Bad Pastor or AIO
I (35M) was working out at the gym that coincidentally my pastor's son works out at, the son is also a pastor(31M).....let's call him Ty. I don't have a close relationship with him. I maybe talked to him for a few seconds one or two times.
While I was at the gym, Ty was also working out with his head of security at the church (55M) and two women (approx 50s), one of them was the head of the security's wife.
I noticed in the gym mirror that they kept staring at me, I just minded my own business and kept working out. As I was leaving the gym the two women walked up to me and said they could see my package, in an attempt to shame me and they said the head security was going to talk to me.
AIO for being mad that the pastor and his security encouraged women to come up to me and talk about my package. I lost my respect for the church. Eventually left church all together. FYI the security never said anything to me, I kind of feel like he is a coward for having women come up to me.
Edit:
I talked to a member at the church and told them what happened to me and the situation. They basically gave me a Bible verse that said it is wrong to talk bad about pastors.
This was at a time that I was going thru a divorce and I was depressed. The divorce was hard, I went to church to try and find some peace and strength in that dark chapter. The gym is also a place I go for my mental health.at that time
I feel like he poisoned both places. I haven't gone back to church, and I haven't seen him at the gym. It was a hit to my mental health during an already hard time and I don't want to deal with the drama.