u/not_very_chill

Hello all:

I am looking for advice for the Friday night before my Saturday wedding (this October!!!).

My fiance is from the state we are having the wedding in and all his guests are local, but I have about 25 guests flying in from around the country.

Originally, we invited everyone to come to the bar that we had our first date at, for cocktails.

But we can’t afford to reserve the bar and it has limited capacity. We are thinking now that we will just let folks know that we are hopping from bar to bar and stop by if they want to…. And just hope that not too many people come at once? We can uninvite some local friends from the small bar that we know won’t be offended, and then end at a much larger bar that would be able to handle a crowd.

I don’t know what else to do.
Thoughts? Thank you!

I’m looking for suggestions on any burlesque performances in Portland (this would be for August).

Planning a bachelorette and looking for events geared toward burlesque, kink, and that are queer friendly.

I am 30(F), bisexual since I can remember, and practicing ENM the last decade.
I am engaged to a wonderful cis man, and I guess I’m feeling shame at being a stereotype? Plus I’ve had some friends admit they are sad I am not marrying a woman… which I don’t even know what to say. Sorry I met him first?

Non monogamy has been very validating for me in that I haven’t had to lose the queer parts of myself just because my primary partner is a man.

I am planning a mini bachelorette weekend in Portland (Maine) with a group of all queer women and non binary people, granted half of us are cishet passing.
I said I don’t want a traditional bach, because this is not a ‘one penis forever’ kind of deal (it’s not even a one person forever thing, I am entering this marriage still practicing ENM)… plus I don’t want to wear a bow or a white sash.

My friend asked me if I want a theme, and my first urge is to celebrate my bisexuality.
My second thought, is if that’s fucked up?
I am marrying a man, and although I am queer as hell, we pass as a straight couple.

Is it wrong that I want to celebrate my bisexuality? I guess I just don’t want to lose those parts of myself and so I am keeping them front and center.
I don’t become less bisexual just because I haven’t dated a woman in some time, just like I don’t become less bisexual when I haven’t dated a man in some time.

I would love thoughts about this, and if anyone has non traditional bachelorette ideas I would love to hear them.
Currently we are staying at the beach, going lingerie shopping and doing a photo shoot, going to a queer bar, and TBD what else, probably hang at the beach / Airbnb and use the hot tub and fire pit. I need to brainstorm some games to play.

I would love to go to a burlesque show or kink event but not sure if they are having any that weekend, Portland is pretty small.

If you made it this far, thank you for reading.