i'm starting to hate my bf but i can't leave yet
(this is copy and pasted from another post I made because i reaaaally need help)
Okay, so I (15F) need advice on what to do in this situation with my boyfriend (15M). Pretty straightforward.
This began about two years ago when he moved to my school and developed a **big** crush on me. I didn't like him at all. A year later, he begins asking me out constantly and I repeatedly reject him. So, he has always had a big thing for me and eeeverybody at school knew. However, I just didn't like him.
Fast forward to this year, he dated another girl in tern one. Still, he liked me and tried to get with me. However, this year I began to develop feelings for him too. BUT, if you know me then you know that it was probably just a phase where I liked a boy and then would move on within two weeks. I don't really date because I hate attachment and I really struggle to keep feelings. So usually, I break up with the guy and move on in a day.
However, me and him began to talk in late April of this year. I liked him but I never had **real** feelings like he did for me. I decided to give him a chance though and we talked all through May. During May, his female friends started spreading rumours about us and there is one in particular who just started to hate me. She would constantly talk about me. Overall, everybody hated because they thought we wouldn't last at all.
In June, he asked me out and I said yes (big mistake.. never should've gone this far). So, we've been dating for about 2 weeks and my feelings for him are declining reaaally fast.
He's very clingy. He always wants to call (and I mean **always**.. 24/7!) and text but I am not the type of person to enjoy that. I'm getting sick of his constant need for connection. He always wants to hang out. He always wants sex (which I barely enjoy because he doesn't listen to what I enjoy anyway). He always wants me to do things with him. Did I mention his constant need for sex? It's veeery annoying. Additionally, I haven't said "I love you" to him but he always says it to me and will be butthurt if I don't repeat it back. I can never pull away. Whenever he kisses me, he tries to makeout (even in public or at school) and I try to pull away... and an argument happens. Maybe I'm just unaffectionate or afraid of PDA, but I love personal space and time sometimes. We argue quite a bit. He is overprotective of what I wear, where I go, who I'm with. He hates all my male friends (especially my gay best friend and my childhood friend).
Now, I do like him. I just don't enjoy being with him. He's caring, funny, sweet and when it's good, it's amazing. But that's about 1% of the time. I just can't keep going. My friends told me I should stay until at least September to prove everyone wrong, keep his feelings from getting too hurt, and keep myself grounded.
I hate dating at this point in my life. I'm very avoidant of dating and love. I don't love him though.
I've met his family, he's met mine. I always talk with his siblings and they **adore** me. Even his friends adore me being with him and that's rare for them. I'm just sick of him.
Please, what should I do? It's draining me everyday. I don't know whether I should leave him, stay with him, or talk to him about it... I have talked about it with him but he really doesn't listen well. He's been obssessed for over 3 years now and I only liked him for a bit. What should I do? We're on a holiday break and I'm going to see him tomorrow.
If you need extra information, I'm sure I can answer if it helps.