My baby is suffering and I'm stuck screaming underwater
First time father here and this is rough. My baby gets these very intense gas pains where he screams like he's set on fire. It's been since birth and a constant struggle. We're at 4 weeks right now and it's taking a toll on us. Before having a child I was adamant I wanted more than 3 kids now I'm struggling to think about having a second.
After feeds he requires me to burp him (getting gas out of his mouth and butt) for upwards of 45 minutes straight. He can get the odd burp or fart out but always needs an intensive burping. Otherwise he will squirm and cry so hard I've held him in an upright position and he was able to stand up straight with perfect posture. No one is listening not even my fiance. She sees how much I have to burp him and suffers the consequences if I don't.
She thinks he just needs to feed and watches videos where people say you should only burp your baby for 5 minutes. Then we all suffer the consequences for not burping him, especially him. We can't lay him down by himself, we can't put him in a car seat, and even when he's up he may still cry. I've had some people with kids witness his screaming and say that their kids have never made those sounds. You may think I'm exaggerating but I'm not. My fiance has admitted as much but hates me for some reason.
No one is listening to me. We go to pediatricians and lactation consultants and I explain what's going on but they always reduce it to "a little gassy" or some condescending bullshit instead of actually listening. They think because he isn't screaming crying like I say it's exaggerated but they didn't see the 30 minutes of burping and helping him pass gas that I did to get him there to be calm.
No one wants to listen and my fiance is being stubborn out of spite. This makes me not want to be involved and just focus on myself.