Unsure if I'm bisexual or a lesbian
This is my first time ever posting so sorry if it's odd or confusing. I (21f) am not sure if I'm a lesbian or possibly bisexual, obviously.
The thing is all the advice I see for trying to understand is coming from women who have identified as bisexual trying to know if they're a lesbian, but my issue is that I have identified as a lesbian for 5 years now, but I am starting to doubt that I might just be bisexual with a strong preference?
I sometimes will get flustered around slightly more feminine men, in the sense that they're still very clearly masculine and stuff, but are just also clearly in touch with their feminine side. Like a man who's not super macho, is in touch with his emotions, and cares for his appearance. I really feel repulsed by any kind of romance or sex with just like an average or typical guy, but more feminine men I could think about and really only feel repulsed if I imagine them acting like a macho strong man, or even like those "typical" men you hear people complain about. Like they make the I hate my girlfriend/wife jokes, or are just really incompetent.
But the other issue is that I am also chronically single, and I fear some of this potential attraction may just be desperation for intimacy? I wanted to post to this subreddit instead of a lesbian one because as bi women you would likely be able to tell if I might actually be bisexual or not.
I apologize if this was too long winded, or not the right content for this reddit, but I appreciate all potential replies!