u/onlineventilation

I feel super guilty even typing this and having these feelings but I’m starting to get upset. It’s always like a maybe for anything I invite him to because of the dogs. I always feel like the dogs come first. His mother is a nut job about the dogs and they live together. Literally causing him to not be able to pick me up from the airport because she was working that evening and “no one would be home to feed the dogs” even though he 100% would have been home to feed them at the time they normally eat.

I love him so much and we have talked about reasonable solutions for the future regarding puppy pads in the house, dog door, having someone stop in to let them out… but I just hate that almost every single plan you make has to consider the dogs.

We can be hanging out at my place for only like 4 hours… then hour 5 hits and he feels anxious that he has to get home to his dogs, even if his dad or mom or sibling are home. Sometimes it makes sense other times it just hurts. Sometimes his mom texts him that his one dog is at home waiting for him. The dog is healthy and likes everyone in the house and has other dogs to hang out with. I have never had a dog but I think this is overkill. My question is, does anyone have any experience with this type of thing? I feel like he is a homebody… his mother is anxious and her life revolves around the dogs which does not help. She has prevented him from picking me up from after a trip bc he had to be home to feed the dogs bc she was working but he 100% would have been home by the time he came back to feed them