My friends forgot my sweet 16
Hey, guys, this happened like a month ago, but I need to know if I had the right to feel sad or frustrated or if I need to reconsider my friendship with my friends (obviously, for me to say this later part means that there have been other instances that have made me feel this way, but to talk about those would making this post 30x longer.)
So, per the title, my friends (we're a group of 5 girls who became friends around the beginning of high school. I was personally friends with 2 of the girls before we got into a group,p and then we just all became friends) forgot my birthday when I turned 16. I was really busy in July (working 2 jobs + summer school), so it was a bit challenging to find a date to celebrate. For a bit of clarification about my jobs - they're summer jobs (however, you have the option to extend throughout the school year; they just renew your contract), and I have to reach a certain number of hours by the end of August. My shifts are such that I could only afford to miss one shift, which I had to because I got sick in early July. We decided on the 31st (of July) after one of my shifts, when I would be getting off work early. It would just be a cute dinner party since I wasn't able to coordinate a bigger party.
Anyway, on the 15th, none of them texted happy birthday, and only when I confronted them about it (because I'm not staying silent) about how that made me feel, only 2 of the girls out of 4 (since w/ me we're 5) did wish me a happy birthday. I think the part that really erks me the most is that they made a lame excuse for not wishing me a happy birthday when it's clear they forgot. One of the girls, "A" - which was oen of the girls I became friends with first as we met each other during my high school's admissions process and interview stage said - and I'm paraphrasing here: "I'm so sorry we forgot but if you were able to actually meet on July 12 then we would have probs remembered or like have celebrated and remembered" (something like that). I called her out, saying that a simple birthday text doesn't require having to hang out on a date I'm clearly not available for. The other friend, "B," did an exchange Francence for a new months prior (during the skl year), and her excuse was that "in France it's good luck to wish someone a happy birthday later" & apologized - which is a total bs excuse.
Fast forward to July 31st, when we celebrate & idk if I was just oversensitive about what happened, but they arrived at my dinner party late (like ~10 mins) and only let me know after I called them (no heads up). It seems like they hung out before @ a park and were taking transit to the restaurant. No problem with them hanging out since it's like our schedules don't perfectly align, but I feel like being late, considering that I just had a 7-hour shift after forgetting to wish me happy birthday, is pretty shitty - idk. So we celebrated; it was cute, took lots of photos, and I had a great time. Towards the end, we planned to get ice cream and open the gift they gave me. The gift isn't reflective of what I like as a perso,n a I like not asking me (we're planning a birthday for "B" right now as hers is in a few days and they asked her so it's uncommon - we do this every birthday) or even looking @ our Secret Santa wish list that we use every Christmas is also a bit shitty. Again, correct me if I'm overthinking this or being hyper-sensitive.
So I understand it was a long time ago, but this memory resurfaced, and I'm tearing up, but I wanted to get your guys' opinions on the matter.