u/mintedkoi

i got into crypto in 2011, held through multiple cycles, and made my best moves by accumulating early and positioning during major market shifts (2013, 2017, 2020). i also worked in investment banking for a few years before joining my family’s business, where i now manage investments and operations. i’m currently taking a break from work and figured this would be a good time to answer questions.

this is a new reddit account for privacy reasons.

ask me anything.

problem/goal: how do i help someone who has spent her whole life giving to others but won’t accept help now?

context: the woman who raised me and has cared for me my entire life, my nanny of 30+ years, has been diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer a few months ago. my mom knew about the diagnosis, but i only found out later.

she is now in her 70s and has spent her whole life raising me. she never having time to get married or build a life of her own, because she devoted herself completely to caring for me.

she is now one of my daughter’s nannies.

since her diagnosis i’ve offered to pay for all her treatments and i also offered to take her to singapore for treatment since that is where my family receives medical care but she refuses to accept. she says she doesn’t want to be a burden. for me it’s not about the money i just want to take care of her the way she has always taken care of me.

i’ve tried telling her that i want to do this for her but she still won’t accept it.

i don’t know what the right thing to do is. i want to support her properly and make sure she gets the best care possible but i don’t know how to help someone who refuses to help.