r/LGBTWeddings

We're in the process of planning and I feel like I don't know how to dress on a regular day let alone my own wedding.

I was never the type of person to dream about what my future wedding would look like, so I have no childhood dreams to lean on here.

I've also attended all of 3 weddings. As the child of immigrants, we had no family here so I only attended a few friends' weddings as an adult, and don't have much real life experience to lean on.

I have also realized my self image is... Outdated is the best way I can put it. I've gained weight in the last decade, gotten more masc and started T. My body isn't the shape I remember it being and my face isn't as feminine as it was back then. None of this is negative, in fact I'm happy about it in general, it's just that I feel like I haven't put up a new photo in the spot labeled "self image" in my mind, but I know it's inaccurate.

As a result I have trouble knowing what clothing might look flattering on my body. I feel like plus sized women's clothing looks better on plus sized women than plus sized men's clothing looks on plus sized men, y'know? Like the women's fashion industry always works harder on women's clothes (and ofc plus sized options are more limited, but there are still more/better ones for women than men). At the same time I still have hips so men's pants don't fit/look good, and a sizeable bust so men's tops don't sit right either. I don't like binding to appear my flat either (no issues with appearing more flat, just prefer to actually be able to breathe and the size means I never get really well flattened anyway).

But my face doesn't look good in women's clothing at this point either. It's a decidedly masculine face despite my inability to grow more than 5 scraggly beard hairs

I'm open to a bespoke outfit, but I'm not sure a suit is what I want. The closest thing I have to "I want to wear this for my wedding" was my prom dress, haha. But again, that's not my body or face anymore, not my gender presentation.

Any suggestions (more for general inspo than specific pieces/designers, I need to understand the vibe before picking pieces)? My partner is going to be in a traditionally femme bridal dress.

Me and my girlfriend (both 22) has been together for 2+ years now. We have been through a lot, depression, friend betrayal, going to ER, moving etc. We can genuinely say we both benefited greatly from this relationship and it turned us both to a better person.

I know we are still at a early stage of life, but planning our future as international students, it is in our best interest for us to get married in 3-4 years when we are around 25 or 26 so I can apply green card for her to stay in the U.S. As pre-med and pre-law students, we will likely be still in school at that time, but if she can get green card by graduation, it will be super helpful for job hunting.

Although it’s just hypothetical yet, as we were discussing it, I realized there is no one I can ask about when is a good time to get married, both relationship wise and life wise. We can both from conservative traditional Chinese families. I was forced to come out and exposed our relationship by a “friend” to them, and they did NOT like it. No consulting family advice then. We might even need to do the whole process while hiding from them.

Can anyone share their opinion or experience as non-straight couple? Anything is appreciated! Thanks in advance.

My fiancee proposed to me in February (and I obviously said yes). She has mentioned wanting an engagement ring of her own, and I think she would love having her own proposal moment rather than me just handing her the ring.

I’m planning to “propose back” in a couple of weeks, but I’ve realized I have absolutely no idea what I’m supposed to say when I already know the answer to “Will you marry me?”

Obviously I want to tell her I love her and I can't wait to marry her, but how do I actually end the speech? Should I still ask the classic "Will you marry me?" or should I say something that acknowledges the fact that we're already engaged?

To all the fellow second proposers: What did you say when you got down on one knee?

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Hi everyone, my fiancé and I are doing our legal ceremony in a few months and I’m still on the fence about if I want to change my last/family name when we get married.

On the one hand, I like my name as it is, but on the other hand my family shared the same last name growing up, and so I guess I feel some sort of attachment to that tradition.

The options I’d be considering are 1. hyphenating my last name with my partner’s name or 2. putting our names together into a new name or 3. just keeping my name as is.

I’d love to hear about what other people have done and how it felt to them. Or what other people are debating between and how you’re thinking about it. Or even logistical consequences of changing/not changing your last name.

Any thoughts I’m sure will help me sort out how I’m feeling. Thanks 😊

Hi y’all! Thank you collectively for being such a wonderful community to lurk in over the years for the queer joy of wedding photos, and for being a great resource and source of reassurance for many complicated family-related feelings recently as my partner and I start to plan our big gay wedding.

