u/nairobitheliberator

I've been shaving or waxing my arm hair since I was a teenager. I'm mediterranean, so I've always naturally had darker and thicker hair. Recently, I managed to stick to only waxing, however I've noticed that it keeps irritating my skin, and that the hairs come out so dark and prickly. I have decided that I'll stop waxing and shaving my arms and hope that it eventually grow to be finer and smoother. I'm on week 3 at the moment and my hair is still dark and thick, which makes me incredibly self conscious. Are there any ways I can make my arm hair appear less dark and finer without irritating my skin? Thank you in advance :)