I went and I covered her from behind but she kept asking what we were doing . We told her that something is trying to take a photo of her and but she didn't that . So we had to go in detail of why is that not appropriate thing .
Additional context , me and her are part of a friend group and have been classmates for over 3 years . She is hardcore anime and kpop fan but mostly has this love for Japan. And her wish is to go and study in Japan and get settled in Japan. But here is the weird part , that she wants to marry a Japanese man . Until now there was where the conversation was at and i didn't say anything.
Cut to this trip we went to and I kind of got insecure and she was sitting with in this bus we were travelling in . I told her that I wish that a man in good faith compliments me . I take back what i said because I rather not but that time I was just not feeling well . Now my friend, says " i wish Japanese /Korean men compliments for my beauty " . Now she is beautiful but I got icked out but that sentence because it just fetishziation of men of certain culture and expecting this from them certainly is just depressing. And i told her why not from any other men you know and she was " no i find those men weird " . I was like girl as if men in as places weird and I just went on a rampant on how she shouldn't be expecting that from a certain group of men and well how her view of them isn't even real and a compliment in good faith is something to take from even it comes from some other men . She got angry with me and I choose to say nothing because I also got annoyed.
And further context, her parents are overly controlling and she recently went to this trip to Malaysia and came back to school back and said she saw Chinese Malaysians and how she wished she had confidence approach them . I am personally get so done with her but then I feel bad for this girl because she likely is going to get taken advantage of and i just don't know what to do . Personally I get rage baited every second.
I mean like a meditation/visualisation practice where you "talk" to your body, a cross between a placebo and something a bit more esoteric. I'm purposely avoiding discussions about spiritual or religious beliefs but personally I have found this works and managed to overcome some nagging health issues (sinus, eczema, to name a few) this way. I'm curious if anyone else has done this too?
did any of you guys also have a mother who believed in crazy myths, especially surrounding puberty? for instance, my mom made me drink a lot of milk growing up in hopes of me growing to be 170cm AT LEAST (didn’t work obvs). made me massage my feet at night before bed every day for the same reason. my sister who didn’t do either of these things is taller than me.
and then when i got my period, everyone around me told me to not shower during it since otherwise blood would allegedly clot around your abdomen and cause a myriad of reproductive problems (like pcos, infertility, etc.). i was also barred from eating chicken breast for a while since my mom thought whatever was fed to raise the chicks was also the reason that caused my boobs to grow 😭😭.
i just generally hated the way puberty made me look because of all the change in how i was treated by my mom and her friends etc. so much unnecessary shame was brought in for no reason lmao.
did anyone else hear any of these growing up?
Hi, hoping this post is ok for this sub since it relates to improving beauty and mental health!
I (25F) have struggled with having good friends for most of my life. I also dealt with undiagnosed mental health conditions and controlling family dynamics as a child. Fast forward to now, I've graduated from college, have a job and am financially independent, and choose to live at home.
I can count my "friends" on one hand. No one came to my graduations. I'm mainly the one checking on them (they'll reach out after a few months if I try to ghost them). Most days, I have 0 texts. I'd say I'm extroverted but have become so shy and quiet that I try to avoid most social situations. I've been diagnosed with social anxiety and started going to therapy. I don't have any social media anymore because I always get so sad seeing the stuff I was clearly not invited to. For a long time, I wished people from high school would reach out to me but no one really did. I struggled with being totally isolated and really lonely in college (which was partially due to pandemic but not entirely).
I'm short, so I'm often mistaken for a teenager. I don't know how to do basic makeup or take care of my wavy, frizzy hair. I'm trying to take small steps to improve my appearance and have a better routine but I'm starting to wonder if it's even worth it.
I know this sounds very cringe but I think I aspire to be a baddie even though I know that I'll probably never get there. I work with a lot of really pretty really smart people and I wish I was like them. I've been in a lot of social situations where I could feel the "prettier" people starting to exclude me and find a way to leave the conversation. I feel like I've always had to push myself to be very friendly and talk to strangers. I think I'm also often talking to or helping people with disabilities (idk how to phrase this nicely I just wanted to say that) and I wish I was in a place where people wanted to talk to me. Like most of my life, I've been helping or serving other people and no one's ever really took the time to help me (besides my parents). I guess I just don't feel like being nice anymore. I think the world's a cruel place and I've been thinking about just disappearing from it all (I suspect I have PMS). My religion is firmly against suicide so I wouldn't actually choose that path, but it's more this feeling like when I see people suffering, I think about switching places so they don't have to feel that way.
I feel bad that my parents sacrificed so much and my life seems so great on paper and yet I feel this way. I feel especially sad every night. I feel scared for my future. I don't particularly care about dating right now since I just desperately want better friends but I feel like I'm a person that people pity.
This whole post is probably a lot, but I just wanted someone to listen. I'm just not really sure how to improve my life. I've felt stuck in the same place for a long time. I'd really appreciate any sort of comment!
Hi all
I think I look like a complete mess. Have gained 10kgs, have acne on my skin, big eye bags due to sleep deprivation, and have that dry damaged hair look
I am currently breastfeeding, and plan to wean off after the 6 months mark. Thats when my hunger pangs will go down and will be able to workout and actually see results. I will also be able to use retinol and colour my hair.
To other mommas out there, what glow tips can you recommend me? I reaalllllly want to not look like I do. Please suggest glow-up tips. I wanna be that Santoor-mom yall!