Bothered after being told, "T wouldn't do that".
Looking for advice on how to politely deal with family members (or just people in general) who correct or dismiss me when I share my trans experience.
Storytime & Context:
I (35 afab masc nb) have begun running again since starting t 4 months ago. I've always been an on and off runner. Done a few half-marathons, one full (never again), can enjoy some good monthly 10k or 8k when I'm trained up. This is all to say, I know what my body is like when I start training after chilling on the couch over the winter. Was very curious to see if I might notice any difference since being on hrt.
Now, normally I don't run during fall and winter. But before today, I hadn't run in 4 years. So I fully expected to maybe walk 5min run 5min. Instead, I was able to cruise at a decent clip for 20min, no problemo, and my heart rate came down WAY quicker than I expected. My starting baseline has NEVER been like this. I'm also not doing anything besides lifting a dumbbell occassionally. I've been practically sedentary. I work at a desk all day. I would consider myself the least in shape I've ever been. So being able to hit 20 MINUTES??? Wild. I'm elated. So cool.
I don't know what else to credit it to other than having started t.
I texted this to my sister in-law, who works in health and wellness, is a runner, is an ally, and has also expressed interest in knowing how my journey goes.
The reply, "That's good to hear! Wouldn't be the T, it doesn't impact cardio or endurance or improve fitness... There's likely a pretty major placebo effect."
Uh. Thanks for... the info? Was actually just sharing my experience so she could add it to her understanding. Wasn't looking to be confirmed or corrected.
This isn't the first time that I've tried to share an experience as it relates to my transition, and for the person I'm talking to, to tell me "that's not true" or, "it couldn't be because of that."
Is this my life now? Do I need to just get used to people telling me, "no, you're wrong and that didn't happen" while I'm in the middle of actively living the thing???
Anyways. Feeling pretty deflated. Was excited to share a cool thing I discovered today and the power of t and how it is working for me.
Would greatly appreciate hearing if/how others deal with stuff like this. Also looking for some concise replies that I could practice when I feel like my experiences are being dismissed. All I see is red when I get upset and words fail me unless I have some preloaded.
[edited for horrible grammar jfc i'm tired]