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One of the most profound ideas in Reality Transurfing is that the world around us is not the most important thing to focus on. What is more important is our relationship to the world. Simple enough, lots of great philosophers and manifestation teachers have also said similar things. But how do you put that into actual concrete practice? I am going to try to put my giant ball of disorganized thoughts in order and hopefully we will get to an answer. Thank you u/lava_cake_123 and u/ticarod for inspiring this post.

Most people assume that they are thinking independently. They believe their opinions, fears, desires, and reactions originate within themselves. I hate to break it to you, but according to cognitive behavioral psychology 90-95% of your decisions, emotions, habits, anxieties, and reactions come from prior unconscious programming that is running on autopilot. I think Joe Dispenza does a great job of delving deeply into this if you want a more thorough look.  

According to Reality Transurfing, much of this conditioning comes from pendulums that have an agenda. Countless pendulums have been competing for our attention since birth. We have families transmitting their assumptions onto their children, schools reinforcing cultural expectations, advertisers competing for our desires, social media algorithms looking for our engagement. You get the idea. Add in peers, influencers, religion, legal systems, ancestry and you have a whole lot of programming that did not originate from yourself floating around in your brain.

Each of these pendulums seeks our energy, attention, emotional involvement, and participation. Over the years (and a huge chunk of this is in place before you are 7 years old) these influences become internalized. We no longer hear them as external voices. They become our own internal dialogue. They feel like WHO WE ARE. The great news is, you can completely change who you are once you know about this. 

Do you have automatic beliefs or thoughts like: I’ll probably fail, money is always a struggle, good opportunities don’t happen to people like me, I have to work very hard and hustle for money, the world is becoming more dangerous, etc? These often feel like objective observations in the moment, but they are actually inherited assumptions. You are unknowingly selecting life tracks that are consistent with those beliefs and thoughts. I think Neville Goddard does a wonderful job discussing assumptions and how they out-picture into your life. 

According to Reality Transurfing we are continuously moving through the alternatives space, selecting among countless existing variations of reality. Our habitual direction of attention gradually aligns us with corresponding lifelines. This is why mastering your attention is one of the central principles! 

Modern neuroscience agrees with all of this by the way. The most primitive part of the human brain, what people refer to as the lizard brain, is responsible for basic survival instincts like fight or flight, fear, and aggression. It governs automatic, impulse-driven reactions rather than conscious, rational thought. It evolved over millions of years for survival not happiness. It naturally gives great weight to potential threats and ignores neutral and positive events. Psychology refers to this as negativity bias. This helped our ancestors survive. In the modern world abstract threats like an unread text, a typo in your presentation, someone asking “can we talk?” trigger massive overreactions. Pendulums exploit this tendency. They want your emotionally charged reactions. It is their food. 

Advertising (including influencers) is a great example of this. There is a whole field called neuromarketing! Ads don’t simply describe a product. They create importance. You are incomplete without this. You are behind everyone else. You need this to be enough. You are not successful, attractive or secure without this. Why can’t you be like everyone else? I could write 10,000 words on marketing tactics alone, but this is getting too long already. 

One of the most deceptive aspects of all of this is programming is that it never feels like programming. It feels like common sense, realism, and your own personality. You think “this is just who I am.” or “this is just the way things are.” I challenge you to believe that both of those things are completely malleable and within your control. 

So, what the bloody hell are we supposed to do about this? It all begins with your awareness. The first step is observing your internal dialogue. This actually takes quite a bit of practice. You will be way down the rabbit hole of thinking some bullshit before you catch it at first. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy breaks it down into three steps. 1. Identify the thought or belief. 2. Examine the evidence (where did I learn this? How do I know this is true? Does this thought make me feel great?) 3. Generate an alternative. 

Repeatedly redirecting attention gradually weakens old mental habits while strengthening new ones. It sounds too simple, but it's true. It is all about mind control. Eventually your new thoughts will feel just as natural as the old crap did. But your attention must be retrained. You were originally programmed by repetition, you need to reprogram yourself the same way. 

I will also add this here. You know how subconscious programming feels completely natural, like your own thoughts? The manifestation of your life feels the same way. One of the most fascinating parts of Reality Transurfing is that reality shifts almost never appear supernatural while they are unfolding. Instead they seem like ordinary events. For example, three days ago I was making something in the Instant Pot and overfilled it. I made the offhand comment, I should buy the bigger version, I am constantly overfilling this thing. I was home alone when I said that. The next morning my husband was driving to the pool for his morning swim and stopped at a yard sale. He bought a giant Instant Pot for $5 and brought it home. I asked him why he bought it when we already have one. He said he just had the strong feeling that we needed this or that I would really like it and it was only 5 bucks so why not. Totally “normal” sequence of events. 

This aspect of RT will never stop amazing me. One opportunity introduces another, a conversation leads you to just the right person, a chance meeting becomes the start of a new business, etc. Looking backward the chain appears astonishing. But looking forward, each individual step felt completely ordinary. Was it Neville Goddard who said that the bridge of events is invisible while crossing it? 

To wrap up, I want to remind you that Reality Transurfing is not about changing the external world. In practice, the deepest transformation happens internally. Get your attention under your constant control. I just came back from a 1 year break from the internet and TV. I planned to do it for a few months while we were in Mexico for the winter, but it felt so great that I kept it up for a long time. Something this drastic is probably not necessary for everyone, but if you think you can Transurf your life while staying enmired in pendulums you are deluding yourself. No single affirmation is going to change your life. Sustained attention alters your relationship to reality, carrying you to lifelines that once seemed completely impossible. 

What can you do today? 

