36M4F – Looking for domestic bliss with somebody who wants to lay all their cards on the table
The dating apps started to feel as fake and tedious as social media, and I'm in a bit of a "fuck it, why not?" phase, so here I am! Seeking my life partner/future wife/whatever we want to call it.
Me:
36, 6'2", white, on the slim side of fit (now 180lbs, used to be skinnier than I'd like to be, feeling much better about my body these days), ginger, bearded, and, despite feeling like it's not my place to say, handsome. Never married, no kids, nonsmoker. Otherwise, I:
- play and write a lot of music;
- love to cook and I bake sourdough somewhat regularly;
- play volleyball every week and now that it's nice out, I get decked out in bright spandex and silly sunglasses and go road cycling (but I'm not one of the super aggressive types who rides like he could take a pickup truck head-on). I do some weightlifting as well but I don't live at/for the gym;
- have a significant left lean politically and socially, but I'm not the type to virtue signal/make it my entire personality;
- write stand-up joke ideas regularly for when I finally get the nerve to go out and do it;
- like photography even though I don't do it very often anymore;
- pretty much collect hobbies as a hobby, so if you want to crochet, or do watercolours, or throw pottery, or any number of other things, I probably have the stuff;
- see a therapist regularly;
- am a very curious person by nature and love solving problems, puzzles, escape rooms, trivia nights, etc.;
- have some experience dabbling in kink and want to continue that journey;
- am planning on a childfree life.
What do I want from you? I'm looking for someone...
- adventurous and intentional with their choices, who likes to question the way things are done. You might still decide the conventional way is best, but it's a choice vs. an assumption that others know best;
- who knows how to prioritize their health – staying fit, eating well, maintaining balance, thinking about long-term well-being – but isn't so fixated on it as to deprive ourselves of joy when the dessert menu comes out;
- who's just as eager to work on their mental health – not saying you need to be in therapy, but I want someone who has the awareness and vocabulary to express themselves.
- who wants to challenge me and be challenged by me so that we can be our best selves, but also knows when it's time to be soft;
- funny. Please be funny.
- who noticed the period instead of a semicolon at the end of the last point and was like, "hey, wait...";
- who values being informed on a variety of topics. Let's debate for fun, and flip from politics (e.g. "which of Doug Ford's latest actions is most contemptible?") to the best season of the Simpsons in the same breath;
- who doesn't smoke or vape;
- with a strong sense of personhood – you've got your own interests, you're excited about your life, your world, and your people;
- who wants to bring something to the table. If you're someone looking to be a "trad wife", we're not going to click. I'm hoping to find a partner, not a dependent.
- who, even if you're not 100% certain, can build a plan for a future without kids.
There's a lot more to me and a lot more to you. Send me a message that makes you say, "wow, did I type too much?"
u/mitbot — 2 days ago