What’s your personality type and what do you value most in a relationship?
I am an INFJ 5w4 sx/sp 541.
The number one thing I look for in a relationship is accountability.
I just feel that if you can’t hold yourself accountable for your actions then you can’t truly be committed to a partnership. Without it, communication is more apt to manifest as lies or resentful silence. That already throws honesty out the window. And how can you have loyalty if you can’t trust someone?
You can still have humor, intelligence, wit, passion — but without the aforementioned it is more likely to be a shield, to be at one’s expense, or to fade entirely once the initial excitement wears off.
I want all of this and more but at the end of the day I need someone who I can rely on. Someone I know is gonna be there no matter what. Someone who is willing to stay and work things out together as a team.
These are the standards I hold for them. These are the standards I ask them to hold for me.
Accountability - Reciprocity - Communication - Honesty - Loyalty - Emotional Intelligence and Maturity - Self-Awareness - Shared Values - Resilience - Empathy - Humility - Kindness - Intelligence - Humor - Wit - Independence - A Rich Inner World - Passion - Aliveness
I imagine this to be the most deeply intimate and meaningful kind of love. We don’t have to be perfect but we always have to try.
I don’t have it in me to settle for less and I know I can be perfectly happy on my own. But this is the dream.