u/novaonthespectrum

Tonight's vlog was basically Summer's vlog, as it was about Abbie's weekend sleepover with Summer, interspersed with Asa's vlogs about his weekend with Isaiah while Priscilla is out on yet another "business" trip. The difference in Abbie's attitude and demeanor with Summer versus at home is like NIGHT AND DAY, and it is because Summer is actually willing to engage with Abbie and center the weekend and all of the activities around her. Summer's dad is staying with them and he plays his guitar for Abbie. They make breakfast together and Summer finds a way to involve Abbie in the whole process, then Summer tells her they're going to go to a local art market and the beach. Summer's dad provides a soothing guitar soundtrack the entire time. I genuinely LIKE this vlog.

They go to the art market and walk around for a while, and Summer confirms that the guitar guy is her dad and he's staying with her. Apparently Abbie got stressed out by all the activity at the market so Summer, instead of insisting she MUST stay there and grabbing her and pulling her back in, takes her to a park to walk around and decompress. Then it cuts to them at Chick-fil-A, before hanging out and chilling to music at Summer's place. There's no nonsense of shoving cardboard and paper at her and running off to talk to a camera. They're having a little living room dance party together. Summer is also NOT afraid to tell Abbie no to some of her requests--"No, you already had a Sprite Zero!" "You've had two coffees today already." Yes Summer has her flaws too (which seem to come out when she's around the Maasholes), but this vlog shows how much she genuinely cares about Abbie and wants to engage with her on her own level. A stark contrast to her parents forcing her to go along with whatever they want for content.

And it's better content! Like I said, I genuinely enjoyed watching this vlog.

I didn't get a chance to do this yesterday, I was super busy. Strap in because this is a doozy.

Priscilla is making what Isaiah calls "a holiday dinner." The occassion? "Well, it's back to school! We're celebrating because was survived the summer!" Ah yes, you survived having to be in close proximity to your daughter for 3 entire months (excluding when she was at camp or with respite). She says that "a friend" texted her and said "I don't know how you do it, my kids go to a program 2 days a week!" I don't think there was a friend, I think she's reading our comments on how Abbie should be in a program. She thinks it's bragging rights for her that she's a "good parent" who doesn't send Abbie to those terrible "warehouses" (Asa's words) but instead just neglects the hell out of her at home. It's not. It's REALLY not.

Apparently Priscilla had to be told personally that she is not to bring peanut products or seafood to school because of an allergy this year, because Priscilla brings Abbie hibachi and seafood boil and other such niceties to brag that Abbie can have fancier lunches than others. I do NOT have a problem with a parent packing luxurious lunches for their kid, but Priscilla doesn't do it because this is what Abbie prefers. She does it specifically to flex on the other kids that Abbie's mother is so awesome that she can send Abbie to school with seafood boil and bento boxes, and theirs aren't. It's parents like her that are causing schools to eliminate all luxury items in the name of "equalizing." (I don't agree with this practice AT ALL but that's not what this thread is about.)

We get a full example of how Priscilla and Asa use that "wait. Wait. Wait" ABA command to get her to do whatever they want. She's trying to take pictures of Abbie's first day outfit and keeps barking "Wait. Wait. Wait." until the pictures and videos are over. This is how they get her to stand compliant for their content, whether or not she actually hates it. They've literally programmed her to perform.

Then finally, we get to the part of the accident. It cuts to Asa's truck breaking down, and he and Abbie are safely on the side of the road. Holy shit, that's an actual busy freeway! The other person's recap didn't give me the full image of it. A bus driver offers them a ride, but Asa refuses it because he can't film it for content if he and Abbie just get on the bus to safety. He says that his wife is showing up to take his daughter to school and he'll get a tow truck. And then he takes Abbie, who is KNOWN TO ELOPE, across that busy ass freeway. He has to grab her and pull her away from the road. He tells her they're just going to go to Target, which is ACROSS the freeway, and he's standing there RECORDING and LOOKING AT HIS PHONE the entire time he does it. He says he hopes his truck doesn't get hit, while taking his vulnerable daughter across a busy freeway. His vulnerable daughter, who keeps trying to break away and dart off into the road! It is so much worse than it sounded. Finally, they reach a crosswalk and he says they're going to stand there and wait for Mom while he calls a tow truck. When she shows up, Asa remarks that Abbie's excited to see Mom when in reality she was terrified by that freeway walk and she's relieved to see anybody and that it's over.

