u/mommasaursrex

How do you know if you're in perimenopause or just post partum in a later decade of your life?

I'm on day 76 of this current menstrual cycle (no I'm not pregnant again, I've been testing incessantly) but also no sign of ovulation this cycle. I'm almost 8 months post partum and I feel like I was pretty much regulated by this point with my other babies but I was in my 20s, not my mid-30s. I've had labs like 4 months ago and my progesterone was tanked, like postmenopausal level tanked but estrogen is still high, testeorone was normal?

So idk. I really don't want it to be peri but omg im scared its perimenopause!

Just screaming into the void... again!

I finally found a new pcp because my last one really sucked. I asked about a glp because I have been trying for 7 years and I simply can.not. get. The. Weight. OFF! She asked what I've done, I listed everything, dates, timelines. We talked about the raging insulin resistance, the PCOS, the fact that I don't tolerate metformin, the whole shebang. She says "I really think its time to try a glp1 because you've literally already done everything I would've recommended." Cool, I was kind of hoping for that.

Insurance denies it, they need a prior authorization, ok, that was expected. My new doctor files it quickly. The insurance denied it less than 24 hours later because they'll only approve it if the doctor can prove I've spent at least 6 months trying to make "lasting lifestyle changes", which of course this doctor can't do because I just started working with her. 🫠

The extra shitty part? I quit tracking everything because I had a baby 7 months ago. I asked if I could upload the food and exercise logs from before I got pregnant to prove I've really tried. No, they're more than 6 months old. So because I quit tracking everything because I was struggling with PPD (and to be fair exercise has taken a back seat right now), no help for me. But hey, I could try metformin again! Then I can, you know, 💩 my pants multiple times a day! It'll match my bladder leakage 😭

But also, why does my insurance refuse to cover drugs used "off-label" BUT then turn around and suggest metformin for my PCOS when that's an off-label use? 🤡

So my son (dairy allergy) had to get antibiotics and a round of steroids because it also turns out he's got an issue with bee stings. New to all of this i asked the pharmacist if his meds were dairy free. She calls the manufacturer, comes back and tells me both are dairy free, they only have lactose. I blinked in disbelief and said "I think lactose IS a dairy product." She shakes her head "No, lactose is something made by your body. You know when you work out and your muscles get really sore? That's from the lactose your body made." 🤨 ma'am, that's latic acid ​NOT lactose.

So now I'm confused. Pretty sure the pharmacist I was talking to doesn't understand the conversation we had. But isn't lactose considered dairy?! Also, why tf is lactose used as a binder in some medications when literally everyone knows someone who is lactose intolerant?! Along that note, how are we getting DF prescriptions?

7 year old wasn't paying attention to where he was going, ran into my apron belly full tilt. While there he leaned in for a second like he was going to give me a hug then instead said "Wow! You're really fat! Like really really REALLY fat!"

Now, I am fat. I've spent years trying to lose weight and thanks to PCOS/PMOS, insulin resistance, and a few other things, it just won't come off. But yes, fat is an accurate description. I've spent years learning to not view that particular adjective as hurtful instead of just factual. So I never really know what to say when they call me fat. This particular time, I simply said "Yeah, I have fat on my body but it's not nice to talk about people's bodies."

Tell me why my 5 year old chimed in and said "Ok fatty!" and made pig snorts at me?!?! 🫠

First, I have NO idea where she learned that. Second of all, I was doing ok not getting hurt by this convo until the pig snort came out and I had an immeadiate flashback to ALL of the animal sounds that have been attributed to me (pig snorts, cow moos, and the ever popular whale call) in my life and What. The. Hell?!?!?! ​

Did she mean to hurt my feelings? Probably not. Should I take it personally? Absolutely not but OMG that one was a bit painful!

I'm on day 4 of being dairy free. My kids have had to be DF for a few years now and I suspected I probably also had dairy issues but man cheese is hard to give up after almost 40 years.

Anyway it was strongly recommended I give up dairy, I'm four days in and I feel like garbage 🙃.

My energy is tanked, I'm so obnoxiously bloated (like I've never been this bloated in my ENTIRE life), and I'm already stressed AF about how this looks long term.

I keep seeing 2 weeks to a month being referenced as the "if you can just stick it out, it'll get better" and I'm going to give it a fair shake but oof tell me the bloating/gastro stuff goes away soon? 🙏

Basically the title. I'm almost 6 months PP and 6 months from turning 35. I dont know if my post partum horomones are going nuts, I'm hitting perimenopause, or a combo of both. But omfg the horomonal rage. Like it has to be horomonal because its irrational AF, right? Its 99% directed at my husband, who is just doing his normal husband shit, I just apparently have zero tolerance for it anymore.

Today's particular rage episode: my husband ​texted that he was leaving work at 5:45. So I got ready to serve the dinner so that it would be hot and ready to eat when he got home and we could eat as a family. He only has a 20 minute commute. I pull up the life 360 at 6:00 and he's at the dollar store in his company's town buying freaking snacks. Now, this is a pretty regular occurrence, I normally don't mind but for some reason today I am absolutely freaking livid about it. Like for once can you arrive at the time you're supposed to instead of lollygagging?! But also, his work schedule has been nuts so between the OT and the kids we're hardly seeing each other. He's always saying, "I miss you, I wish we had more time together." Do ya? Do you really? Cuz every time I turn around you're at work or side questing or whatever stupid thing has to be done **right now**

Ugh I can't handle months or years of this shit. There's gotta be a solution???