My friend wants me to move in with her and I’m 50/50 if I should or not
So to try to keep this short basically me and my friend both live with our parents still, last year her and her family moved to a new area for her dads job and have a 3 year lease on the house they are renting. Unfortunately her dad got laid off and is now getting a new job in another state and they are going to move there while my friend stays in the current house since the lease isn’t up. She already talked with her parents and they are perfectly okay with putting me on the lease and having me live there so my friend isn’t alone for a year or so. Her parents will also have us pay for some of the bills along with groceries of course. Here’s my pros and cons list:
PROS:
- the house will be majority furnished i will already have a bed there as well as other necessities
- we wouldn’t be paying a lot since her parents will be paying for the lease
- her friends live in the area and i’ve met them and they seem fun and i would love to live with my friend
- ive lived with her for 2 weeks in the past and it was fun
- we’ve discussed each others boundaries and i know how she loves deep cleaning so i totally wouldn’t mind that at all
- my family is kinda toxic and ive wanted to move out for a while now
- we are very understanding of each others mental health issues
CONS:
- i don’t have a car yet and i live a few states away from her
- i have a lot of medical issues (shes aware of them but doesn’t mind) but im worried about getting setup with providers
- my mom just got out of the hostpital for alcoholism and she’s getting better so i don’t want to leave and she gets bad again (i’d feel guilty)
- i have bipolar disorder and i have lashed out on her in the past for the smallest things and it makes me feel guilty and i don’t want to end up lashing out on her again, i also don’t want to act out of impulse and accept her offer and screw everything up
- i told my mom about my friends offer to come live with her and she seemed very sad about it