I had the realization that my girlfriend is selfish, and it's eating me alive
Gnocchi Alfredo with Walnuts.
It doesn't feel like she actually supports me or my interests. There are no 'thank you's for little things like making her a snack, or doing her little favors like turning a light switch off so she doesn't have to get up, or running to the store for some item she wants.
Whenever I have fun stuff to look forward to, or even find silver linings in stressful life events, she only laments how hard things are on her. She rarely asks about things I do by myself. She never actively supports me pursuing my hobbies. There are no 'have fun's or 'how was it's.
The most unselfish thing she does is not complain about her life and her woes when I'm stressed, which immediately falls away once I engage with her.
She also can't handle critique well, immediately shutting down whenever I try to bring things up. She seems to only be able to conceptualize any struggles I have in relation to herself.
I hate myself for not knowing how to deal with this. It is starting to affect my feelings for her. We are about to move in together. I now regret taking this step.