After spending most of that dangerous romp across the freeway worrying about if his truck would get hit, Asa's truck does, in fact, get hit by a motorcyclist, who ends up in what Asa calls "the worst case scenario"...though he says she just has a broken leg, "worst case scenario" implies much worse than that. He quickly tacks on an "I hope she's okay" before going on about how horrible the whole ordeal was FOR HIMSELF. Himself, who got out alive without a single scratch and wasn't even involved in the accident at all. Himself, who precariously took his autistic daughter across a busy freeway even though he could've taken the ride from the bus driver, all because the latter would mean he wouldn't get content. We have a similar freeway (complete with a Target) near me and there is no way in HELL I would EVER attempt to cross that thing in ANY circumstance, nor would anyone who takes care of me ever attempt to get me across it. In the end, Asa says that he is thankful...because he's okay? Because his daughter's okay? Because neither one of them got hit while crossing that freeway? No, he's thankful that "it was only his truck and not his Harley."

And I just realized, he documented all of this and posted it online; that should be so fun for him if the motorcyclist or her family ends up coming after him for his culpability in the accident!

I can't with these people.

We were all out shopping with my sister in law and my mom admitted that she believes that when kids do things that look "off" to others or that might make others judge them or "give them looks," it's a parent's responsibility to "break" that kid until they stop doing whatever it is. This includes interests, behaviors, appearances, clothing, play, etc. This is how she parented me for my entire childhood but she wasn't successful. The fact that she admitted she believes it's appropriate to "break" a child is appalling. And what started this conversation? My SIL picked up a pink backpack with strawberries on it and jokingly asked if she should buy it for her godson for school. I said "Sure, if he likes that kind of thing." That's when my mom chimed in and said, "HELL NO! If he likes it, that's too damn bad! You break that out of him!" To her, a pink backpack with strawberries would be an appropriate reason to BREAK a child!

It explains everything about how she treated me as a child, but again, she wasn't successful with me. I've always been unapologetically my weirdo self. I know she hates that, especially since she ended her sentence about "breaking" a kid with "Or else they end up like YOU."

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Priscilla makes a post similar to this every freaking year. We know Abbie is in no such "vocational program" and that they plan to send her to school indefinitely for the foreseeable future and that's why she will always have "first days of school" for life. Honestly? It's impractical. I get that she needs a place to go, but Abbie is taking up a spot in that school that could go to an autistic kid who will be able to take part in the transition program and graduate. Anyway, boo hoo she was supposed to be "at a different point in life" except she and Asa both admitted that "different point" was supposed to be endless hedonism and eating and drinking around the world. Forgive me for not displaying any sympathy after that came straight out of the horse's mouth.

So "first day of school" for life? Do they plan to keep her in "school" straight through her 30s? Will they be dressing her up in a first day of school outfit and taking FB pictures and sending her off to a school full of kids and teens when she's in her 40s? While the other kids head to the actual vocational program, transitional program, and graduation will Abbie still be sitting there as their only remaining student from the Class of 2023? All while paying 60 thousand dollars a year to take up a space in a highly rated, highly sought after school known as one of the best schools for autism in the country. She should honestly be in a day center. That's her future, whether they want to accept it or not. They need to stop thinking of it as such a shameful thing as if "forever first days of school" is any better. Even college students and grad students will leave school eventually!

In tonight's vlog, Asa explains the trajectory for Abbie's foreseeable future: she's going to remain in JSA (her "vocational program") "until she is ready to leave" and then they plan to "travel full time" after Abbie is done with JSA, whenever that is. In reality, it's going to be when they can't pay for it anymore. Keeping Abbie in JSA beyond her 22nd birthday will cost 60 thousand dollars a year, and the Youtube and Slimelife money is drying up and the boutique is dead in the water. They're living in a dreamworld! How exactly do they plan to spend their life traveling when they KNOW they're going to have to pay for Abbie's school from here on out?! Do they really think that the Youtube channel and the grifting is going to keep them afloat forever?

