u/Joyful_cheesecake

People seem to do this a lot on this sub. I’ll give examples.

Poster: I hate when people talk with food in their mouth

Commenter: just stop eating food with people if you can’t handle it

Poster: I hate when people send dry texts

Commenter: stop texting people

Poster: I hate when I can’t find parking spaces

Commenter: just don’t drive if you don’t like it

Thanks, genius🙄

When I’m stuttering I literally don’t make eye contact at all, not even a brief moment of eye contact😭 I think I get embarrassed when I stutter and don’t want to see their reaction. I think it would be good if I at least made a little bit of eye contact but in the moment I get nervous and don’t make any. It’s worse on a date or if it’s someone I find attractive. Does anyone else experience this?

Cool down already!!!

When I’m stuttering I literally don’t make eye contact at all, not even a brief moment of eye contact😭 I think I get embarrassed when I stutter and don’t want to see their reaction. I think it would be good if I at least made a little bit of eye contact but in the moment I get nervous and don’t make any. It’s worse like on a date or if it’s a guy I find attractive. Does anyone else experience this?

It’s kind of hard to explain, but I just feel more illegitimate than other people. I often feel like other people’s experiences are automatically more valid than mine, simply because I am me. I feel like my hobbies, experiences, feelings, and my overall personhood is less real than other people’s. I don’t really know where this feelings comes from, maybe I’ve just subtly been taught to feel that way by the people around me. Does anyone else have this feeling? I hope this makes sense, I’m really bad at articulating things.

I really want to be able to compliment people in class and tell them I like their outfit or hair but I always stutter so much trying to do that. It usually comes out like “I-I-I-I l-like-like your s-s-s um s-s-sweater” and that just sounds dumb😭 but sometimes people compliment me and I want to be able to compliment them back.

I recently saw a post on Reddit where someone asked “what do you think the prettiest animal is?” And I kid you not I saw multiple people in the comments who were like “well I’m not a zoophile so humans” how dumb do you have to be to think that question is talking about sexual attraction? Can you not comprehend that “pretty” can refer to any thing?

What are some heartwarming friendly interactions you have had with other people regarding your stutter? I would say for me, when I meet someone who still seems interested in what I have to say and wants to talk to me and doesn’t finish my sentences, it makes me feel very appreciative.

I feel like if I didn’t stutter I would say so many witty, funny, spontaneous things. I know people are going to say “just say it anyway, don’t be afraid to stutter” and it’s not that I’m super afraid of stuttering. I do speak to people and I do engage in conversations even though I stutter, but saying funny spontaneous things and stuttering on them would just kill the vibe and make them not funny anymore. I do still say funny things to my close friends because they still think I’m funny even if I stutter, so at least I have that, but I want strangers to think I’m funny and clever too.

I feel like women are expected to be perfect. Women are expected to be the ones to comfort and uplift flawed men but women are not supposed to be flawed. I suspect I have autism, adhd, and possibly ocd and Tourette’s. I also have a stutter. All of these conditions are said to be way more common in men than women. I think for all of these it’s like 4 or 5 times more likely for men, honestly I don’t know if that’s actually true or if these things are just under diagnosed in women. Because why tf is literally every neurological disability “4 times as likely to be found in men”.

It’s hard to explain why, but talking about my stutter is just really embarrassing and makes me feel really vulnerable. I also feel like me talking about my stutter puts them in this position where they feel like they have to comfort me and I don’t like that. This can make it awkward with dating and friendships because I never mention my stutter because I’m too uncomfortable talking about it and they never mention my stutter probably because they don’t want to hurt my feelings. So it just becomes this elephant in the room that neither of us ever talk about.

I know I know, some people have stomach issues. It still pisses me off.

I know there is less women who stutter than men, and maybe even less women with moderate or severe stutters like me. I would like to know for the other women like me, how is your life going? How is jobs, relationships, friendships?

I hate how when people ask me if I want to do something or tell me that I should do something, and I say no, they ask me why and keep pressuring. I hate how the reasons I give are never even good enough for people and they feel the need to explain to me why my reasons are invalid. Sometimes I don’t know my reasons, or sometimes I have multiple reasons, and sometimes I just can’t explain it in words. It would make me so happy to just be able to say no without guilt or questioning or demanding an explanation.

I’ve never had it happen to me, but I imagine it would be scary and I would stutter more because I would be nervous. Has this happened to anyone?

I feel like every other autistic person I know gets really bad motion sickness from cars, boats, planes, etc. I don’t know if it’s more common in autistic people, but I know we often have more sensitivity to different sensations so I guess it makes sense. Does anyone else get motion sick easily?

Ok this one is a bit specific and I know some people may find it weird. It’s just that when I’m trying to cook my dinner in peace after a long day, I get a little annoyed by the daily “ooooh what are you making?” “What’s in it?” “Have you had this before?” “I would suggest using this ingredient instead” “why did you buy organic milk, the other kind Is cheaper” “I don’t think you’re chopping that correctly”

Like I understand that making small talk about food is a common thing that people do, and I can’t really put my finger on why it bugs me, but it honestly just makes me wish I could live alone sometimes.

I don’t know about you, but I feel like when I look at minority groups and how they fit in with the world, people are generally becoming more tolerant of different kinds of people…except disabled people. From what I observe at my university, lgbtq people and people of all different races and ethnicities and religions seem to be accepted among most of my peers. This is obviously a great thing, however, this same acceptance doesn’t seem to extend to disabled people.

I see so many disabled people with literally no friends at all, no matter what kind of disability it is. Even among the most progressive people, ableism still seems to be something that people cannot get past. Most of these people claim to be accepting and advocate for disabled people, but in my opinion that doesn’t really mean much if you refuse to be friends with a disabled person. And it seems like the majority of people, besides other disabled people, do refuse to be friends with us.