Boyfriend doesn't understand meltdowns
I had a good day with my boyfriend yesterday. We've been living together for 2 years. He came back after a long work trip, he rented a car and we went to explore a few places. I was kinda obsessed with buying pyjamas because I REALLY needed them (mine are all destroyed) and we can't go to that shop often unless we rent a car because we live in a small town far away from the city.
We ate out, saw amazing landscapes, saw goats in the mountains and discovered new places. We went to buy the PJs. Then we had a couple of beers at the bar.
It was great until we came home and I realized I got the wrong size and the shop is closed tomorrow which means I will have to travel for 4 hours in public transport just to change the size. Then I had a huge meltdown. The first in months, I've been controlling them very well. I think it wasn't really the PJ but the stress from the change of routine while he was away and then another change now that he's back. Maybe it's because I was told I'm going to be in charge of a whole team at work and that's stressing. I really don't know. I have ADHD as well btw.
I had my meltdown and went to sleep. And today he says he is disappointed because I had a tantrum because of a pyjama and he doesn't want to continue our road trip today. He's acting pissed off and doesn't understand me. And I don't know what to do. He's normally extremely caring, cuddly, and loving. But he says this is ridiculous. I just want to move on and not think about it, I even apologized but he won't let us move on. He's giving me shitty advice like "you just have to control it, it's not difficult"...
I'm feeling really sad and angry that he doesn't even try to support me emotionally and he's taking it personally. I wired him half of the car rental, even though he said he was paying (we normally go 50/50). I don't want anything from him if he's going to act like an asshole. But I don't know what else to do, he's normally not like this.