Asa admits to overwhelming Abbie by taking her to her JSA open house and then immediately taking her to a loud, active restaurant and she had a meltdown. She had absolutely no time to decompress from the socialization at JSA. He knows this, even explains exactly why it happened, and insisted upon doing it anyway. Or maybe P did, because nothing gets inbetween her and her feeding trough.

Asa talks about the Medicaid waiver that pays for Abbie's school until she's 22. That waiver is going to go away after this year, so he plans on switching her to a program for IDD! Now would you look at that! When money is on the line Asa is TOTALLY willing to admit that Abbie has IDD, but when it comes to grifting mindless humpers, she only has autism and nothing else. Well, if it pays for her to stay at JSA it is nothing but a benefit to Abbie. But I wonder exactly what their endgame is. Abbie will never be developmentally "ready" to graduate JSA, so when exactly do they plan to start their fabulous life of eating and drinking internationally (you KNOW that's all they travel for)?

I don't watch the lives. I have to rely on transcripts from Tattlers and people here if anything happens in a live, because I'm not willing to waste hours listening to that woman talk about nothing. At least with the vlogs I can do stuff in the background or pause the vlog and come back to it later. But apparently in a live last night Priscilla said she doesn't want to be friends with or socialize with autism moms because it reminds her that she is a mother of an autistic daughter and she just wants to escape from that. She thinks autism parents do nothing but talk about autism and their children all day and "she'd have nothing in common with them besides autism." And so this is why she runs off on trips with her fake ass Slimelife friends. Because when she's with them she doesn't have to think about being Abbie's mother. She really does hate her daughter and hates the reality her daughter created for her. She hates EVERYTHING about having to be a mother to Abbie.

The real reason is because no decent parent of an autistic child would want to hang out with her or her husband. They'd see how the two of them treat Abbie and immediately nope out of there.

Asa rented a raft for their trip to Crab Island, he says he got it specifically for Abbie and Cilla. And I know exactly why he got it: to show off exactly how much Cilla sinks it in that water. As is so beautifully demonstrated throughout this vlog! Asa's pratfall onto that raft was so hilarious I had to watch it 2 more times. COMEDY GOLD!

Of course they're drinking. And drinking. And drinking. And eating. Crab Island has a fast food flotilla where you can buy Chick Fil A and other fast food from the boats. I really cannot get over the absolute crater Cilla is leaving in that raft. Abbie's having a fun time playing in the water and I'm glad she gets to have some fun while her family acts like idiots as usual. Priscilla nearly knocks herself off the raft trying to get away from Abbie when she climbs up next to her. It's just shameful to see how repulsed she is by her own child.

Asa rambles like a creep about how all of the boats are run by hot girls, and "that's the scam. That's the hustle." No, the scam is monetizing a channel with your autistic daughter at the forefront and forcing her into uncomfortable situations for content and money. The scam is running a dropship boutique where you upsell ugly clothes that are available all over Amazon and Tiktok Shop. The scam is trying to convince gullible viewers how much you love your daughter who you clearly, visibly hate.

Asa is encouraging Abbie to go to the bathroom in the water. And recording it. Because her dignity means absolutely nothing to him. And he just stealthily admitted that they've all been pissing in that water while several other families swim around them. I wonder if they pee in the pool too...which brings me to another point. If he's encouraging Abbie to pee in the water how is she going to differentiate between this and the pool? She won't, that's how.

They all come back sunburnt, but it's okay because "There's only so much sunscreen can do when you're out in the sun for 7 and a half hours straight." Because you are supposed to REAPPLY IT. FREQUENTLY. EVERY FEW HOURS!

What is it with this guy and pee?! The next day they're out in jellyfish-infested waters, and Asa tells Isaiah, "I'll pee on you, son!" Except that doesn't work and it's an old wives' tale (you're actually supposed to put shaving cream and cold water on the sting). Isaiah seems to know this and tells him as much, except Asa just won't let it drop. "No, it does work. You need me to pee on you." Isaiah just tells him "You just want to justify letting someone else pee on you, that's what that is." Isaiah should snark his dad more often, he's good at it in the rare moments his spine actually shows.

