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My (29 F) fiancée (28 F) and I are eloping on the Oregon coast in September. As of right now, it will be just the two of us and a photographer. The photographer is an ordained wedding officiant, so we technically don’t need anyone else but I’ve been toying with the idea of a ‘standalone’ officiant instead of having the photographer do both.

For other couples who eloped, did you appreciate having an officiant to guide you through more of a ceremony, or did you like the simplicity of just the two of you reading vows? Neither of us are religious.

Thanks!

I work in a privately owned clinic. My boss and I are the only doctors, and there’s about 10 other employees.

My boss is in her mid-30s and it’s obvious that she’s doesn’t wear deodorant. We share an office and starting mid-morning, the smell of her armpits starts to permeate. I try to crack the window when I can for fresh air, she doesn’t get the hint. The exam rooms are small, and I’m sure clients can also smell her B.O. I get strong whiffs from several feet away.

I’m sure she’s immune to the smell of her own B.O., and on top it that she’s mentioned that she doesn’t have a good sense of smell to begin with.

I really don’t think it’s my job to tell my own boss that she has hygiene problems, but I don’t know who else possibly will. If another employee smelled that bad, I’d tell her that we need to have a conversation with them. We’re trying to hire another doctor and I kind of think her smell is part of the reason why we’re having a hard time.

Aside from a very uncomfortable conversation on my end that would certainly embarrass her and affect our dynamic (and maybe jeopardize my opportunities for growth?), I’m at a loss of what to do.