u/ninodinoo

First of all: my boyfriend is the most empathetic, sensitive and amazing man on earth. I couldn’t imagine a better man by my side. Everyday, I’m thankful that this wonderful man put a baby in me. 🙏 During the first few weeks of my pregnancy, he was really helpful and supportive. He even sat down to pee and flushed the toilet when I told him to.

Unfortunately, because of his empathy, he’s been feeling worse and worse since I got pregnant. Even worse than I am (I’m bedridden, haven’t been able to eat properly for months, I’m in pain all the time, and I’m just having a really hard time). He says he is feeling the same and he’s not able to support me rn, which is okay for me. It‘s not a big deal.

But what’s really hard for me, is that he is suffering so much and I feel I’m not supporting him enough. How can I take better care of him? He says he can’t manage to do the chores, go grocery shopping, take me to doctor’s appointments, or get my pregnancy medications for me. I’ve screwed casters onto my bed and use it to roll to my appointments, but maybe there‘s an even better solution???

Please be nice… my boyfriend is truly the most helpful and wonderful person… he’s just feeling absolutely terrible (blue balls, as he says – is any of you familiar with this problem and knows if there‘s a cure?)

Schnitzel with Bratkartoffeln and cigarettes

I just found out my 13 year old daughter has a bf. I’m honestly shocked because she has always liked girls. She’s been talking to some other kids that openly express their heterosexuality, so I’m not sure if she’s exploring or what’s going on. I had a talk with her about the importance of not getting serious with anyone at her age (they were saying things like I love you, like wtf??? no man should ever be loved by a woman), but I did make sure to tell her that I love her no matter who she chooses to one day be in a relationship with (except with a boy). I also made it clear I wasn’t upset (which was a lie) and would keep her secret for her, but i told her that god sees everything and that heterosexuality is a sin.
However, if I’m being honest, I just don’t know what to do. No one in my family is hetero. We have a very conservative family. I just worry and I’m crying right now because I don’t want my daughter to have any bad experience with a man.

My wife will be so upset, though. We have been gay since forever and my grandmothers will not accept a man in our family.

Anyways, Stulle mit Käse

Ich brauche Hilfe bei unserer Gartengestaltung. Es geht um die hintere Ecke unseres Gartens, in der wir eigentlich gerne eine gemütliche Sitzecke haben würden. Eins der Probleme ist, dass dort drei große Fichten stehen, die ordentlich viel Dreck machen. Also haben wir überlegt ein Sonnensegel drüber zu hängen oder einen Pavillon zu nutzen. Pavillon hätte den Vorteil, dass man ein paar Seiten schließen und ein Insektennetz integrieren könnte, allerdings würde er vielleicht etwas fehl am Platz sein in dieser Ecke und was von der Atmosphäre nehmen. Sonnensegel hätte den Nachteil, dass wahrscheinlich nicht allzu viel abgedeckt werden kann.

Außerdem sind wir uns noch nicht sicher, was wir mit der Erdecke machen. Da ist ziemlich viel Platz, aber da wir in einer Mietwohnung leben, möchten wir nicht allzu viel Geld darin investieren, eine Terrasse zu bauen. Vielleicht hat hier ja jemand günstige und schöne Ideen.

Und: Beet dort lassen oder abreißen? Falls lassen, welche Pflanzen können im Schatten wachsen?

Alle Ideen und Verbesserungsvorschläge sind willkommen! Danke :)