Asa deems Destin "one of the most autism friendly vacation spots." I can't confirm or deny because none of these videos had anything to do with autism. Okaloosa County is on my list of potential places I would like to move to when I can finally nope out of New Jersey, though.

I was waiting VERY patiently for the vlog of the Maasholes' trip to Destin/Crab Island. So apparently, all four of them are going to be crammed into one room because Priscilla "is so good at picking rooms." No, she should actually never be allowed to pick a room ever again for the rest of her life. Not only that, but the room is apparently smelly and musty and got terrible reviews online; but Asa rushes in by explaining that ALL Florida beachfront hotels are smelly and musty and there's "no such thing as a fancy beachfront hotel in Florida," before highfiving P and assuring her "you did good, babe!" I wouldn't be surprised if he patted her on the head and gave her a cookie. They then proceed to film somebody else's wedding on the beach, while the both of them coo "Awww! Soooo sweeet!" I'm sure that couple would be THRILLED to find out that their moment is being recorded and posted to SOMEONE ELSE'S vlog!

Asa says to Abbie in the smuggest, smarmiest tone ever, "Are we bad parents? Yeah, I'm sorry." I'm sure if she could talk, she would have a LOT to say in response to that. It's because she's asking for paper and they didn't bring her paper bags with them. Asa launches into his absolutely infuriating habit of imagining what Abbie would say to him, before suddenly snapping at her "Listen, YOU didn't pack anything! WE packed everything for you!" So not only does he put words in Abbie's mouth, but he uses it as an excuse to go off on her for the imaginary conversations he has with her in his head. Absolutely disgusting behavior. Anyway, Isaiah ends up bringing her paper because while the two of them were bullshitting and mocking her, he actually went off and found some for her.

Looks like all guests over 21 get special bar passes for free drinks. Isaiah hypes up Abbie about, "See? We don't have to pay for drinks! And we can go back as many times as we want!" Acting like he's seriously considering the possibility of taking Abbie out drinking. Then Asa does it again, saying that "Abbie is saying 'I don't like this idea, brother'" and prompting Isaiah and Asa to both call her a nerd. "I'm just your cool other brother trying to make you do illegal things!" (even though, as Asa and Priscilla are quick to remind them, it's not even illegal) "Doing illegal things is cool sometimes!" This tells me everything I need to know about just how much of a d-bag this guy has become after years of life under the roofs of the King and Queen of D-Bags. If that's his true mindset, I hope he enjoys his legal trouble. This is the Golden Boy that the humpers have hailed as a living saint for years, everyone.

The next morning Asa says "We have a problem!" And Isaiah won't follow the script, prompting an annoying reprimand from Asa for deviating from the vlog formula. And it took him an entire forever to explain what the actual "problem" is, which turns out that they brought too big of a cooler for the drinks or something. Then they go to a toy store, because apparently only Isaiah and Asa are allowed to shop for toys, but if Abbie does it Priscilla stands there and cries her eyes out and does everything in her power to keep said toys away from her. Isaiah buys a dinosaur shovel and his parents both make fun of him for it, which Isaiah doesn't seem to give a damn about (or is used to), but you know what they DON'T do? They don't take the shovel away from him and lock it up in a closet or toss it aside on P's desk full of junk! Priscilla learns the joy of playing with a toy when she flies a kite. She seems genuinely giddy. "Oh, that's so fun! Look, Isaiah! Ohhh, I got a kite!" It would be a nice moment, especially knowing she wasn't allowed to play with toys as a kid, if she wasn't so insistent on denying her daughter this same joy! Has she ever thought for one second that maybe they could be playing with toys together and she could heal her own inner child while also SHARING that joy with her daughter? Oh wait, "Priscilla" and "thought" do not belong in the same sentence.

So we get to the source of the clickbait thumbnail, which made us all think that Abbie had stolen a stranger's fries again like she tends to do with food. In reality, they met a fan from Alabama on the beach, who offered the fries to Abbie. So yes, she's eating "a stranger's fries" but she didn't go up and steal them. Isaiah builds a sand castle with his dinosaur shovel and Abbie keeps messing it up by taking the sand to play with. 😅

Not much else happens after this part of the vlog. They just go to an Irish pub, because of course they do: vacations are all about eating and drinking and nothing else.

