Gf doesnt like that I'm les4les
Long story short, beyond what the title says, I brought up that people get upset that some lesbians only want to date other lesbians such as myself.
My gf is a transfem lesbian, we've been dating for almost 6 months, but I just realized that I never straight up told her that was one of the factors towards me wanting to date her oops. But other than that,
She got very defensive and said it sounds very wrong to want a preference based on sexuality and it genuinely made me feel hurt. It's a preference for me. I'm very supportive of the bi community, especially knowing I used to identify as bi a few years ago. I have nothing against bi women, and I have a couple of close friends who are. That's simply my preference for myself, I didn't think it's wrong of me to want that. But she got upset and even said it made her uncomfortable. And no, I dont think it's because she's attracted to men herself. she's made it very clear she's not.
Her points are that it sounds "close minded and unfair to not want to date someone just because you think they're gonna leave you for a man" when I didn't even say anything like that yet!!!!!!! :( i wasn't even given a chance to explain myself. I had to hold back tears and ask to talk abt it another time and just hung up.
So idk my question is, I just need reassurance that my preference is valid, I guess. And also, how would I explain myself to her? I don't avoid dating bi women for any reason like that. She thinks the only reason I would want to avoid bi women would be for a bigoted reason. I more prefer someone who has similar life experiences to me that bi women dont have.
Also, bi girls have made me very uncomfortable in the past with the way they express their sexual attraction to men- this sounds strange but I have trauma related to penises and SA so it makes me uncomfortable and has in the past so I avoid girls who like to talk about it.