u/moshua_

At about 2 this morning we got the call that my mother in law passed away somewhat unexpectedly. My wife is 23 weeks pregnant and is taking it obviously very hard. I’m just wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar and had some advice(I doubt there is any). I know now it is my time to be strong and support her but HOW. Im already a very present and attentive husband. We have a great relationship and our communication and emotional intelligence is great. I just want to support her through this the best I can. This is my little family now and I need to make sure they’re taken care of on all fronts.
Thanks in advance.

My wife is 22 weeks pregnant and I’m really struggling with self worth and getting everything in order.
About 6 years ago I had emergency surgery that left me with permanent damage and I am physically disabled from chronic pain.
Even before we decided to get pregnant my wife and I knew what we were getting into with it.
I really can’t physically do a lot or for long periods of time.
I do not work but supplement our income by selling cards online.

All this to say I just feel like I’m not doing good enough. A lot of men’s self worth is tied to work and I’ve made a lot of progress in realizing who I am and what I contribute isn’t tied to a career but still I’m struggling.

I try as hard as I can and there’s still so much that needs to be done. I know it takes a village but I already have a village propping me up, I have a thousand thoughts just racing.

“The baby will come and you won’t be good enough. Your wife will realize she made a mistake and leave you. You won’t be able to keep up with a kid” etc etc etc.

Idk I guess I’m just looking to vent.
Thank you for reading.