Abbie has a lot of behaviors in tonight's vlog. In the beginning Asa's already put out with her though we didn't get to see exactly what she did. He's just saying, "She's driving me crazy, she's driving US crazy" and asking Abbie if she needs to go to a swim. Priscilla tries to steal the attention away from Abbie by talking about her glasses sitting askew, and Abbie goes up and pokes her to get the attention back. Priscilla responds by poking her back until she walks away.

In the car, Abbie yeets her shoes into the front seat. Asa says, "Excuse you! I don't want your shoes!" and throws them right back...just BARELY avoiding hitting her right in the face!! While he launches into the world's most boring lecture about grass seeding, Abbie stims vigorously in the background. I wonder if her behaviors would improve if he would actually spend some time engaging with HER instead of with his invisible audience in the phone.

Abbie uses her AAC to ask for Sprite Zero, and Asa sounds irritated because, "I thought we were going to Dutch Bros!" They're still so desperate for that Dutch Bros sponsorship that will never come. If it hasn't come by now, it never will! The days of the Dunkin' brand deal are long over. They go to the post office to ship for P's boutique and it looks like Abbie has figured out taking the package to the mail slot and dropping it in, on her own! Even though Asa does explain she needed a bit of direction off camera, I'm genuinely proud of her. 👏Moreso than her own father is, it seems, because he rants about how "In a perfect world, we can just let her walk in on her own and drop the mail off in the box." He can't even allow her to have this small victory without tearing her down! What happened to trying to get her to be as independent AS POSSIBLE. Now here she is going to do a task as independently as possible, and he has to go on about how it's not "perfect!" 😡

Apparently Abbie's got cabin fever now that she's home from camp. She wants to go out and do things and NOT RIP PAPER ON THE COUCH. She ends up in a sour mood when they come home from whatever outing they're on. BECAUSE SHE IS GOING ABSOLUTELY STIR-CRAZY IN THAT HOUSE WHERE THERE IS NOTHING TO DO UNLESS THE CAMERA IS ON.

During dinner, Asa says that Isaiah did not choose his career path because of Abbie. Just that it was his "life experience" and so he ended up majoring in a field that matches his life experience. Which means that...he chose his career path because of Abbie. She was the inspiration. I don't get why he wants to hide that because it's not a shameful thing. Lots of people with disabled family members end up in social work and working with people with disabilities. This is just Asa trying to cover his ass about how they expect him to take over as Abbie's caregiver. "People might forget that Isaiah is a whole human, independently." Because he sure as hell doesn't act like it. Abbie's doing a lot of screaming in this video. She is so done with her father spending more time with the phone than with her.

At the end, Asa foreshadows that there's going to be "one last hurrah" in Crab Island, Florida. I'm sure that's going to be a fun trainwreck to watch. That's really nice of him to mock his daughter while she's "speaking" to him in the only way she can. 😡

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Asa and Priscilla's Slimeapalooza Arizona trip was cut short because Asa ended up sick and had to go to the emergency room. I wonder how P handled this? I have a feeling not very well, going by how she handled the emergency at camp when she thought they'd have to get off the plane. He says that she was the one who told him to go to the hospital but he refused because he didn't want to interrupt her trip. If this is true, it's because Asa's been on the receiving end of what happens when her trips and outings are interrupted...

Priscilla couldn't sleep because Asa was sick. I get that, but she's never been that level of concerned when her daughter is sick, like when she was crying for five hours straight and they just blowed it off and stayed at the carnival. She should show concern for BOTH. She explains how she arranged the transportation to the doctor and that she called an Uber before realizing he wouldn't be able to get into an Uber due to the pain. Asa quickly rushes in with "But you did fine!" It's honestly sad how he feels the need to do this damage control with everything she does. Also apparently the nurse at the hospital recognized him from the channel. "Oh, I watch your videos all the time!"

By the middle of the night in the hospital Priscilla "had already accepted the fact that she was not going to do her training." I would've paid to see her reaction.

It turned out to be a kidney stone. Yeah the symptoms check out. My dad had those and also had to go to the emergency room, where he proceeded to yell at the doctors to "JUST KILL ME ALREADY!!!" Can someone please tell me how to NEVER get those, please and thank you.

