PA/ How to protect myself as a SAHM during custody in case of breakup ?
his may be confusing & I apologize. I’m not at all educated on family law matters when it comes to this kind of situation.
I gave birth to a wonderful baby back in Feb. As of now, I am engaged to my child’s father, living together & currently NOT working.
He handles all finances but I do pay certain bills with what I have to contribute so it’s not all on him. usually whatever bill is smaller such as water/sewer etc.
Our home is in his name as passed down by relatives, and our 2 vehicles are also in his name.
currently I am making no income due to being a SAHM. I love being able to be here with my baby 24/7 but I worry about my savings dwindling away. I would like to mention my concerns here are because even before baby we would argue, nothing to where we would end the relationship but I just want to make sure I’m taking care of myself in the event that WOULD happen. I had state medicaid during the pregnancy & now currently no insurance. I’m NOT recieving anything from PA now as I feel that’s “using the system”. some may disagree but I don’t believe in taking things I don’t need. I always have enough groceries, a place over my head, all that I need and more. I’m just worried if something we’re to happen how this would effect my child. (mothers panic I guess) I don’t want to be considered homeless (can’t live with any of my family we have been NC for years due to abuse) with no money or transportation and they give my fiancee entire custody should that be the case.. I love my baby girl and while everything is going perfect I just panic sometimes when we have had arguements that should our relationship end I have nothing. 😭. It’s a worry in the back of my mind the state would take my baby from me & give him her with all his assets that he has while I have nothing to my name.
He takes care of us both really well, we live a great life this is just a WORRY ! I’m sure all SAHM have experienced something similar.
What should I be doing to take care of myself other than keep my savings?? I don’t ever go shopping or spend unnecessary money just in case my daughter may need anything. like I said he does all our finances I’m extremely grateful to live a life of luxury in those ways. just not sure how to proceed in making sure I have a leg to stand on should it ever come to that.
He is listed on all documents for paternity, emergency contact for her doctors and also has attended any & all appointments for her and me. I don’t want anything to ever happen between us, we are very much on the same page of staying together we would want her to have BOTH parents together at all times due to both having shitty parents.
just you never know I guess what the future holds an want to take care of what I need as her mother. thank you for all advice.