[21F] My boyfriend [22M] has a lower sex drive than me and it makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 months now. I have to preface that the first time I slept over we must’ve been intimate like 6 different times. That’s a LOT and I know that, but it was obviously fun. But about a month in, up until now, if we were to be together everyday we’d probably have sex like once every 5 ish days maybe? Sometimes we went weeks without it, but did other stuff instead which is fine.
My real issue (which I know is probably something I need to work on) is feeling rejected. I just feel like complete shit when I try to initiate something and he says no. I know I have a high drive and I think it’s purely down to my hormonal issues, and I hate myself for it, because it makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me. On top of all of this, I can’t say I know how normal this is, he’s my first, but he does struggle to get it up if we’re about to have sex sometimes which I reckoned was from nerves. Every case I ever hear is man wants to do it loads, woman says no. All I ever see on social media (terrible place to take advice from, ik) is that if your bf doesn’t want to do stuff with you much then he’s not that into you. But I know this isn’t right, I know he loves me and I know he enjoys being intimate. If it were up to me, I’d be so happy with once a day, maybe twice sometimes, is that so wrong?
What has led me to think there’s something wrong with me is the fact that I had the same thing with my ex. I feel like I’m the issue now.
I have genuinely tried looking into any sorts of supplements or medications to lower sex drive and none of them are safe or worth it. I just really wish I wasn’t in the position to get rejected because it does hurt. I wish I could say no every now and then but whenever he wants it, I get in the mood. Such a weird situation to be in