This vlog was more about Asa's bodily functions than I, or anyone else, EVER needed to hear.

The other day we were at my brother's house and my mother was talking to a friend of my sister-in-law's who was also around. I was in the other room eating breakfast. My SIL's friend was telling my mother how much of a wonderful man my brother was and that "you did such a good job with him!"

My mother's response? "Yeah, but we're still working on that other one..."

I honestly shouldn't be surprised by anything she says or does anymore, and I honestly shouldn't be getting hurt by anything she says anymore because it's kind of redundant; she will always say shitty things--primarily about me--and she will never apologize or take accountability or even know or care that it's the wrong thing to say, and no one else will ever make her do so. That's just who she is and who she's going to be forever. But that STILL hurt. It hurt more than anything my mother says ever really needed to. Probably because I've already been insecure enough about the fact that my brother is the one who "made it" in life and is the one my family tends to show off for that reason. It still hurt.

For those of you who were suspecting that something big went down which attributed to Asa's particularly nasty mood in the previous vlog, you were likely right! It turns out Abbie's second week at camp was canceled. So of course like the nasty little man he is, he took it out on his daughter who had absolutely no say in whether or not the camp would be called off.

The vlog opens up with Abbie on her way to her second week at camp as normal. It's honestly so sweet the way the camp staff hypes the campers up when they come by. More views of the terrible, run-down room courtesy of Mr. Camp Director, with crayon-drawn decorations and cracking floors. Asa says that "I got emotional saying goodbye, but not because I'm gonna miss her." 😡Holy crap, he really ISN'T pretending anymore.

After dropping Abbie off at camp and making it clear they won't even miss her, they head off to the airport for their flight to yet another Slimelife trip. Their summer "palooza" or something, I honestly do not keep up with the Slimelife crap enough to know what this trip is actually for. It's BORING. "How can a milennial travel without a jean jacket? It's the milennial airport uniform." I'm a milennial and honestly that's an insult.

There's a HARD cut from the airport terminal to the plane, and Priscilla is crying her eyes out, while Asa rubs her back and says "It's okay, it's okay, everything's gonna be okay." Clearly they both have been crying, Asa is red in the face. It turns out that a major storm knocked out power and felled trees at the camp, and so they had to call off camp for the week and Abbie will be going home. We both know that's the real reason they're crying and not because of all of the crap Asa's rambling about how they can't flush the toilet and the washing machines don't work and everything else he just rapid-fire cycled through. Asa then proceeds to say that as much as they WANTED to get off the plane and go pick up their child who is probably confused and terrified both with the lack of power and a storm big enough to fell trees and cut off power for days...they decided ever-so-selflessly that they "didn't want their stress on other people," that Priscilla has too much luggage that would be a hassle, etc so they're going to fly off into the sunset and forget about it all. He says that Abbie will be sent to stay with Summer for the time being. So basically, they don't want to cut their trip short. They don't want to put aside their own good time and come tend to their daughter in an emergency. That's someone else's problem...they are "empty nesters" after all!

Asa gets some instant karma when the flight is redirected to El Paso. He looks like he's about to explode. OH MY GOD ASA SHUT UP ABOUT THE "MILENNIAL AIRPLANE JEAN JACKET," THAT'S NOT A THING! Priscilla has been crying again and it shows. Asa entertains himself by showing off an unfiltered, extremely unflattering picture of his wife showing exactly how wide she really is and pointing out the curves. "THIS IS THE BIGGEST AIRPLANE SEAT I'VE EVER SEEN!" that his wife is spilling out of.

So, they're still on the trip. Still planning to go out and party. Likely because his prized pig gave him merry hell about how he had better not even THINK about getting off that plane. In the end, Asa admits that, according to Isaiah, Abbie was in fact confused and terrified and wondering what was going on. While they went out and partied at Slimeapalooza. Poor girl. 🥺

In the vlog that was posted last night, Asa barks at Abbie for trying to sit in the front seat of the car. "You're NOT that special, you go get in the back! This is Mom's seat!" It's getting to the point where he isn't even trying to hide his frustration anymore. When Abbie finally climbs in the back, Asa sighs, goes "This is CRAP" and then he barks at her for sitting on the wrong side of the back seat. It's because she can't put her seatbelt on from that side, but it's not as if he and Cilla enforce regular seatbelt use with her anyway because there have been plenty of vlogs and reels where she has no seatbelt. He could always put the seatbelt on her himself if she really wants to sit on that side, but that's too much for him I guess.