I know the sub has links to general LGBT vendor resources but many of them seem to be a little older, sparse on the recommendations, or non-specific about the vendor’s experience working with the community. So, I’m posting in hopes of hearing directly from the folks here!

If you’ve gotten married in the DMV area in the past few years or if you are a vendor, I’d love recommendations for day-of coordinators, photographers, bakers, florists, wedding dress stores/boutiques, and DJs. Extra points if they are LGBTQ owned and/or if they’ve worked with nonbinary people before. Our wedding will be ~120-150 people in spring 2028, about 30 minutes outside Baltimore city.

Thanks again!

Hi everyone!

My partner and I recently got engaged and are starting to think about wedding planning. We don’t plan to marry until early/mid 2028, but want to start considering venues.

My partner’s family is from the Kingston area and I am from Rockland County. Personally, I have a preference for venues nearer to Kingston than Rockland, but open to Orange, Sullivan, Rockland, Putnam, Westchester, or Dutchess counties.

General Criteria: Our “vibes” are more industrial, barn, gallery, etc…rather than white ballroom. Also, as a gay couple, we need an LGBT friendly venue! We plan to have around 150 people. We are strongly considering getting married in a shoulder season (March/April) to hopefully cut the costs of the venue. With that in mind, we are looking for something around(ish) 40k, but honestly I have no idea how reasonable that is.

Any and all venue suggestions or tips are much appreciated !!!! Thanks in advance!

I’m sitting here 4 days away from marrying the most incredible woman, and while I am so deeply in love and excited, I’m also feeling a weight of loneliness I didn't expect.

I came out this year after realizing who I truly am. Falling in love with a woman and stepping into my truth has been the most freeing, beautiful thing I’ve ever experienced. But the fallout from my old life has been brutal.

Since coming out:

* My best friend told me she doesn't know who I am anymore and backed out of being in my wedding.

* Family members have called me "disgusting" or turned their backs completely.

* Because I have three kids and was previously with a man, my sexuality is constantly questioned, dissected, and invalidated.

* ETCCC.

Most of my family isn't showing up to our wedding this weekend. While I’m beyond grateful for the handful of people who *are* standing by us, losing my support system while trying to plan a wedding and raise a family has felt incredibly isolating. It feels like I walked through a fire to get to my authentic life, but I emerged on the other side needing a whole new circle.

I'm posting this because I really want to make friends who understand this space—queer friends, late bloomers, moms, or anyone who knows what it feels like to rebuild your life after choosing yourself.

How did you find your community after coming out? And if anyone ever wants to connect, chat about life, kids, or surviving family drama, my DMs are always open. I'd love to meet my people. 🏳️‍🌈✨

We're planning a non-traditional backyard wedding for next summer, and I would love some dress inspiration!

Hey everyone! I was hoping to get insight or suggestions for those who have seen or been in this situation. For folks (m/f/nb doesn’t matter) who got married but do not have parents for any reason to walk them down to aisle or for the “first dances”, but your partner does, what did you do? Open to any and all suggestions. I don’t want to stick out like a sore thumb, but I also don’t want to force anything or put anyone in a weird situation.

Any and all ideas welcome!

Hi everyone! 👋 I'm getting married next year to the woman of my dreams, and we're currently in the middle of all the preparations. As a lesbian couple, we'd love to include some kind of LGTB+ nod in our wedding, but we're a bit worried about it feeling too 'thematic' or over-the-top. We’re really aiming for something subtle and elegant. We’ve actually found some invitations that we absolutely love because they integrate the pride flag colors in a very minimalist way, but we’re still debating on whether to go for it. Have any of you incorporated these kinds of touches into your wedding or stationery? I’d love to hear your experiences!

Update! We finally went ahead and bought them, we are so in love with how they turned out! (Sorry for the slightly lower image quality, had to downscale them a bit!)

https://preview.redd.it/7on1nvpd2leh1.png?width=476&format=png&auto=webp&s=914db5121664a142e58d90fef6dff152ec9a1c5a

https://preview.redd.it/e8d36wpd2leh1.png?width=476&format=png&auto=webp&s=4d62263ccca77645406a29e73103f957a3e42f4e

Now we're stuck trying to figure out whether to send them digitally or print them. We're leaning towards saving paper, but what do you all think? Digital vs. printed?