What the title says. Also, she's probably straight. But she also gives mixed signals. She's so beautiful, she genuinely looks like how the sea waves look when sunlight falls on them in a random afternoon. Yeah whatever this feels like a humiliation ritual, idk how straight men or experienced gay women do this. I wanna throw myself into a wall
Huge TW for obvious reasons.
I read part of the Cornell Jane Doe’s voluntary statement, and in hindsight I shouldn’t have read it because it was obviously upsetting. I’d just seen so much triggering misinformation from the usual suspects I wanted to know Her Words if that makes sense 😅
She describes feeling safe initially because she thought two of the men were gay. Shes bisexual and was excited because they’d be part of the same community. Obviously they weren’t gay let alone safe. It’s horrifying. It feels like whenever theres a woman at the center of an international conversation about gbv and rape, it’s very often a bisexual woman (Amber, Meg, Angelina)And weirdly, that intersection is mostly called out by misogynists trying to find extra reasons to victim blame? (In my experience!)
Im familiar with the statistics too.
I’ve also experienced sexual assault multiple times and possibly (not sure tbh) within a relationship and definitely in a friendship. Of course I don’t blame my bisexuality, but I know being bisexual (and on the spectrum) made me an appealing target for abusive people. And sometimes my sexuality was explicitly targeted in sexual harassment (like being called cumsock and stuff like that by ehem other members of the community) At my lowest Im worried it’s gonna happen again? I can’t change my sexuality, and so much of my self expression was caused by being groomed by a bimisogynistic culture. What if I keep attracting unsafe people in the years it has taken and will take me to heal and cope? Realistically, I know there are safe people out there! I believe theres (single hehe) bisexual women out there who understand me without also being really traumatized 🫶 it’s just hard to feel hopeful or safe sometimes.
Much love to any other bisexual Jane Does, I believe you!
Baby gay here. Took me 25 years to realise I am bisexual. I have a very relaxed dressing, sometimes on the sporty side. I wear rings and stuff. Whenever I go out (i am currently in a city with some party culture etc), I see women AND GET SELF CONSCIOUS. I haven't had this feeling of getting so conscious in a while. I find myself attractive, I am cool and interesting as people say, but lately I feel like I am not attractive lmao.
I also dk how gay women work. Do they also just look at women and think 1) she's probably straight 2) I will just look at her and never talk to her, 3) she probably thinks you aren't attractive, 4)keep walking. Because THIS is what I keep doing. Even complimenting a woman feels creepy now, let alone flirting or approaching someone (because then again, what if she is straight?). Yeah I am losing my mind.
Following up to this post from awhile back: https://www.reddit.com/r/BiWomen/s/DxlQbxBwgC. Update: we confessed our feelings to each other last night (they were the brave one that confessed first) and now we're dating. What'dya know, y'all were right 🙂