1. Observe your thoughts. Every hour ask yourself what you are thinking about. Interrupt your thoughts and reinsert great-feeling ones. 
2. Go on a pendulum diet. 
3. Audit your internal beliefs.Write them down. 
4. Practice low-importance goals. 
5. Practice ecstatic over-the-top levels of gratitude whenever possible. 
6. Reduce importance. What if there are 50 different ways that your goal could work out and you only know about 3 of them? 
7. Stop monitoring the mirror (checking reality) Instead take action. 
8. Meditate. Create a nice mental white space with no music, no podcasts, no phone, no tv. Why not drive your car in complete silence and see what ideas pop up? I do this during dog walks.

 

Let's talk about this! What have you done to reprogram your own mind? My husband listens to theta-wave binaural beats with a list of affirmations playing in the background while he does yard work. What is your technique?

Hello fellow Transurfers! I’ve been unplugged digitally for about a year and I wanted to come back and finally share my story. 8 years ago I decided to treat Reality Transurfing like an experiment. I committed to practicing it for 90 days instead of just reading about it.

That experiment completely changed my life.

In winter of 2018 I bought the digital copy of Reality Transurfing Steps 1-5. I have read many books on this subject and studied lots of esoteric, philosophical, and manifesting type material. I was at one point very deep into Neville Goddard, with no outward success. Something about this giant book really struck me internally. I decided to do an experiment. I ordered the physical paperback version and locked in for 90 days. I decided to disconnect from as many pendulums as possible during this time. I unplugged my television and deleted all social media apps. I committed to practicing the material, not just reading about it. That 90 days completely changed the direction of my life and turned into many years of transurfing.

At the time of this challenge, my life really sucked. I was making $20 dollars an hour in a HCL city and living in a run-down apartment building in the worst part of town. I had been dealing with treatment-resistant depression for over 2 decades and did not see any way out of this life. I also have two auto-immune diseases that would flare up seemingly at random to complicate everything. All in all I was lonely, unhealthy, and miserable most of the time

The first thing I did was take on Vadim’s recommendations on gratitude. I forced myself to write down 10 things that I was grateful for every evening. I had an exceedingly negative mindset, so this was hard. The most I could come up with in the beginning was being thankful for coffee, sunshine, and weekends off. After a while, my brain was trained to search my environment for things to be grateful for and I could list a dozen items easily. I had read about this phenomenon before, but never tried it. Turns out having recurring thoughts like What’s the Point? and God, I Hate My Life!, do not make you feel good. Lol. 

The two biggest Transuring ideas that I took on during this time were also about changing my own mind. First, I decided to genuinely believe that the reality I wanted already existed in the alternatives space. My job was not to create it because it already existed. Second, I became ruthless about my thoughts. When doubt showed up I immediately repeated an affirmation or changed to subject. Same thing for thoughts about things that I did not like or did not want. I did my best to switch those to thoughts about what I do want. Those recurring depression thoughts were nearly gone by the end of my experiment. 

The biggest manifestation in that 90 days was in my career/income. I had lots of little manifestations occur during this time that built my confidence, but I will skip over those so this doesn’t get too long. I was initially working as a telemarketer for $20hr. I had no formal business education and no connections. One day I applied for a Business Development Associate position that I was honestly underqualified for. Somehow, I got it. 

Once I was there, I applied the same transurfing techniques to my work. It was extremely stressful, because I didn’t understand the job, but I stayed focused on the version of myself who was already successful. It was actually completely insane to watch myself start to understand and comprehend topics that confused me the previous week. Where was this knowledge coming from? It felt like my brain started connecting dots it couldn't connect before. In a short period of time (after the 90 days), I was promoted to leading my own team and enjoyed that for a while. That opened a door, and I moved to a larger, global company. By that time I was making a mid-six-figure income. What is interesting to me is that my mind could come up with a logical explanation for most of this, it didn’t seem like magic or anything while I was living it, except for a few things (like a new skillset being downloaded into my brain somehow!). When I think back to it though, I can see how wildly improbably the whole sequence really was. 

During that experiment I came to believe with complete certainty that any reality I desired already existed. I also started treating every little coincidence, opportunity, or lucky break as confirmation that I was moving toward that reality. Looking back, I think that strengthened my confidence more than anything. 

The really crazy part is that life just kept getting better after those first 90 days. Here is a quick list, otherwise this would be way too long:

I moved out of that apartment and into a house in a suburb. I paid it off in 4 years. 

I met my husband, who against all odds had already heard of transuring. 

I manifested my dog, who is my constant companion and biggest joy. 

I decided I wanted a new SUV. I was driving a 12 year old Chrysler that was on its last leg. Once I put my mind to it and visualized the new vehicle (using the plait), it showed up in a crazy way 10 days later. 

My husband’s longtime business went from barely profiting to very success quickly. He was able to sell it for a high profit several years later. 

We bought a beach house in another state on the West Coast (usa). 

I retired early and still do consulting on the side when I’m in the mood. I help small businesses attract new customers via all those fancy business development skills I learned :) 

Both of my autoimmune diseases went into remission just last year. 

The difference in my life is so dramatic that I can’t ignore it. Can I prove that it was all transuring? No. I’m not trying to convince the skeptics, everyone is free to draw their own conclusions. I'm just sharing what happened in my own life because I know reading stories like this helped me when I first started. I also want to catch up with all of my transurfing friends after a year of goofing off. I missed this community!  

I typed this out in a Google Doc and pasted it here, hopefully the format isn’t a hot mess. I omitted lots of detail to keep it as short as possible. I will be around to chat for the next few days. Happy Transurfing!