u/nisheshmaadkata

New to this job thing. Been working for only a month. I need some help.

1. How do I stop thinking about work all the time?

Basically - my job is something that is very dumb work - involves talking to a lot of people - doesn't require you to be creative or anything. It has no growth potential, no increment potential and no promotion potential. It is also mostly remote - I have gone to office twice so far. But I am told the frequency may increase rapidly in Q3. My work timings are 4pm to 12am.

I have not switched because I have been here only for a month or so.

Prior to this - I have done two internships - where I was putting in 16 hours a day. They required me to use my brain. They paid double of what I get here.

My problem is - If there's something I'm thinking about at work - how do I postpone that thought until I start working. I get curious. I sometimes end up staying late or starting early because I am too curious to figure it out.

Even if I physically restrict myself - how do I stop thinking about the work all the time? I want to not think about work so that I can learn something else and upskill.

2. How do I upskill in something I don't like?

Let's say there's a skill which is really boring to learn. but once I have it, I know I will make good money. I have done that before. Studied and learned stuff purely because of money. But earlier - I was too broke. Failure was not really an option. However now, I feel a little comfortable. This feels like a swamp that is slowly sucking me in. Maybe like a frog in hot water. I know that not upskilling has consequences. But things wouldn't be as bad as they have once been.

Another angle is - this is the first time I am trying to do job + upskill where I get bored with it all. I am not pursuing my interest. That's because my interest doesn't pay, unfortunately.

I'm trying to get some answers, find someone who is in the same boat, or has been.

Thanks for reading till here.

Really need someone to help me make sense of this.

I was talking to a girl. Things were good. We flirted. We enjoyed each other's company.

Few dates in, I confessed to her. She confessed back. But it was not the start of a relationship.

We figured out there are plenty of questions we need to answer, and be sure of, before really committing to each other. Maybe it was commitment issues from both ends, maybe genuine slow pace to know each other better before we are sure.

We were not committed. We were not exclusive too.

There was a guy she used to talk to, and I asked if there's any thing going on between them. She categorically denied. I found recently it was a lie. She admitted it was a lie.

I really want to ask if you would consider this cheating? Because the emotional part of me feels cheated. But the rational part of me argues that it was never meant to be exclusive or committed, but perhaps the question is, was I entitled to transparency, or she was justified in choosing to withheld that information.

anyone wants to sell their walking pad or treadmill?

Adding a random price so I can post

Price: 25000 INR

I want to live in Faridabad and work in South Delhi, since rents in South Delhi area are very high and there's direct violet line connectivity.

However, I'm not able to figure out the following things

1. Which areas in Faridabad would have a better quality of life? (hygiene, water, electricity)

2. Which areas have high rise societies and which areas have builder floors?

3. I can pretty much stay anywhere from Badarpur Border metro station to Old Faridabad metro station, around the violet line. What are rents like and hence which areas would offer value for money

4. If there are any owners/brokers around these areas, please reach out.

Please help.

Need a place to live, open to both unfurnished and fully furnished.

Preferably sector 37 or sector 28 but anywhere close to a metro station works.

1BHK/2BHK/3BHK all are fine.

Open to preoccupied flats as well (Male)

Please let me know if there's any good deals. Or connect me with some good brokers.

If you are an owner: open to getting you on call with my 2 previous flat owners so you know I'm a decent tenant.

Looking for a preoccupied flat or a flatmate to stay around Govindpuri. If there are any brokers in that area, please comment or DM