r/TorontoSinglesOver30

I am curious for POCs born in Canada, do you have a preference for dating within your own race or are open to interracial dating? Moreover, do you have a preference for those born here as well, if you are interested in dating within your own race, or even outside?

I feel this is such a sensitive topic because many POCs with the preference of someone raised here are labelled as racist / classist when it’s a preference for shared upbringing.

I’m a POC myself and have actually met cool people through Reddit who were raised in their home country so I think biases can always be challenged but I was curious if the preference is common among different POCs.

43F no kids.

I’ve used Hinge for a long time and found 2 long term bfs on it. I took a major break, like 5 years from age 38-42. Now it’s so different and I don’t know if it’s due to my age or if guys are using it differently.

I get an overwhelming amount of likes but the issue is, bland and boring profiles that tell me nothing about who the guys are. Pics are meh but I don’t worry about that because many ppl just aren’t photogenic.

I want to find my life partner, as I always have and so profession, education, kids, use of substances, religion, ethnicity and filled in prompts all weigh heavily on who I swipe right now. The issue is profiles are barely filled out so I’m forced to swipe based on pics but even they’re bad. I go through sprees of swiping right if I see a spark of potential but finding out basic compatibility info is like pulling teeth and exhausting… it should just be filled out to save everyone time.

Have guys changed how they use the app (ie barely filling it out) or am I just getting bottom of the barrel likes because of my age?

My profile has decent pics, is fully filled out and has lots of info to spark convo.

The whole Hinge experience is just so painfully exhausting now. Never in my life did I worry I’d be alone forever but now it feels that way.

Figured there might be a handful of us aged 30-40, so early GenZ / Millennial who are living here, but grew up in Vancouver, and are single over 30. Thought we could create a group chat and arrange meetups that could lead to friendship, maybe something more.

We can be nostalgic about Rainforest Cafe and Playdium at Metrotown, shake our heads when Torontonians talk about “going to the island” or compare Translink to the TTC.

Of course anyone from BC is welcome.

Cuties with booties to the front of the line

I genuinely like my own company. Give me coffee, music, Xbox, a movie, some weird documentary or a three-hour internet rabbit hole and I’m perfectly content. I’m not looking for someone because I can’t be alone. I’m looking for someone who makes me actually want to share my little world.

I’m a dad first. My kids are a huge part of my life and they’ll always come first. I also work a lot, so I’m not someone with endless free time, but if I care about you, I make time.
I’m into tattoos, old-school skate culture, horror, sci-fi, Stephen King, video games, 80s/90s nostalgia and music that sounds no best while staring dramatically out a car window.

I don’t drink or smoke, and I’m definitely not a bar/club guy. A great night to me is food, music, laughing at stupid shit, a movie and being comfortable enough to do absolutely nothing together.

Personality-wise, I’m sarcastic, affectionate, calm, a little nerdy and probably softer than the beard and tattoos would suggest.

I like direct people. Say what you mean, tell me what you want, and please don’t make me decode “I’m fine” like it’s an ancient manuscript.

If you message me, give me something better than “hey.”
Tell me the song you currently have on repeat, your weirdest hobby, your comfort movie, or just why the tattooed Canadian introvert caught your attention.
Maybe there’s room in the wolf pack for two.

I’m a horror movie guy. I love the genre, I read, watch and draw it when I can, but I haven’t watched a movie with someone in a hot minute. The last film I saw by myself was the spectacularly made “resident evil”. Heck, I’m watching a horror film rn. Anyway, it’d be nice to go out with someone casually and watch that film.

About me: located in Oakville, Caribbean, 5’9”, and pretty chill. I workout, I’m in pretty good shape, and I’m busy most weekdays.

If this aligns with you, and you’re down, then let’s gooooooo!

(On a side note, I’d be down for a small group viewing if anyone wanna make movie viewing friends, either or is alright by me )

Not sure if this is the right place for me talk about this and reveal.

I’ve been living alone all my life and as I get older I miss the depth of connection.

I did have friends but it’s not been the same.
They’ve got married and I am not able to relate to them anymore in many ways and the friendships have cracked.

As much as I make efforts to take care of my physical and mental health, life has its ways to take me on a downward spiral.

Of course, not all days are the same.
On some days I feel hopeful and on other days I feel extremely alone.

I’ve gone through some of the most challenging situations which nobody can imagine and I’ve managed to survive through it. I am glad that I am still alive. I am not exaggerating this.

I miss the depth of connection.
I know that I can be a good friend and a partner.
I choose to be childfree.

The emotional void is real.
I have career and financial goals. And it gets very lonely when I go through challenging situations.

I enjoy my alone time.
I prefer to talk less and listen more.
But it gets very lonely.

There’s this constant voice telling me that I am extremely alone and I have nobody.

I think life would be slightly better if I have someone to root for me. It could be from a friend / friends or a partner. Just saying.

don’t want to type of a essay and bore you all so

- I like to travel
- business owner
- live in Mississauga/Port Credit (10-15 min from Toronto)
- I like to workout but I also have a nerdy side of collecting and playing video games
- I enjoy going to concerts & movies

Dating is hard these days and the apps are treacherous if anyone is interested and wants to take a leap of faith dm me who knows what’ll happen as long as we don’t tell people we met on reddit 😂

First date idea… fear fest?