38M dating to 21F : Looking for Advise : India - Western Region
I’m a bit confused right now and could really use some guidance.
I am a **38M** currently dating a **21F**. Initially, I thought this would just be a casual thing that wouldn't last a month, but somehow we've been seeing each other for almost 3 months now.
Over this time, I have developed strong feelings for her and can even picture marrying her. I have clearly expressed my intentions to her. However, she told me she isn't sure at the moment and wants to "see how things go later"—which makes sense, given that she is only 21.
# The Core Issue
I am struggling to understand what she feels or how she feels about me. I am quite emotional and expressive, whereas she comes across as a bit cold. I always assumed Gen Z was a highly expressive generation, so I expected her to be more open, but she isn't.
Because of this wall, I can't figure out if she has genuine feelings for me. I want a long-term commitment and need to know if her feelings are real (whether she expresses them openly or not). This constant confusion has me living in doubt, and I find it hard to act naturally when I'm around her.
# Key Data Points:
**Looks:** She is beautiful, while I am a very average-looking guy.
**Career:** I am well-settled with a decent income, while she has just graduated from college.
**Language & Culture:** She is from a different state, so she doesn’t know my mother tongue or cultural background.
**Physical Intimacy:** We have **not** been physically intimate at all—we’ve only gone out for coffee dates. I don't intend to take things further physically until I know she has genuine feelings for me or we are moving toward marriage. I know it sounds old-school, but it is what it is.
P.S : I have never been to relationship before