So Asa walks Abbie through buckling the seatbelt, which she finally manages but leaves the shoulder strap askew. "Abbie, fix your shoulder strap! Fix your shoulder strap! Put the shoulder strap back on! Put your arm back in! Fix it!" Abbie starts laughing, so Priscilla points in her face and goes "FIX YOUR SEATBELT!" She never ends up doing it and he has to finally do it for her, and then asks her, "IS IT YOUR FIRST DAY ON EARTH?"

They go to that Mexican restaurant and Abbie tries to fight with Asa at the table. "No, this is not a fighting place! No! Let go of my shirt! We can wrestle at home!" But you see, when you encourage that wrestling behavior, Abbie cannot differentiate time and place and she thinks it's okay to do it wherever, whenever. Which is why it should not have ever been encouraged in the first place. Asa then threatens to put her in a headlock...and he does so, off-camera right there in a restaurant full of people! There's a hard cut and she's sitting on a bench off by herself, indicating they may have given her a timeout. At least that's what it looks like. As they're leaving the restaurant Abbie nearly elopes into the parking lot.

This whole vlog was a preface to Abbie's second week at camp. And even though it's short, it pretty much tells us everything we need to know. They're at the end of their rope with Abbie. Between this and the no sleep, that house is at its breaking point. But thanks to Isaiah's nepo baby status, they can ship her off to camp whenever they want (and take up spots on the waitlist that other campers might've been waiting for). It's starting to look grim...

A Tiktok I found where someone was forced to cut their college grad celebration short because of their autistic sibling made me think of this. ALL of the times where I was forced to cut trips, vacations, anything that was supposed to be for me or about me short because my mother threw a tantrum about how she doesn't wanna be there, wants to go home, she's tired, she's "sick" (she ALWAYS pulls out the "sick" every time she doesn't wanna do something), etc. And my dad just gives in and I'm the one who's supposed to just accept that I have to have my experience ruined and truncated because she can't deal. Not only that, but I become the selfish, spoiled, and unreasonable one when I say anything. Never her! She's fine and how dare I overwhelm my "tired" mother.

The amount of times I've had trips cut short, ruined, or outright canceled because my mother decided in the middle of the trip that she's tired and wants to go home. If I tell her I'm not done, it's "I DON'T CARE. I WANNA GO HOOOOOMEEEE" and then my dad insists we have to go home so she'll shut up. "She's TIRED, why don't you get that?!" Or she'll pull "I'm not feeling well. I'm sick. We have to go home." I'm guessing the overwhelm does make her feel sick but because she doesn't understand the true reason why, she'll never be able to manage the actual problem at its source. Just "I'm sick, sick means we leave." Coping skills? Behavioral intervention? Nope, her coping skill is "Your life must center around me and my feelings and we do what I wanna do and you can shut up about it. And I'M not the one misbehaving, YOU are because you're the one making me so tired!"

On my 15th birthday I didn't get to have the birthday shopping trip and dinner I wanted because she didn't want Pizza Hut. She wanted Applebees. It was MY birthday. I told her "It's my birthday and I want to go to Pizza Hut." She threw a whole ass tantrum. "WHAT, BECAUSE IT'S YOUR BIRTHDAY WE GOTTA DO EVERYTHING YOU DO?! YOU DON'T GET TO MAKE THE DECISIONS! I DON'T CARE IF IT'S YOUR DAMN BIRTHDAY!!! I DON'T WANT NASTY ASS PIZZA HUT, I WANT APPLEBEES." And my dad told me I was being spoiled because "We took you out shopping, now you think you're gonna tell us where we're gonna eat too?" Needless to say it ended up with me crying to my actual safe people because even my own damn birthday had to revolve around her. After years of her complaining about birthdays because I chose a restaurant she didn't like, I chose a time she didn't want, what I asked for as a gift was too expensive and "who do you think YOU are, making us spend all this money on you?" etc. It's just so fucking exhausting.