u/ornate_orifice_

hi, i never had too much shame about being kinky and it became a part of my identity even.

but this year I've had some very old supressed memories surface and they reframe/explain what im into as a direct result of trauma and it discusts me now that *he* made me this way, that its a result of something horrible and not "just how i am".

i now struggle not triggering myself with my own fantasies and feel like all my kinks have been "spoiled" by the realisation.

i am in therapy but its slow work and i dont feel too comfortable talking about bdsm in there.

did any of you go thru your brain reframing your kinks like this?

have any of you managed to overcome this? if so, how?

Hi, is it normal in the community to have a discussion with your kids about nudism and ask them if they are okay with seeing you nude/ being nude themselves? or do you just rise your kids with it as the norm?

my father was abusive in a lot of different ways but also a nudist and im struggling to parse which of his behaviours were messed up and which could be excused as him being a nudist and I should respect his lifestyle.

I know that forcing me to participate despite my wishes was wrong but do i have the right to resent him for "exposing" himself to me daily if it was just a harmless lifestyle choice of his?

when you are walking around naked around your children, how close do you get to them? do you ever cuddle or sleep in the same bed while nude?

would any of you start undressing and changing clothes in your adult childrens house without asking first?

I'm trying to see whats normal in the community and what was inappropriate for him to do because i have no point of comparison really and it's eating at me...