AIO? The guy I’ve been seeing said he didn’t like my makeup and I left in tears.
EDIT: Since I didn’t really clarify, I am 1000% not continuing to see this man. I made that clear with him
before I left his place.
EDIT: I totally understand asking a question can lead to possibly receiving an unwanted answer. I just felt really confident about my makeup and wanted to emphasize it. It’s really not about me feeling self conscious about him not liking my makeup, it’s about his actions and the principle of it all.
EDIT: We never slept together. I established a boundary almost immediately that I was looking for something serious—so he knew this and continued to see me.
I’d been seeing someone for a few weeks—we knew of each other through mutual friends, and he pursued me pretty hard. Mind you, this is someone I’d had my eye on for a few years, so it felt so good to feel wanted by him.
Last night things took a turn. We were hanging out at his place planning to watch a film. The first thing that threw me off is he commented about how I sounded like a “snorting pig” when I laughed. Kinda just ignored it. A bit later I asked him if he liked my makeup—was feeling cute and proud of it, honestly. He looks at my dead in the eyes and says:
“Not really. I don’t like how you put that line above your eye. I also don’t like the way you wear makeup on your cheeks.”
Mind you, it’s not like I have a full face of makeup on. Think Sharon Tate with that iconic 60s defined crease. A little blush on my cheeks—nothing crazy.
Regardless, I felt crushed. The night felt spoiled at that point and the conversation turned sour. As much as I wanted to enjoy myself, I just could not. He then opened up, saying I should protect myself emotionally due to his lack of interest in seeking a connection beyond sex.
I’d had a few glasses of wine at the point, and became a bit weepy. Probably unattractive, but damn, he hurt my feelings. It felt like one blow after another. I stayed a bit to sober up but cut the night short, which he seemed surprised by.
I do feel embarrassed by my reaction honesty, but I also believe it wasn’t necessary for him to put me down like that. The combination of my long time desire for him and such a quick burn made me unravel emotionally. I appreciate honestly, but it came
off so rude. Am I justified to feel like this way?