u/noriityy

hi im a high schooler looking to volunteer with my club members to help w increasing digital and media literacy.

Does anyone know of any places that would need some help regarding this? We were thinking of helping the elderly with internet/cell functions, but we're not sure of places to do that. I know recreation does that, but I think they already have teenworks tech support. Anyone know of any specific places that would be willing to take high school volunteers for this kind of thing?

so i fell asleep .. but it was after i mostly finished my stuff. So i woke up and decided to type like a couple more sentences for funsies and then i realized i had legit 15 seconds left so I wrote smth along the lines of “The internet was bjemkazii” on my last sentence for one of the eoc a questions. Am i cooked

craving la galbi

pls keep it to moco guys.. can't be driving out to nova EVERYday.. jk but if u have serious recos in va then i will keep for future reference

I'm currently in high school. I have friends and stuff, but I often feel like if I were to like be gone for a week, the group demeanor wouldn't change.

I tend to overshare, just things I've experienced, and I have the urge to tell other people. But I feel like whenever I share stuff, I can tell that I'm the only one saying a lot and don't get the same wavelength of conversation back. I feel like it's been like this since high school started. I used to have friends I could text anything to, like an event that just happened or someone to celebrate with, but that ended after freshman year. No biggie, I understand that friend groups change, and you meet new people. But I feel like I have a lot of friends, but not any close friends. I'm an only child, and I live far away from my school, so I don't have any neighbors who go to my school or anybody I can walk home with.

Anyway, I wouldn't say I'm lonely to the point where I'm depressed, I just feel like it'd be nice to have friends who could have the same vibe. I'm at the point where I'm overly self-aware. I start oversharing and then realize that after I stop talking. I see how they respond or their facial expressions, and it only makes me more aware of who my friends really are.

I also have a habit of being judgey. In my head, I act normally, but I once had someone say, "no need to have an attitude." I had smth I was confused about, and I said like "ok..." in a pondering way (it was pondering to me, but not to them), and it really hit me. Like I do need to fix my attitude, or else I'll never truly have friends my entire life. I also have RBF and a naturally angry-looking face, so it doesn't really help.

I'm usually the one initiating plans (that often don't happen) or texting first. So today at lunch, I decided I wouldn't say anything and see if they initiated contact. I just ate my lunch and was on my phone. Literallyyy no one said anything to me until I initiated my first sentence to ask for some candy, which was like 20-30 minutes into lunch. It made me realize that these are the kinda friends that won't stick in contact with me after high school.

We go to a competitive high school, so everyone is gunning for top colleges. I heard from another friend that my friends were talking in a really competitive way about my stats and stuff (because I overshared that too), and I think that was the catalyst for me realizing my flaws, but also theirs as well. I'm aware I could always make new ones, but I'm lowk in too deep now, and I'm just gonna try to make new ones in college.

Maybe some people think it's a problem with my friends, but honestly, with all the context I hold in my head, I think it's an issue with me, so I would like some advice. I've just been highlighting bad stuff that happened, but it doesn't change the fact that I've laughed, spent time, and gotten to know them.

TLDR: I overshare with my friends. I may be selfish, but I'm trying to improve.

So my questions are:

How does one stop oversharing? I want to stop in general, not because of my friends, but I truly think it'll benefit me if I shut up about things, especially stuff that hasn't happened.

How do you keep a conversation? I overshare, but it's all about myself often, and then I have trouble keeping the conversations going with acquaintances and strangers.