How did you deal with the emotional afternath when you realized you were basically just an afterthought to the enmeshed person who you thought was your soul mate?
It's like a punch in the gut when you realize that you were never first in their mind, maybe not even second or third, but they were first in your mind.
What makes it even harder is they didn't necessarily do it maliciously, they are just stuck in a loop and don't realize they are. It's not like they cheated for the thrill of it, they are stuck in something toxic. But it sure feels malicious when you are on the receiving end of it and it's hard not to be angry.
I fluctuate between anger and getting stuck in the past before they were so severely enmeshed and before I even knew how any of this works. When they were still a person with more of their own desires and personality. Although, looking back, the enmeshment was still there underneath.
Anyone else going through this anger/nostalgia phase right now? How are you dealing with it?