u/onecentauction

My post got removed from a lesbian subreddit for asking if I was still a lesbian.

Long story short: Posted on a specific lesbian subreddit the other week asking if I was a lesbian as I’m only attracted to women, not nonbinary/trans masc folk (or men for that matter). I also asked if there was a new term for wlw lesbians as it would be great if we could have a label that actually applies to that portion of the community if the community is so broad now, and most of the other subreddits somehow have cis women being a minority in who posts regularly.

I got about fifty hate comments, and then the post got taken down by mods. For the record - this was a genuine question at the time, I wasn’t trying to be a pot stirrer, and have since gone down the rabbit hole of finding the new definition of lesbianism is non men loving non men. As so much of the online community is being taken up by the non men rhetoric, it’s lovely to find a community where you guys seem to support women (and also trans women who fully identify as women) as lesbians.

Obviously I know trans women can be a bit of a controversial topic online as they make up of the majority of other online lesbian spaces but I personally would probably date a trans woman if they passed/had surgery if I was genuinely attracted to them, so I have no issues with them. I just want to date people who actually identify as women, not non men!

Love this community & very much the sort of lesbians I would find in real life.

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u/onecentauction — 2 days ago

Am I insane to be thinking of buying so young?

Context - 20 years old, graduated university. Run my own business earning 80k which is increasing regularly and a definite potential for earnings of 120k+ in the next year of so.

Living in Gold Coast at home, thinking of buying in Gold Coast or Brisbane (or between).

I have a 60k deposit saved up. It seems that every time I look at apartments (especially in Brisbane as there’s not as many 1 bedrooms available on the Gold Coast), prices have risen consistently, aka faster than I can save. Currently saving around $2.8k a month.

I’m concerned I’m not going to be able to find a partner to buy with in the future for a multitude of reasons (I’m gay, chances of finding someone same gender as me to marry in next few years is pretty low, let alone someone with a stable job & savings). I want to get into the property market before I get priced out, but my borrowing capacity is so low due to being on single income.

I’m worried about having an investment property, because then I just get to become another person pricing my generation out of the market. But 1 bedrooms here are 600k+.

Any advice?

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u/onecentauction — 2 months ago