u/mishkish6767

I’m struggling

Hi everyone,

I’ve not been active here in a while because we’ve been fortunate enough to have seven quality years with my father since his stage four sarcoma diagnosis. After exhausting all available treatment options for him over the years, we are now nearing the end of his cancer journey and have transitioned him to outpatient hospice as of last week. He has since declined more rapidly than I think any of us expected (not that you’re ever really ready), and I’m having a really difficult time balancing my job and helping my mom with his care, while also trying to soak up as much time with him as I can during this period.

I have been hoarding my sick time and vacation days for this exact moment, but am sensing frustration at my job when I take a day given how understaffed we already are as it is. I don’t qualify for FMLA unfortunately due to the size of my office, so that is not an option. I am truly struggling to function, and as the primary earner while my husband is finishing up school, am feeling really trapped right now.

I guess I’d like to know how others have navigated the absurdity of an unforgiving workplace during these moments. I have a high-visibility, client-facing role in PR, and having already struggled with the daily meetings as an introvert, am finding the levels of apathy and exhaustion I feel insurmountable as time goes on and I watch the man I’ve always looked up to slip away hour by hour.

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u/mishkish6767 — 3 days ago

Hard gulping but not megaesophagus?

Hi all! Has anyone ever seen this “gulping” in their hound? His vet recently did a chest x-ray to rule out megaesophagus and thankfully he doesn’t appear to have it, though they suspect it may be reflux so we’re starting him on some meds. That said, I have been worried about his neck in general, as he has a small bald patch right over his Adams apple(??) with oddly tight skin around it. He was a leash puller when we first got him so I think his foster family wasn’t the most careful with him in that regard. We’ve also ordered a harness so I’m hoping that will at least alleviate any pressure on the area. Anyone have experience with this? We have the option of bringing him in for a swallow test but his vet made it sound like it wouldn’t necessarily tell us much so want to make sure it’s worth putting him through that.

u/mishkish6767 — 11 days ago

Our Jerry has a lot of quirks, but perhaps the wildest is this reflex when we scratch the side of his face. It startled us at first because it looked aggressive, but we quickly realized it wasn’t intentional and I’m not even sure he knows it’s happening lol. He also smiles when he gets excited so it could be related to that? I’ve never had a dog that showed its teeth unless it was upset, so this is very new to me! Does anyone else’s grey do this?!

u/mishkish6767 — 17 days ago