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I'm new to demisexuality & myself, but I recently watched Punks (2000), which you can watch for free on the Internet Archive & YouTube, and I felt like I related soooo much to the main character Marcus and his struggles with sex & romance.

At one point, he talks with a roommate who has just finished a hookup, and after the roommate tells him they didn't kiss, Marcus is confused about how his friend could have sex without romance, and Marcus remarks, "But it's the romance that makes it hot."

Anyways, super good movie that I related to strongly, and I think others would as well! Really cute, funny, and lighthearted!

Hey guys sorry for the title, I know that a frequent issue/misconception demisexual ppl face is that they’re told something along the lines of ‘that’s just how everyone is’ but I wanted to genuinely ask, what made you realize that you were demisexual, and not allosexual?

For some background, I recently got out of a LTR, we had been friends previously, it was great & i felt ‘normal’ in comparison to my peers (of course i understand there’s no such thing as normal). I recently tried to meet up with someone I met on an app, and immediately I felt nothing. Like I’m talking we were just strictly kissing and I felt so little I would try to end it early 😭.

The issue was that I didn’t have any sort of crush on them, even though they were definitely my type and we were compatible!!

I’d described this to friends and i’ve gotten both “that’s normal” and “you might be grey/demi”, so I wanted to ask people who understand demisexuality, what made you realize that you experienced things differently?

TLDR: What made you realize you were demisexual, as opposed to an allosexual that didn’t participate in hookups?