Past fakeclaiming from family
Ok 2 start, this might have Mild vent elements but its generally lighthearted ranting, thought this sub would relate 2 the experience of this a little (this is one of those things that pisses us off sooo bad but also is super funny 2 us in an wtf way)
We kind of figured out about being a system around the "did epidemic" couple years ago, I think that was during lockdown? (We are traumagenic almost 20 billion % sure DID system)
We waited a while before talking 2 family about it, weren't fully sure at the time and mostly suspecting so we waited. We talked 2 our at the time therapist/counselor who wed been seeing since childhood weekly and when we brought it up she started with "I've never had experience with a patient with this, at least 2 my knowledge, but I'll look into it for you!" Originally started looking at OSDD. Blah blah she was like yeah I dont really know much about this but I can definitely see where youre coming from with symptoms lining up and all that. Basically I'm not qualified or educated but I believe you
So then we went 2 our parents!
"Mom me and my therapist think I might have a dissociative disorder" didn't mentioned cdds just dissociative disorders in general.
AND THIS ! UGH ! our mom responded with "theres only one [name] in there" ?hellooo????? The fact we didnt even say DID or OSDD yet and that was her response 😭
Anyway that shut us down for a while and I dony remember if it was after that or the 2nd attempt 2 bring it up that she brought over her friend with DID, she had pretty overt symptoms and was in her 40s I think?
Also shes so sweet we got along really well and got 2 color with littles from her system. but it felt like a "this is what that ACTUALLY" looks like and later they (parents) would bring her up during our further attempts 2 explain our symptoms as a "me and your dad would know actually because did is super obvious and you dont act like that!"
Um ok...
Plus over the multiple attempts 2 open up 2 them weve gotten the "did only forms from SEVERE trauma" response ...yeah thats not really hurtful at all ??
Now here's the super duper funny part (mostly sarcasm)
Either late 2024 or early 2025 we started a new psychiatrist (after many many over the years) and our mom was sitting with us for intake.
Our mom mentioned "he suspects he has DID and struggles with dissociation a lot"
And our at the time psychiatrist says "well DID would also include identity alteration, part of the disorder."
And we went "yeah I have that actually"
AND AND ! Our mom turns 2 us and says "you didnt tell me about that?"
......................um..............................?
ITS IN THE NAME??? ITS IN THE NAME. DISSOCIATIVE IDENTITY DISORDER?
IT COMES FREE WITH YOUR FUCKING XBOX /REF
Anyway that was devastating because there we just got given proof that our family didnt think we actually did any research beyond tiktok and a Google search because OBVIOUSLY we have identity alteration, it COMES WITH THE DISORDER!!!!
Every time I tell that story I end up going "of course you have uno dipshit it comes with your fucking xbox"
Our partner believes us thoguh and she loves all of our headmates (even the evil ones /j/silly)
But this is just like, ok you didnt believe us about the really traumatic disorder we are experiencing every symtpom of so how are you gonna react when we say "hey mom im suspecting I have NPD"
Can't wait for that conversation...../sar/silly
Kind of venty part
Weve been struggling 2 tell pretty much anyone since being shut down so many times by our own family and past friends that only now after over a year of seeing our current therapist weve gotten anywhere CLOSE 2 opening up about it besides saying we suspected it a couple times but we get like physically blocked from talking by other headmates now :'3 , very dramatic sigh
Anyway thanks for reading i hope this is allowed on the sub please like and subscribe for more epic rants /joke